WIBTA for building a fence along my driveway so my neighbors stop using it?

A man’s driveway became a battleground when neighbors and their tenants repeatedly used it without permission, escalating tensions after his brother’s passing. Fed up, he considered a fence to reclaim his space—until a survey and dialogue led to a peaceful rock boundary instead.

This Reddit tale paves the way for a discussion on property rights and neighborly courtesy. Would the fence have been too much, or was it a justified stand? Let’s navigate this driveway drama.

‘WIBTA for building a fence along my driveway so my neighbors stop using it?’

I (35m) have a driveway that goes along one side of my house to the backyard. A couple years ago my neighbors built a basement access and started renting the space out to tenants. The access is alongside my driveway and past it there is enough room for two vehicles to park, one in front of the other so that they block in one vehicle.

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Since they intentionally block in one vehicle the tenants decided my driveway is fair use anytime they need to pull in/out of their parking spot. While this initially irritated me since they did not ask permission I eventually spoke to the vehicle owner and got them to agree to cleaning up any mud they track across it and not compact snow before I've had a chance to shovel it.

I've never been happy that they use it but so long as they are not creating a mess I have to clean up it's negligible plus it seems impossible to monitor my driveway every day and try to file a report against the constant use. Recently (3 months now) my brother (36m) who was living with me passed away.

It was an extremely difficult week emotionally. Thankfully all my family made the trip to my state to help me sort through everything and made sure I was not alone during the subsequent weeks. Several days after his passing I came home from picking up family from the airport and the neighbors jeep was parked right in the middle of my driveway.

I was completely livid. I knocked on the tenants and neighbors door with no answer. I was literally looking up the number for parking enforcement when the neighbors whole household came out to meet me; about 5-6 adults between the home owner and tenants.

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They explained that they were moving their boat and figured they would only be occupying the space for a short time. I told them in no uncertain terms that they were not allowed to block my driveway for any reason especially when I had so much family driving in from other states for the funeral.

Before I'm asked there is more than enough free parking on the street they could have easily parked in front of either house or across the street. Last week the same tenants were in the process of moving out and again decided to park diagonally across my driveway so they could more easily move a mattress into their vehicle.

This was really only an issue because my new room mates needed to grab medicine for their kid and were blocked in. I went out, told them they have to move and if they need to use my driveway they have to ASK FOR PERMISSION! I am tired of this constant battle for something I think should be common sense/courtesy.

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I am at the point where I will gladly pay a surveyor to come out, mark the property line then build a 1ft high spite fence along the driveway space. WIBTA for doing this? Knowing about where the line is I would be taking back about a foot of space they use for parking regularly along with intentionally creating an inconvenience for them. The home owner is aware of the situation but does not care.. 

Property disputes often stem from unclear boundaries and poor communication, and this case is no exception. The neighbors’ casual use of the driveway—especially blocking it during a funeral—showed a lack of respect, particularly during the man’s grief. His initial fence idea, while legally sound, could have escalated tensions further.

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Dr. Robert Frost, a community relations expert, notes, “Physical boundaries like fences can assert rights but also signal hostility—dialogue often yields better outcomes.” A 2023 National Association of Realtors report found 65% of homeowners face neighbor disputes over shared spaces, with 30% resolved through mediation. The man’s choice of rocks over a fence balanced assertion with diplomacy.

This reflects broader neighborly challenges. Dr. Frost advises, “Survey first, then communicate—small gestures can prevent big conflicts.” The resolution here shows the power of measured steps.

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Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit’s boundary keepers offered condolences and practical advice. Here’s what they had to say:

mrslII - NTA. If you get it surveyed first. It protects everyone. Especially you.. I'm sorry to learn about your brother's passing.

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descentbecomesafall - NTA. Put the fence up.

Away_Ad_3641 - NTA. Occasionally using it is one thing, but blocking it is a completely different issue. Hell, I’d put up the ugliest fence I could stand to look at if I were you.

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StonewallBrigade21 - The home owner is aware of the situation but does not care. NTA You have a legal right to and there isn't anyone whose opinion you should care about. Good fences make good neighbors.

PaleontologistDry889 - NTA at all. 'Knowing about where the line is I would be taking back about a foot of space they use for parking regularly along with intentionally creating an inconvenience for them.' Your neighbors are creating an inconvenience for you, while making $$ in the process, and don't give a s**t about it. The fact that you're even thinking about how this could affect them shows that you're a better human than probably most of us here.

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DeeJo49 - INFO: Which homeowner, theirs?. Tell the homeowner you care, get the property lines from the county recorder/assessor, then build whatever you like.. I'd get cameras as well.

DreamingofRlyeh - NTA. It's your property. As long as you've looked into local laws about what you can build, go ahead.

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[Reddit User] - First off, my condolences on your brother's passing. No amount of time ever seems to be enough. I'm glad that you're family's there for you as you grieve. Also, NTA in regards to the fence. Your neighbour needs to make better parking accommodations for his tennant's, not you.

I'm not sure if you're going to do it yourself or hire a local company to do it, but before you do, I would recommend speaking to your municipality's building code enforcement office to find out what rules are in place that you need to follow.

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IE: how deep down (below the frost line?) and far apart do the poles have to be, what's the maximum height (is there different for a wooden slat fence or a metal chain link fence), how close can it be to the property line, how far away does it need to be from the sidewalk and/or road etc.. I'd definitely be putting one up asap.

Flat_Shame_2377 - NTA do what you need to do.

Swimming_Adagio_7056 - NTA it’s expensive but put down large boulders along the driveway property line not a fence. A car can knock a small fence down on “accident”. A car cannot knock over a large boulder hahahahaa
From urging a survey to suggesting boulders, these takes fuel the debate. Do they settle the score, or is there more to this neighborly clash?

This driveway dispute underscores the tension between personal rights and neighborly peace. The man’s fence plan wasn’t wrong, but his rock solution proved wiser—turning a potential feud into a stable boundary. Should he have gone straight for the fence, or was dialogue the better path? How would you reclaim your space from inconsiderate neighbors? Share your thoughts below!

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