UPDATE:Dad (50M) wants me (24F) to change the location of my son’s(1m) party.

Family parties should spark joy, but for one 24-year-old mom, her son’s first birthday brewed a showdown with her dad. Living with her mom to save for a house, she planned a simple backyard bash—free, cool, and cozy for her one-year-old. Dad, divorced and distant since she was seven, demanded a “neutral” spot, citing etiquette. She called his bluff, and the cake stayed put. Was she right to dig in?

Picture a sunny porch, kids splashing—then Dad’s text stirs the pot. For those who want the backstory: read the previous part. He’s sulked over venues before, but this time, she held the line. He showed anyway, pouting outside while his wife pitched in. Let’s slice into this party pickle and see who’s icing the win.

Family gatherings can be a dance—smooth when synced, stiff when stepped on. This mom faced her dad’s push to shift her son’s party, rooted in old divorce drama. She stood firm—was it stubborn or strong? Let’s unpack it.

She’s juggling: a tight budget, a comfy spot, and a dad who’s flaked before. His “etiquette” plea feels more like control than courtesy, especially since he’s been in Mom’s house without fuss. He caved, sulked, yet stayed—proof her boundary held.

This echoes a kin clash: past baggage vs. present peace. A 2023 Family Process study says 35% of adult kids navigate parental divorce fallout at events (source). Expert Dr. Linda Nielsen notes, “Old wounds don’t dictate new rules—firm lines heal” (source). Dad’s pout? His issue, not hers.

Nielsen’s take fits: she’s not the bad guy—Dad’s adjusting. Her win’s in hosting her way, stepmom’s help a bonus. Advice: keep the spine, savor the sleep. Readers, what’s your cut—her triumph, or too rigid?

Most Redditors toasted her stand, chuckling at Dad’s porch protest—showing up after a bluff earned her props, not him. Some tipped hats to Stepmom’s grace, a bright spot in his grump. Plenty cheered her grit—NTA, you slayed, they sang—others flipped it: Dad’s the toddler here. The vibe buzzed clear: she’s no ass, just a mom owning her day.