WIBTA if i told my roommates that the others and i will not be signing the roommate release form?

A 22-year-old woman shares a house with five roommates on a tight budget, where rent consumes half her paycheck. Two roommates, recently married, revealed plans to move into a townhouse mid-July, leaving two months on the shared lease. They requested a roommate release form to exit early without liability, but she and the others hesitate due to the $1,600 shortfall in rent alone, plus potential loss of deposit from past damages.

Frustrated by persistent badgering and feeling the move is unfair after renewing together, she contemplates firmly declining, backed by her mother (a co-signer) and remaining roommates. This dilemma highlights the tensions when shared leases meet changing life plans.

‘WIBTA if i told my roommates that the others and i will not be signing the roommate release form?’

Living paycheck-to-paycheck with six roommates has kept the house affordable for years.

I (22f) live in a rental house with 5 other roommates. This is i believe the 3rd year we have been here and our lease expires again towards the end...

For context (of it wasn't obvious enough from the amount of roommates), none of us make a lot of money. My portion of rent is about half of my paycheck,

and there have been times where other roommates have struggled to get their full amount on rent paid. We are essentially a paycheck to paycheck household.

The married couple’s announcement shifted dynamics without addressing impacts.

2 of our roommates, T(f) and M(m), got married a few months ago, and about a couple weeks ago, they announced to the rest of us that they would be...

It was obvious that they wanted it to be some big announcement where they get congratulations, but you could practically hear crickets when they said it.

Myself and my 3 other roommates just kind of offhandedly congratulated them but we were all obviously wondering what that would mean for rent. A few days later they tell...

and that they've gone to our rental company to request a roommate release form for us to sign. My name is the first on the list for a signature, and...

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Refusal stems from financial risks, past issues, and perceived unfairness.

Thing is i don't want to sign it. 1. The contract pretty much releases them from any liabilities like damages to the property (which i know in our first year...

among with some other damages. We definitely aren't getting the deposit back) 2. If they leave mid july, that leaves 2 more months for the rest of us on lease...

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In total for those 2 months, we will be missing $1,600 from their portion. That's just the rent itself, no utilities. 3. I may just be spiteful, but if you...

you should be required to either stay the full term, or pay out the lease for breaking it. It feels like such a trap for them to have signed to...

just to try to leave the rest of us hanging instead of sticking it out the last TWO month's of the lease. 4. My mother's name is on the lease...

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She's the only reason we've been able to stay in this house for 3 years after my exbf fucked me and my roommates over with our last housing situation.

My mother also believes they should have to stick out the lease. Honestly i don't even care about the utilities payments if they aren't going to be here, i just...

M and T have been harassing me to sign the papers and i don't want to be confrontational and tell them no so I've been just kinda shoving them off.

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Today they left a sticky note on my door saying to sign the paper and I'm getting pretty fed up with the badgering like they weren't the ones who are...

I want to tell them, 'i will not be signing the roommate release form, and even if you badger me to sign it until i cave, our roommates and my...

It is not fair to the rest of us for yall to break lease early' Would i be the asshole? I understand that they are most likely doing it because...

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but that shouldn't be the rest of the 4 of us problem, and we should not have to increase our rent because they decided not to wait 2 more months...

and the rest of us staying should not be punished for that. After the lease is up the 4 of us staying will be looking for other homes because that...

so the rest of us will also have to work out our finances for moving after september and that would be much easier if the rest of us dont get...

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This scenario reveals common pitfalls in group leases, where one party’s life changes can burden others financially. What makes the story more complicated is the couple’s timing—renewing the lease then planning an early exit, potentially due to overlapping costs, yet expecting release without compensation. Refusing the form protects the group from higher shares and liability shifts, as joint leases often hold all responsible until end.

Her mother’s co-signer status adds weight, risking broader fallout. Some might see withholding as punitive, suggesting negotiation for partial payment. However, voluntary forms exist precisely for such protections.

Broader societal trends show young adults navigating shared housing amid rising costs, where poor planning by one affects all. Holding firm enforces accountability, encouraging better communication upfront, though it strains house dynamics short-term.

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These are the responses from Reddit users:

Many users encouraged standing firm, viewing the request as unfair burden-shifting.

rocketmn69_ − They signed a lease knowing the end date. Leaving two months early without covering their portion is unfair to everyone else. You’re not obligated to financially subsidize their...

SamiHami24 − A roommate release form is voluntary for a reason. If signing it puts you at financial risk, you’re well within your rights to refuse.

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blueavole − I understand why they want out, but wanting something doesn’t mean others should pay for it. They need to either pay their share or find replacements approved by...

queenofsiam666 − If they couldn’t afford overlap rent, they shouldn’t have planned a move before the lease ended. That’s poor planning on their part, not cruelty on yours.

BreadfruitForeign437 − They’re framing this like you’re being mean, but in reality they’re asking four people to absorb $1,600 so they can leave early. That’s not reasonable.

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A few urged direct communication while acknowledging the couple’s obligations.

ohfucknotthisagain − Stop dodging them and say no directly. The badgering won’t stop until you draw a firm boundary.

EggplantIll4927 − They suck for trying to leave early without paying, but you should have addressed this head-on instead of delaying. This situation escalated because no one communicated early.

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mcmurrml − Stand your ground. If they want out early, they should negotiate with the landlord or pay the remaining rent—not pressure roommates into signing away protection.

Others highlighted consequences and added perspectives on responsibility.

[Reddit User] − Marriage and moving to a townhouse doesn’t magically erase contractual obligations. Adult decisions come with adult consequences.

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[Reddit User] − The fact that your mom is also on the lease makes this even more serious. You’d be risking her financial liability too, not just yours.

The woman and remaining roommates face real hardship from the early departure, justifying refusal of the release form to uphold shared responsibility until lease end. The couple’s choice carries consequences they planned poorly for.

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How have you navigated roommate lease breaks—did you release early or hold firm? What’s the best way to handle badgering in shared living? Share your housing horror stories or tips below!

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