WIBTA if I didn’t let the previous owners visit my adopted puppy?

A new dog owner shared a dilemma on a social network after adopting a young Golden Retriever puppy from a group of college students. The puppy was only ten weeks old when she was rehomed, and the adoption happened quickly after the students posted an online listing. At the time, the new owner simply hoped the dog would adjust well to life with their family and their other pet. Within the first week, however, the situation became far more complicated.

A veterinary visit revealed several health concerns, including parasites and an infection, which raised serious questions about how the puppy had been cared for before the adoption. While the new family immediately began treatment and improved the dog’s diet, an unexpected message soon arrived. One of the former owners started repeatedly asking to visit the puppy, leaving the new owner wondering whether allowing that visit would create unnecessary stress—or even risk losing the dog they had already grown to love.

‘WIBTA if I didn’t let the previous owners visit my adopted puppy?’

The poster begins by explaining how they adopted the puppy and why the situation worried them.

The background information is that I adopted a 10 week Golden retriever pup from a bunch of college students who tried to keep her vegetarian,

and fed her basically nothing but bread (which is really bad for dogs, especially in high quantities). They put an ad on kijiji, and on the same day, we adopted...

When I asked if they'd be willing to take her back if my other dog was too aggressive (which he wasn't, thankfully), they responded that they didn't care if he...

Soon after bringing the puppy home, the family discovered several health issues.

Now we found out that she also has round worms and giardia (an infection). We're willing to pay whatever to help her, but we're in shock that we discovered this...

The problem escalated when one of the previous owners began asking to see the dog again.

One of the previous owners was away the week she left, and hes now spamming me, asking to see her. Its clear that he loved her, but I'm really scared...

My other dog, my family, and I love her so much already. She's much healthier now that shes eating meat. WIBTA for not wanting to let him meet up with...

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Pet adoption can sometimes involve unexpected complications, especially when animals are rehomed quickly or without formal agreements. In many cases, once ownership has legally transferred, the new family becomes fully responsible for the animal’s care and wellbeing. That includes decisions about who can interact with the pet moving forward.

Situations like this can be emotionally complicated because former owners may still feel attached to the animal. However, emotional attachment does not necessarily override the responsibilities that come with proper care. If a pet was previously neglected or improperly cared for, the new owner may reasonably prioritize the animal’s stability and recovery over maintaining contact with previous caretakers.

From a broader perspective, the primary concern in any adoption situation should always be the wellbeing of the animal. Stability, proper nutrition, medical treatment, and a consistent environment are essential for young animals, especially puppies dealing with illness. While maintaining communication with previous owners can sometimes work in positive circumstances, it is equally valid for new owners to set boundaries if they believe contact could cause stress or conflict.

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Here’s what people had to say to OP:

Many users strongly supported the poster and emphasized protecting the puppy.

[Reddit User] − NTA he treated the dog like s__t and NOW he loves her? dont let him near your dog

emanresuelbaliavayna − NTA. I would just say, "I'm sorry but the adoption is done and she is our dog. We have no interest in any further contact.

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Our primary concern now is working on her health and the multiple serious illnesses she had when we adopted her. "

It's great that he's fond of her, but that certainly didn't help her when he and his roommates were neglecting her and damaging her health.

This is your dog now, not his. If he wanted her, he should have taken care of her, and he doesn't get to harass you now because he failed to...

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TheMorrigan_13 − NTA. They no longer have any claim on that poor pup. “Sorry you miss her, but I’m very busy right now trying to fix the health problems caused...

I think it’s in the dog’s best interest that you not come over. ” Then block their numbers.

Thrwforksandknives − NTA because it's clear that they neglected their dog. However if this guy was gone when they gave her away, then I'd block him because he might become...

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wheezy_runner − NTA. They treated that dog like s__t, and now they want to see her again? No way. They'll probably try to guilt you into giving her back. Keep...

Some commenters discussed practical steps and potential concerns.

aitathrowwwwwwwww − OMG NTA. Report those disgusting people to authorities for animal cruelty and never let them near you or your dogs again! Thankyou for saving that poor pupper. Now...

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Bangbangsmashsmash − NTA, write back and tell him, “on our first trip to the vet, we found that our dog had x,y,z, and also that feeding a dog almost exclusively...

I would prefer you not see the dog again as in the 3 weeks you had her, you nearly caused her death in a multitude of avoidable ways.

Please be more responsible in the future if you decide to get a dog, and make sure you can afford vet care and a proper diet of dog food. Do...

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A couple of lighter comments added appreciation for rescuing the puppy.

drewalex − NTA You owe them nothing. Block then if you need to.

ArashiReborn − NTA. The pup was neglected and Giardia is an absolute pain to get rid of. If you are in a soft hearted mood,

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send them a picture of the dog and tell them to disinfect the house since humans can get the parasite too. Take steps lay a paperwork trail that you own...

Cassinderella − NTA. You don’t owe them anything. Don’t let them near that dog.

This story highlights how quickly emotions can become complicated when a pet changes homes. The new owner clearly wants to protect the puppy and provide proper care after discovering serious health problems. At the same time, a former caretaker’s sudden interest has created uncertainty about how much contact should be allowed.

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Adoption situations often raise questions about responsibility and boundaries. Should former owners be allowed to visit a pet after giving it away, especially if there were concerns about its care? And when a new family is focused on helping an animal recover, what responsibilities—if any—do they still have toward previous caretakers?

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