AITAH for asking my wife to stop telling my daughter her favorite bedtime story of the two princes?

A simple bedtime routine has turned into an emotional minefield for one family. Years ago, this dad created a whimsical story about two princes who fell in love — inspired by his first boyfriend. At the time, it felt harmless, even sweet. His young daughter adored it.

But now, seven years into his marriage, the story hits differently. His wife tells it every night because their daughter asks for it — and then quietly cries once the lights are out. When he suggested retiring the story, she refused. What followed wasn’t shouting, but something heavier: hurt, guilt, and a child caught in the middle.

AITAH for asking my wife to stop telling my daughter her favorite bedtime story of the two princes?

It all began as an innocent piece of imagination

My wife W and I have been married for 7 years and we have a 6 year old daughter together. My daughter’s favorite bedtime story is a story I made...

It’s a fictionalized kiddy version of the love story of me and my first boyfriend. I regret making up the story.

Over time, the bedtime ritual became emotionally loaded

My wife handles the bedtime routine now. I found out my daughter still loves that story and asks her to recite it every night. My wife tells her the story,...

Every night. It makes her miserable. I asked her to stop telling our daughter the story. She refused m, saying it’s our daughter’s favorite story and she wasn’t going to...

But the tension didn’t stay private for long

I told her it makes her depressed and miserable every time. My daughter came down and saw us arguing about it. We weren’t shouting or yelling but she saw her...

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Now my daughter feels guilty because she found out her mom cries after telling the story. My wife says that parenthood is sacrifice and she doesn’t want to take anything...

This conflict runs far deeper than a bedtime story. On the surface, it’s about protecting a child’s favorite ritual. Beneath that, it may be about unresolved grief, insecurity, and emotional wounds that were never fully addressed.

When one partner repeatedly relives a story rooted in their spouse’s past love, especially if that past relationship is still emotionally charged, it can reopen feelings of comparison or inadequacy. According to Dr. John Gottman of The Gottman Institute, “Partners need to feel like they are each other’s chosen person.” When that sense of security wavers, even small triggers can feel overwhelming.

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There’s also the matter of modeling emotional health for a child. Kids are perceptive. Watching a parent cry every night after a story linked to the other parent’s ex can create confusion and guilt. Protecting a child’s “magic” is important, but so is protecting the emotional stability of the home.

Practical steps could include the father taking over bedtime, rewriting the story to reflect his current marriage, or creating new stories that celebrate different kinds of love. Therapy might also help the couple unpack lingering emotions about past relationships. A bedtime story should bring comfort, not quiet heartbreak.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Many commenters were blunt, questioning why the story existed at all

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duhhvinci − YTA for making it a story in the first place, Why is a past relationship being made a story out of? Do you think it would be normal...

Any_Brief_4847 − YTA like wtf is wrong with you? Who tf tells their kid this? She wanted a sad love story? Tell her the plot of any sad movie then...

Maleficent-Poet-622 − YTA. Why would you tell your child you share WITH YOUR WIFE a story about you and an ex, AT ALL? ???? How utterly f*cking inappropriate… Why would...

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and your relationship with him in any form be welcome to seep into the home and family that you share with YOUR WIFE? ? No wonder she cries herself to...

Important-Poem-9747 − Based on your comments, YTA for pretending like everything is fine in your home. It’s a crumbling hot mess. Your wife is emotionally harming herself to make your...

You married your wife because she got pregnant, who you were only dating because you were on a “break” with someone who is your Great Love.

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After SEVEN years of marriage, you still consider the other dude the love of your life… and you made up a story that glorifies The Love and told it to...

opensilkrobe − It blows my mind that you just want her to stop crying but you’re not willing to do a g__damn thing to make her feel cherished or loved.

Not therapy, not writing a new story people are giving you suggestions and you’re shootings down everything. I’m so incredibly sad for your wife. She really doesn’t have anybody who...

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Others offered more solution-focused suggestions

Medical_Gate_5721 − "You can not sacrifice the most important person in our daughter's life to make our daughter happy. You can not sacrifice the love of my life to make...

You are the love of my life. You are our favorite person. You're the one. Stop telling that story. It's lame. " And then make up a short, fictionalized story...

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and your wife to tell your daughter. And then make up funny stories about the baby princess. And then make up adventure stories about the big girl princess.

Zealousideal_Bag2493 − Sir. Why have you not told a new story about a prince who lost his first prince love but found true happiness with his princess

and their extra beautiful child? Your wife needs to hear that story. You need to be telling your wife that story if it’s true.

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ThisReport877 − Sounds like you should handle the bedtime routine, then. Or make up a new story your daughter can love. Perhaps one of you and YOUR WIFE? ??

gpolk − Seems a sensible suggestion to me. Why does it make your wife so upset though? Is it a particularly heartbreaking story or is there something about your previous...

Angelou898 − This story makes it sound a lot like you never got over your ex and your wife knows it, hearing an only-romanticized story of it that she’s now...

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Why don’t you make up multiple stories, including one about two princesses and one about a prince and a princess, get yourself involved in the bedtime process again,

and emphasize that the prince & princess one is your personal favourite because it’s based on you and your wife. I don’t blame your wife for her pain,

because the narrative you’ve been telling her all along is that you’re still in love with your ex. If you are, then you need to deal with that appropriately.

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If you’re not… I’d be asking some questions about how and why this story is still so important to you that you told it to your child of a new...

As a queer person myself, I love the idea of your kid growing up with lots of versions of love stories. It’s just that she’s only hearing one right now,...

And a few simply expressed disbelief

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BeardManMichael − Tell different stories. Ones that don't upset anyone. Your daughter will likely have many favorite stories given enough time. Repairing things with your wife is the priority here....

[Reddit User] − What a dumbass story to tell a kid

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tinaescobar228 − I’m confused you made the story up but you’re now upset your wife is still telling it? Why did you even make this story up to begin with?

floralstamps − Yta for even making this a problem

[Reddit User] − Wait you told a sad love story to your DD about how you and your ex BF broke up because he was poly and wanted to be...

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A bedtime story is supposed to soothe, not sting. In this case, what once felt like a creative expression may now symbolize something much heavier inside the marriage. Protecting a child’s happiness matters deeply — but so does protecting the emotional well-being of the partner who shares your life. If you were in this situation, would you retire the story, rewrite it, or confront the feelings behind it?

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