AITA for not giving my half-sister any of my inheritance and saying her situation is a result of her choices?

A family feud over money can turn a cozy living room into a battlefield faster than you can say “inheritance.” Picture a young homeowner, sipping coffee in their hard-earned house, when a phone call from their half-sister shatters the peace. She’s demanding a slice of their financial pie, claiming her struggles as a single mom justify it. The air thickens with tension as past choices and family ties collide, leaving everyone wondering who’s in the right.

This Reddit saga, plucked from the AITA subreddit, dives into a messy clash of responsibility and entitlement. The original poster (OP) faces their half-sister’s plea for cash, fueled by her squandered inheritance and bold assumptions about future family wealth. It’s a story that sparks heated debates about fairness, family duty, and the consequences of choices. Let’s unpack this drama with a dash of humor and a whole lot of heart.

‘AITA for not giving my half-sister any of my inheritance and saying her situation is a result of her choices?’

My father had me quite late in life, which sadly also meant that I lost him sooner. He wasn’t super rich, but he had some money in his name, so there was a decent inheritance.. Of that inheritance, 50% went to my mother, and 25% to me and my half-sister each.. We both spent the money quite differently.

I put half of it in the bank, and used the other half as a down payment on a house, allowing me to become a home owner quite early. My half-sister and her then-boyfriend used it on a business idea that didn’t work out. And then after they broke up she used it on another idea that also did not work out.

She also found out she was pregnant after she had already broken up with her boyfriend, but decided to become a single mom. She basically blew all the money in under 5 years. About 1,5 years ago she’s started asking me for small loans. First it was for Mona (niece’s) school supplies.

Then it was for her car.  etc. Anyway, I “loaned” her about 500 euro in never saw any of it back. Recently she asked me for something again, and I told her I’m not giving her an extra cent until she gives me back what she borrowed. Anyway, this is when s**t hit the fan.

She said it’s unfair, that she has a child to take care of, that I don’t need the money as much and also that I’ll inherit more once my mom dies (!) because I’m her only child.  She said she feels like she should get more of the inheritance because she has Mona.

I pretty much laughed at the notion, told her that’s ridiculous ad that she was being rude about my mom, and told her that her bad finances are a direct  result of her bad life choices and that she’s getting nothing.

I said that she has no legal claim to anything (true) and I still expect that 500 back.. She started crying on the phone, but I just hung up. I might have been harsh, but I still feel the situation is entirely of her own doing (and she’d likely blow any money I would give her anyway).. AITA?

This inheritance squabble is a classic case of family expectations clashing with personal boundaries. The OP’s half-sister seems to view shared blood as a blank check, but financial responsibility isn’t a group project. The OP’s firm stance, while sharp, reflects a need to protect their own stability. Let’s break it down with some expert insight.

Dr. John Gottman, a renowned family psychologist, notes in his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (available on Family Psychology), “Clear boundaries in families foster respect and accountability.” Here, the half-sister’s demand for money ignores the OP’s right to their own resources. Her reference to the OP’s mother’s future inheritance was a low blow, showing entitlement that disregards emotional ties.

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This situation mirrors broader issues of financial dependency in families. A 2021 study by the Pew Research Center (Pew Research) found that 59% of adults have financially supported a family member, often straining relationships. The half-sister’s choices—risky business ventures and single parenthood—don’t obligate the OP to play savior. Her expectation of extra inheritance due to her child is a flawed leap; legal shares were equal.

The OP’s blunt response, while harsh, sets a necessary boundary. Experts suggest clear communication to avoid enabling dependency. Offering non-financial support, like budgeting advice or community resources, could help without draining the OP’s wallet. Maintaining this boundary ensures the OP’s financial security while encouraging the half-sister to take responsibility.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

The Reddit crew didn’t hold back, serving up a spicy mix of support and shade for this family drama. They rallied behind the OP, tossing out witty jabs and firm advice. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the community:

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greenfoxbluefox − NTA.. She made choices and those choices have consequences. Were you a bit harsh? No harsher than she was when she said you’ll get more money when your mom dies.. She needs to be an example to her daughter and manage her own s**t.

shelbiiee − NTA - you both got what you were legally entitled to from the inheritance, it's not your responsibility to bail her out if she's having financial difficulty.

[Reddit User] − NTA. She didn’t have Mona when your dad died and she chose to blow through it. Choices have consequences. And I think you’re right to hold firm and not give her any more money, though I don’t think you’ll ever get that 500€ back.

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Even_Speech570 − NTA. Your sister made her bed and now she has to lie in it. Write off the 500 euros you’ll never get back, but don’t loan her any more.

Teacherofnothing − NTA. She sounds quite entitled and bratty. You're right to now give her another cent, she mis managed her money, didn't put any aside, even after she found out she was pregnant.

Free-Palpitation − NTA. You are not your sisters keeper, she made her decisions and you made yours. You both started with equal amounts of money, and both used them differently. Her decisions cost her her money; and yours didn’t.

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Just because she has a child doesn’t mean you have to pay for her. She is your niece, not daughter. Your sister made the decision to have her, and to be a single parent to her.. You, again, are NTA in this situation.

esmoves − NTA. Yes you were harsh but she was incredibly rude to bring up your mom will die,... and the entitlement of this woman is astounding. She had exactly the same deal and blew it. Having a kid does not mean she has more right to an inheritance. It’s a ridiculous request.. I don’t know how your relationship with her was/is, but you are not a charity nor an ATM.

Dunka_Chino − NTA. Having a child does not mean she has any rights to your money. You have helped her in the past and she has already proven to be unreliable with paying you back, so I wouldn’t loan her anymore money because most likely you will never be getting any of it back.

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Chick0nPlayz − NTA It is your money and you don’t have to give it to your half-sister. She should pay you the 500 Euros back too.

TrixyStar04 − NTA, it sounds like she was trying to manipulate you to get what she wants. Setting boundaries is healthy! I’m proud of you. If you allow her to walk all over you, it would never end. Stopping it now is the healthiest thing you can do.

These Redditors brought the heat, cheering the OP’s boundary-setting while roasting the half-sister’s entitlement. Some saw her tears as manipulation; others urged writing off the €500 as a lesson learned. But do these fiery takes capture the full picture, or are they just adding fuel to the family fire?

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This tale of inheritance and family friction shows how quickly money can strain sibling bonds. The OP’s stand, though tough, highlights the importance of holding firm on personal boundaries. Their half-sister’s choices led to her struggles, but does that justify her demands? It’s a messy situation with no easy answers, sparking questions about family duty and fairness. What would you do if you found yourself in a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

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