WIBTA if I removed a friend and his girlfriend from dining reservations at Disneyland?

Planning a group trip to Disneyland should be all magic and excitement, right? Wrong for one organizer dealing with a friend who dodges every direct message about dining reservations. This person keeps ignoring texts and calls meant to confirm attendance, yet pops up happily in the group chat. Frustrated and facing real cancellation fees, the planner is ready to remove the couple entirely.

The stakes are high with $10 per person no-show charges and a policy that won’t seat the group if anyone’s missing. This social media tale highlights the annoyance of flaky friends and the relief of setting boundaries. Community reactions poured in, mixing tough love with practical tips.

'WIBTA if I removed a friend and his girlfriend from dining reservations at Disneyland?'

The whole adventure kicked off with pure enthusiasm—everyone buzzing about character meals and fireworks.

I have a friend who keeps dodging my text messages when I try to confirm plans with them but then they happily message the group chat we’re all in. Or...

What began as casual check-ins turned into a frustrating loop of silence.

At this point, I’m getting frustrated and ready to just take them out of the reservation for the restaurants we’re going to because of the cancellation fees.

If they don’t make it I get charged $10 per person and the restaurant's policy states everyone must be there or we won’t get seated. So I could be charged...

When the group hangs out, this friend is absolutely the one keeping everyone laughing and on track.

I don’t really want to take that risk on someone who is a grown adult and can’t communicate so am I being an a__hole? I know it’s just money but...

This person is a good friend when we do hang out in person, but I can’t seem to really rely on them because they can’t even communicate. Yet they can...

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Despite giving them weeks of leeway, nothing changed.

I have tried to be patient and give them weeks to get back to me but no luck. So should I just take them off the reservations because I’m not...

Inspired by the feedback, a last-chance message went out.

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*Update* After listening to every ones comments I decided to send one last text message! I gave them a deadline to respond too and if they don't then they are...

The response only confirmed the decision.

*update again* They read my message, ignored it, then I called them the following morning because I really wanted to give them grace. They said ONE MIN in a text...

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claiming oops it was on caps lock and proceeded to tell me they read my message and that they apparently now have a court date they have to move around....

I don’t feel like waiting around on them and contacting them anymore just to see if they can make it because of a court date. I told them I don’t...

By taking them off the reservation we can just go about our day and not stress about this anymore. At this point now they can either show up or not...

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This planner’s frustration is totally relatable—dealing with someone who chats with everyone else but ignores you directly. The friend and girlfriend’s behavior shows a clear lack of respect for the effort put into organizing. In group trips, one person often handles the logistics, and ghosting them risks the whole experience for others. Relationship expert Dr. John Gottman notes, “Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts”.

Here, the small act of replying to a text could have kept things smooth. Instead, dodging creates resentment and erodes trust over time. A smart move is setting clear deadlines, like the planner did with that final message. This protects your wallet and peace of mind. If friends value the plans, they’ll step up; if not, it’s a sign to rethink the dynamic. Compromise could mean letting them make their own reservations if they show up last-minute, avoiding any tied commitments.

Broader lessons include prioritizing reliable people for shared adventures. Trips are about fun, not chasing confirmations. The planner’s choice to cut ties for future plans shows healthy boundaries in action.

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Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Plenty of users sided firmly with the planner, calling out the disrespect.

NewPower_Soul − NTA. You're being disrespected. . they're not your friend. Ditch them.

Adorable_Click9074 − NTA. Just send them a text telling them that, since you have not heard from them, you are taking them off of the reservation. "I know it’s just...

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Plus, $60 is a lot of money. "This person is a good friend when we do hang out in person." You mean they put up a good act. These people...

Balanced takes suggested one final warning.

Alycion − Text one more time. Say if I don’t get confirmation by X time tonight, I will be removing you from the reservation. Send it in group chat too....

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And if you do cancel and they try to start drama, you can say well you saw I asked everyone first. Include the reasoning that the entire group won’t be...

AmazonSeller2016 − YWNBTA if you send one more text saying you're taking them off if you don't hear back in 24 hours.

For humor to lighten the mood, users kept it witty.

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spaceylaceygirl − You need to text him " if i don't hear from you by 12 noon tomorrow i'm canceling your reservation. I refuse to get stuck with the no...

Stock-Shake3915 − I would send group text saying thank you all who responded; the reservation is confirmed, and we hope to meet up with X later You would never get...

if they say they now want to join they make their own and we can ask for tables to be put together. My new mantra is I am too old...

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Some other comments from readers.

GarfieldEnjoyr − You are being somewhat passive about this, at least that is my impression, maybe this is just a reoccurring thing. You ought to tell him, "Hey, I am...

because it is going to cost me money and potentially lead to none of us being seated if you don't show. I need your response ASAP. " Be transparent and...

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and if he can't get over it then what kind of friend is he? If you were to take them off the reservation simply out of frustration and without telling...

ButtPudding1218 − Send a text to both the group chat and personally and set a date that you need to know by. Tell them Disney needs a final headcount by...

Grymflyk − NTA. They seem to have some issue with you personally. Don't bother with them, if they want to go, they can make their own reservations,

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I wouldn't even contact them to let them know that you aren't making reserves for them. If they can't be bothered to talk to you about it, extend them the...

Shoesietart − Yes, take them off the reservation. Let them make their own arrangements since they can't confirm.

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LiraelNix − NTA send them a last text saying if they don't reply in a day, you're taking them off the reservation. And then do it

fIumpf − NTA. Send a generic “check in” text to the group chat to confirm. If everyone confirms and shows up, great. If everyone confirms and some people don’t show,...

SnooSprouts6437 − YWNBTA. It's plain rude that they can't communicate with you.

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Traditional_Koala216 − Cancel the reservation, if they were interested they would have responded to you already.

Such-Problem-4725 − I would text him that you’re taking him off of the reservation due to no response and cancellation fees. Save your text and response in case this is...

In the end, the planner dodged extra fees and stress by removing the flaky couple after ignored warnings. The friend’s court date excuse came too late, proving the point about unreliability. It’s a reminder that true friends show up—in person and in texts. Would you give one more chance or cut them loose sooner?

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