[UDATE] AITA for making my father kick out SIL and brother?

In a vibrant home steeped in tradition, the echoes of a fiery family clash still linger. Six months ago, a 30-year-old woman stood at the heart of a storm in her Islamic country, defending her right to lead the restaurant franchise she built with her father. Her sister-in-law’s accusations of theft and her mother’s push for her brother’s “birthright” led to a dramatic eviction. Now, with wounds healing and bonds mending, her story takes a hopeful turn.

For those who want to read the previous part: AITA for making my father kick out SIL and brother? . This update unfolds a tale of reconciliation and resolve, as the woman navigates family ties and cultural expectations. Readers are drawn into her journey, wondering if peace can truly bloom after such a bitter rift, and whether her leadership will stand unchallenged.

‘[UDATE] AITA for making my father kick out SIL and brother?’

I posted to ask my judgment almost six months ago. At the time of writing that post i was very emotional and it really hurt to see my mother picking a side against me. So after a week my brother contacted, he apologized for his wife's behavior, he said he didn't have the guts to tell his wife he actually doesn't want to anything with business.

He said he was always content with what he had and knew from the start that it should be me, he actually saw the post , we talked alot and before his marriage we actually used to be really close and how he wants the same relationship back.

I was happy to hear that he is my only brother and i love him to death but i did warn him about his wife, he just said he is considering everything rn and this whole incident has opened his eyes.

I talked to my mom after that she admit that she wants me to just get married, she always wished that for me but i was able to make her realize that this what actually i want to do with my life , so she is not have been able to fully accept it yet but she is getting there.

As for my father , after that whole thing he has already put everything in place and actually wanted me to take the position infront of him so that no one can contest it. I am in a better place than i had been when i was writing my post, thank you reddit for making me realize my importance, thank you everyone who reached . I can not thank you guys enough.

Rebuilding family ties after a public showdown is like threading a needle in a sandstorm. The woman’s brother stepping up to apologize and her mother’s slow shift toward acceptance mark fragile progress in a household once fractured by tradition. Her father’s unwavering support, cementing her as the business leader, sets a powerful precedent in a culture where women rarely hold such roles.

The sister-in-law’s earlier outburst and the mother’s initial opposition reflect deep-seated gender norms. Dr. Fatima Mernissi, a noted Islamic feminist scholar, wrote, “Challenging patriarchal succession requires not just courage but structural support” . The father’s decision to back his daughter over cultural expectations defies norms, but the brother’s passivity suggests he’s caught between loyalty to his wife and family harmony.

Family businesses often face such rifts. A 2024 study in the Journal of Family Business Management found that 65% of succession disputes in family firms involve gender bias, particularly in patriarchal settings . The woman’s leadership, backed by legal documentation as Reddit suggested, is crucial to secure her role against future challenges.

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To sustain this progress, she should maintain open communication with her brother, encouraging him to address his wife’s influence constructively. Regular family meetings, possibly facilitated by her father, could help her mother fully embrace her choice to lead. Legal safeguards, like clear ownership records, will protect her position. This approach strengthens family bonds while ensuring her hard-earned role remains unshaken, fostering both personal and professional growth.

Check out how the community responded:

Reddit rolled up with a buffet of warm support and spicy advice, cheering the woman’s strength and her father’s epic backup. The community served up heartfelt props and a few sharp jabs at the sister-in-law’s greed, with a dash of caution for the road ahead. Here’s the fresh scoop from the crowd:

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radianthola2 − I'm glad now things are more calm! But you should be ready to fight in the future. Your father is supporting you now... without him, the situation will be more hard.

You deserve to be in charge, you created the bussiness, Never think otherwise and don't let others control your life. Do the best for you. You're a strong women.. Probably its not the comment you expect but don't trust family (except your father)... Take care of yourself first.

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Treeflower77 − I’m glad everything seemed to have worked out for you! Good luck on your business!

WhySoManyOstriches − NTA- and my friend, remember, The Prophet Muhammad had the time to devote to God because Khadijah was such a good business woman. Many women of your faith have walked that path before and become pillars of their community. Be proud!

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Rubricae98 − Yay for positive reinforcement. Sorry about the greed, selfishness and backward views of others

themundays − A word of advice- be sure to have legal documents in place establishing your ownership. If things turn ugly in the future, and your father is not around to defend you, you may need legal help.

Doris_Useless − I'm so glad this has worked out so well for you, and that your brother is supporting you.

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Tall-Elevator580 − Girl your dad is the real deal, I'm so glad you have him on your side. Happy to read this update, and good luck on being the new owner of this place!

penguin-ob − I just wanted to say as a religious Muslim that it broke my heart that your relatives didn’t support you and no one has the right to tell you you’re going to hell, any Muslim should know how dangerous that is.

I’m so glad your father used his privilege to support you and your rights. May Allah bless him. You’re blessed to have a father like him, MashaAllah. Also hope your brother has to guts to leave that side of his, I’m sure he could do so much better!! InshaAllah

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[Reddit User] − So happy for you! My best wishes for much business success and personal happiness for you, sweetie!

[Reddit User] − Interesting that it's the women in your family, who are pushing the mysogonistic ideals on you. Actually kind of tragic.. Glad it all worked out for you though !

These Redditors dished out love and wisdom, hailing the father’s stand and urging vigilance. But do their cheers capture the full flavor of this family’s journey, or are they just sprinkling extra spice? One thing’s certain: this update has everyone rooting for her success.

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This update simmers with hope, as a woman’s resolve and her father’s support carve a path through cultural barriers. Reconciliation with her brother and mother’s thawing stance hint at healing, but the sister-in-law’s shadow looms. It’s a testament to balancing family love with hard-won leadership. How would you navigate family expectations that clash with your achievements? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

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