[UPDATE] My friend is about to ask his girlfriend to marry him, but I’m the only one who knows how unfaithful she is. Do I say anything?

In a dimly lit living room, the weight of truth hangs heavy as friends gather to unravel a seven-year romance teetering on collapse. Aaron, once ready to propose to Mary, sits stunned as his closest allies reveal her infidelity. The OP, armed with Reddit’s wisdom and damning screenshots, steps into the fray, risking friendship to save a friend from heartbreak. What unfolds is a raw, emotional reckoning that could redefine Aaron’s future.

This gripping update to a Reddit saga captures the courage it takes to speak hard truths. As Aaron grapples with betrayal, the story pulls readers into a whirlwind of loyalty, love, and liberation, leaving us to wonder: how do you rebuild when love crumbles? The Reddit community’s cheers echo the triumph of friendship over deceit.

For those who want to read the previous part: My friend is about to ask his girlfriend to marry her and I’m the only one who knows how unfaithful she is. Do I say anything?

‘[UPDATE] My friend is about to ask his girlfriend to marry him, but I’m the only one who knows how unfaithful she is. Do I say anything?’

So I got lots of feedback on what to do here. A good majority of the commenters told me to say something. To clarify, it may not have been clear in the op but I was never planning on doing nothing. Of course you gotta tell your bro if they’re being cheated on. I just was not sure how to approach the situation.

Some of the commenters gave me some very helpful advice. Some of you told me to talk to the girlfriend first, some of you told me to wait, some told me to gather a bunch of evidence first which I ended up getting from Alison, the third party friend. Some of you guys got angry with me for not telling him sooner, told me I was a bad friend.

Some were sure he wouldn’t believe me, some predicted the gf would deny it all. Well all of you were somewhat right. Here’s how it went down: I messaged Alison early on in the day, shortly after I made the post because typing it all out brought my guilt and apprehension from the situation to the surface. I said to Alison that I needed to tell Aaron, and asked whether or not she had proof.

This was when she sent me the screenshots of the text messages. Aaron came over at around 8, and what was great was that Alison came over too. We all sat down and talked for a bit, and we all told him our suspicions about Mary. Alison showed him the text screenshots of Mary talking to her ex, and also told Aaron all the stories she shared about her s**ual encounters.

What was the most surprising was his reaction. He took it very well. He first got very quiet, and just nodded. Aaron ended up telling us that he had a sneaking suspicion that something was going on. He was not aware of the hookups, but he and Mary had gotten into fights before over the fact that she doesn’t allow him near any other girls, but she goes out and flirts with other guys all the time.

He told us that she had been distant lately, and would leave rather often without telling him where she was going. There were a few other small things he mentioned that told us he was just generally unhappy with his relationship. He knew in his gut something was wrong, but wanted to believe it wasn’t true.

We started unwinding with some alcohol after that and it all got way more emotional. He cried, talking about how he felt stupid for not seeing it sooner, how he really loved her and would’ve given her anything. Then he got angry. At her, and even more so at the guy. Some unpleasant and derogatory terms were used to describe her.

Ultimately he told us that he’s going to be breaking it off at least for now. We told him a million times how much better he deserved. He’s definitely not going to marry her.. Thanks again all for the supportive words and advice. We saved a good man from heartbreak!. Edit: Jesus Christ this exploded fast. Thanks for all the kind words people 😅

Confronting a friend about a partner’s betrayal is a high-stakes gamble, but the OP’s courage paid off. Aaron’s calm yet emotional response—acknowledging his suspicions about Mary’s distance and hypocrisy—shows a man caught between love and reality. Mary’s control, like barring Aaron from female friends while flirting herself, points to a toxic dynamic, worsened by her infidelity.

Such patterns are common in unhealthy relationships. A 2024 Psychology Today article notes that 25% of controlling relationships involve infidelity, often as a power play (psychologytoday.com). Aaron’s gut feelings reflect an inner alarm many ignore. Dr. Shirley Glass, a noted infidelity expert, said, “The betrayal of trust is like a knife in the heart, but awareness is the first step to healing” (https://www.shirleyglass.com/). Her words frame Aaron’s shock as a painful but vital awakening.

The OP’s approach—presenting evidence with Alison’s support—was spot-on, fostering trust. Aaron should now lean on friends, consider therapy to process grief, and avoid rash actions like confronting Mary’s ex.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit lit up like a firecracker for this update, tossing confetti for the OP’s bravery and Aaron’s resolve. From calling out Mary’s jealousy as a red flag to urging Aaron to stay strong, the community’s takes are a spicy mix of support and shade. Check out the top reactions:

perhapsnew − she doesn’t allow him near any other girls, but she goes out and flirts with other guys all the time. Every. Single. Time.. Extreme jealousy is a projection.

concacanca − You are good people OP. If you or Alison are ever in London lemme know and I'll hook you up with an overpriced cocktail.

Bootybustinwitch123 − You did well Op. Hopefully Mary doesnt try to manipulate him or convince him to stay, people like Mary have a knack for that. Keep by his side and make sure he has people stand up to her with him. The more help he can get through this. Also try and have him break things off over text or in public, Mary seems like the type to react very badly.

phriendofcheese − A++. The world needs more people who are not scared to have difficult conversations. Way to be a great friend.

littlemissdead − you’re a good person OP. keep on being good

TrumpCardStrategy − You’re a good friend, he has a chance to find a genuine woman that he can be truly happy with now!

ARC1019 − I was in this situation. Warned my boy and told him. He still married her.. Less than 3 years later they were divorced.. Now she's with the guy she cheated on him with.

TParis00ap − Glad it worked out. Just make sure he uses healthy coping mechanisms. What you don't want to do is get him liquered up so that his inhibitions are lowered and he thinks it's a good idea to fight this guy or something similar.

thomasxpatterson − Every bro needs a bro like you!

Hyubbak − Sometimes we have to love people enough to be their 'enemies'. It was probably difficult and emotionally tasking to tell your friend the truth, and he might have taken it the wrong way and made you out as his enemy, but you loved him enough to do the right thing and prevent his marrying someone dishonest. That is commendable. You're a wonderful friend, OP.

These hot opinions fuel the drama, but do they capture the full weight of Aaron’s choice?

The OP’s bold move to expose Mary’s betrayal freed Aaron from a toxic trap, proving that true friendship sometimes means delivering hard truths. As Aaron nurses his wounds and steps toward a brighter future, this tale reminds us of the power of honesty and support. Have you ever had to break tough news to a friend? What helped them heal? Share your stories below and let’s keep the conversation alive!

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