[Update] Me (27 M) with my soon to be fiance (30 F) duration 2 years thinks I tricked her with “fake” good looks?

A single photo can spark joy or shatter trust, like a stone through a glass house. In a quiet living room, a 27-year-old engineer thought he’d found forever—until his girlfriend’s glimpse of his high school self, marred by acne and crooked teeth, flipped their love story into a nightmare. Her harsh words about his “fake” looks were just the start; now, she’s taken it to the internet, splashing his past across Facebook with a cruel caption about “cutting losses.”

The sting of betrayal cuts deep, turning a once-hopeful proposal into a public wound. It’s a tale that feels all too modern—where insecurities meet social media’s ruthless stage. As this man picks up the pieces, we’re left wondering: how do you rebuild confidence when someone you loved tries to tear it down?

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‘[Update] Me (27 M) with my soon to be fiance (30 F) duration 2 years thinks I tricked her with “fake” good looks?’

I received a lot of good help. The issue turned into a fight, and it even got worse. She found out I had Lasik performed. I forgot to mention that in my last post. She found out and said “That was the cherry on top”. I told her that she was acting extremely superficial and we needed to take some time apart.

She didn’t even act hurt or upset. She seemed like this was what she wanted. I didn’t find out until it was too late, but she took a picture of the photo while with my mother. She claimed she wanted to keep the photo as a keepsake. After we broke up decided to snoop a little and looked at her Facebook.

Everything is on private, and only a few certain little posts are made visible.  She posted my photo of me in HS and wrote “Ladies, it’s never too late to cut your losses. Your future children will thank you for making the right choices in a partner” This completely floored me. This was a breach in my privacy and childhood.

Public shame and admonishment was taken to the max. I called her up and my number was blocked.  I sent her an email asking her to take it down. No reply. I called her parents and told them about the situation, and they said they couldn’t see the post and I told them it could just be some privacy setting she has.

I check again and now I am completely blocked. It just shocks me how she can go to this level of shaming, when I did nothing to her. It freaked her out that our children would have glasses and braces. I have been pretty good moving on.. Good news is I saved a lot of money on a ring.

Betrayal stings like salt in a fresh cut, and this man’s story proves it. His ex’s decision to post a private photo online wasn’t just a jab at his past looks—it was a calculated move to humiliate. Her fixation on “genetics” and public shaming reveals a shallow worldview, but his discovery of her actions shows he’s dodged a toxic future. Both seemed to wrestle with insecurities—she with appearances, he with validation—yet her escalation crossed a line into cruelty.

Dr. Pamela Rutledge, a media psychologist, notes, “Social media can magnify impulsive behavior, turning private disputes into public spectacles. Healing starts with setting boundaries and reclaiming your narrative”. Here, the ex’s post likely stems from her own insecurities, projecting fears about “imperfect” children onto him. Rutledge’s insight suggests she’s not just judging his looks but grappling with deeper self-doubt. For him, the violation of trust and privacy outweighs her superficial critiques.

The bigger picture? We live in an era where “authenticity” is praised but often misunderstood. His glow-up was about confidence, not deceit, yet society sometimes punishes those who reshape themselves. Her actions highlight a culture quick to shame rather than empathize.

Advice: He’s wise to move on but should report the post to Facebook for privacy violation, as Redditors suggested. Therapy could help him rebuild self-esteem—try BetterHelp for accessible support. For couples facing similar rifts, talk openly before resentment festers; resources like Dr. Rutledge’s blog offer tips. Readers, what’s your take—how do you handle betrayal in the digital age? Join the conversation below!

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit’s never short on spice, and this update got the community buzzing with hot takes and clever quips. Here’s what they had to say—brace for some shade: These opinions pack a punch, but do they nail the real issue, or is there more to this breakup’s fallout? One thing’s certain: social media drama brings out everyone’s inner critic.

[Reddit User] − From where I'm sitting, I think that post was probably more embarrassing for her than you. Your ex sounds like a real piece of work.

helm − I sent her an email asking her to take it down Facebook might be able to help you. They are pretty quick to take down photos, as far as I know.

bugsdoingthings − Ironically, her attitude is about the worst possible thing anyone could pass on to a child. If glasses and braces are her worst fear for a child, she's in for a rude awakening if she ever does reproduce. Sorry things ended this way. I know it probably doesn't feel like it, but she's done you a massive favor by revealing the crazy and getting out before you're committed to a marriage.

[Reddit User] − I'm happy to hear you cut your losses. Your future children will thank you that you didn't saddle them with a superficial cow as a mother.

SirFireHydrant − If you ever get the chance to talk to her again, the only thing you need to say to her:

[Reddit User] − BULLET DODGED

jay-eye-elle-elle- −

– Yogi Bhajan Your ex is deeply, *deeply* insecure. So much so that she feels like she *needs*

NahNotOnReddit − Maybe small potatoes, but this is a violation of the Facebook terms and conditions. Report the photograph and claim yourself as the owner and that she has posted it without permission, if you report it properly it will be down within 24 hours.. Source: worked on Facebook's legal team.

louplop − What the f**k did I just read ? I rarely say that but..... Do you realize (in your head at least) that it is the best thing that happen in your life ?. This girl is.... I have no word for this.... Tell you two things. This is the most superficial B*tch I never heard of (and usually I don't blame superficial people because this is our society).

2) with her infinite superficial requirement..... you seduce her, keep her and she thought to be engaged to you.... you can have every girl you want.. Go and CHOOSE one (or two or three I don't care what you want).. EDIT : I really hope you're a fake. EDIT 2 : you have all my support bro !

PrinceLeon − Consider yourself lucky to have learned about who she really was before it was too late.. Are the shallow values she has really something you want to be taught to your future children?. Cut your losses and move on. PS: You can directly contact Facebook and have the photo removed since it's technically your property, and if it bothers you that much (which if you were an adult you wouldn't) you might be able to take legal action.

This breakup-turned-social-media-storm leaves a bitter taste—love shouldn’t end with public shaming. The engineer’s journey from heartbreak to relief reminds us that true compatibility means embracing each other’s past, not weaponizing it. His ex’s cruelty may have bruised his pride, but it freed him from a future of judgment. As he saves that ring money, he’s got a chance to find someone who sees his worth, scars and all.

Have you ever faced betrayal online or in love? What would you do in his shoes? Share your stories below!

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