AITAH for temporarily banning my parents from seeing their grankids?

A dad arranged a rare weekend getaway with his wife, trusting his close parents to babysit their 1- and 3-year-old kids – including the older one’s severe nut allergy everyone knew about. But the grandparents deliberately gave the child peanut butter as a “special treat,” claiming “a little bit won’t hurt” – triggering anaphylaxis, an ER trip, and ambulance ride.

Worse, they showed no remorse, abandoned the kids post-incident, and scolded him for ingratitude over missing a game. Furious and protective, he imposed a temporary ban on visits, skipping Christmas plans – questioning if he’s overreacting despite the life-threatening risk and lack of accountability.

‘AITAH for temporarily banning my parents from seeing their grankids?’

The trusting arrangement turned nightmare when the allergy was blatantly ignored:

The crisis unfolded mid-getaway:

Confrontation revealed shocking dismissal:

Resolution leaned toward distance:

Deliberately exposing a child to a known severe allergen isn’t negligence – it’s reckless endangerment bordering assault. Dismissing it as “no problem” while prioritizing a game reveals entitlement and lack of empathy, classic red flags for unsafe caregivers.

Child safety experts stress: One violation with no remorse justifies indefinite supervision or no contact – allergies don’t allow “tests.” Ban isn’t punishment; it’s protection until genuine understanding/accountability (rare without consequences).

Co-parenting post-incident requires therapy or classes on allergies if contact resumes. Document everything for potential legal leverage if patterns continue. Prioritize kids’ physical/emotional security – guilt over family ties can’t override near-fatal risks.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Overwhelming NTA, urging permanent consequences and viewing actions as deliberate/reckless:

Strong calls for no contact and legal steps:

Unanimous NTA – deliberate allergy exposure with zero remorse justifies strong boundaries, many urging permanent over temporary.

Protecting kids from reckless grandparents isn’t overreaction – it’s parenting. Would you demand allergy training/apology before any contact, or go permanent no-contact? Ever faced family denying serious medical risks?