This 23-Year-Old Fed Her Friend’s Nephew Donuts After Failing To Boil Rice, Now The Family Is Furious

We all know that moment when a quick favor turns into an unexpected disaster. For one 23-year-old woman, stepping in to babysit her friend’s eight-year-old nephew quickly became a lesson in culinary chaos. She agreed to watch the boy so her friend could attend a last-minute party, under the condition that he came with dinner or cash for takeout.

Instead, she was handed a box of plain white rice and assured it would only take “two minutes” to prepare. Having never boiled water in her life, she took the cooking instructions literally—resulting in a crunchy, inedible mess and a pivot to the only food she had: donuts. Curious how it all unfolded? The full story is right below.

This 23-Year-Old Fed Her Friend's Nephew Donuts After Failing To Boil Rice, Now The Family Is Furious

AITA for “incorrectly” feeding my friend’s nephew while babysitting?

The evening started as a standard favor, but the cracks in the plan showed up almost immediately.

My (23F) friend (24F) is babysitting her nephew (8M) for the weekend, and she received a last minute invite to a party, so she asked me if I could watch...

I watched him once before and had to buy him dinner, and she did not Venmo me for the food until a month later! She dropped him off, but she...

She instead brought a box of rice from her sister’s house (her nephew’s mom), where she has been staying with the boy. She said he loves plain white rice.

Taking a casual figure of speech at absolute face value, she approached the stove for what would be a highly literal cooking experiment.

I told her I don’t cook, so I don’t know why she brought me food to cook for the boy. But she said it will be fine and will only...

I put the rice and water in a pot and cooked it for 2 minutes, just as she had instructed. Then I served the rice to the boy. He did...

When my friend arrived to retrieve the boy after her party, he complained about the rice I made, which he did not even eat. My friend examined the rice and...

(I followed her directions exactly as she said and left the rice in the water for 2 minutes, which she now claims is not enough). She said I did not...

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I said she should have left money for me to buy the boy food like I told her to. I’m literally watching this kid out of the generosity of my...

” I reminded her that she’s the one who left false instructions. She should have specified the exact duration of time to cook the rice if not 2 minutes. She...

Both women in this scenario are exhibiting classic avoidance behaviors, but through entirely different mechanisms. As noted by behavioral experts, the babysitter’s inability to boil water strongly mirrors weaponized incompetence—a phenomenon where someone knowingly or unknowingly demonstrates an inability to perform basic tasks, thereby forcing others to take over the responsibility.

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By taking an obvious idiom like “it’ll take two minutes” entirely literally, the babysitter unconsciously ensures she will never be asked to cook again. Conversely, the friend is employing a high-pressure dumping strategy. By dropping off a child with plain, uncooked rice and no money, she is forcing a sink-or-swim situation to absolve herself of the mental load of organizing proper childcare.

Both parties are operating from a place of intense self-interest, leaving an eight-year-old caught in the crossfire. For the babysitter, learning basic life skills like boiling water is a necessary step into adulthood. For the friend, securing proper, paid childcare is non-negotiable. Establishing clear, written expectations before babysitting begins is a simple way to prevent these exact communication breakdowns.

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Reddit came in hot—delivering a nearly unanimous "Everyone Sucks Here" verdict, with readers equally stunned by the babysitter's culinary ineptitude and the aunt's audacity.

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u/butterbimbo This is a shocking read all around. You boiled the rice for 2 minutes and expected it to be edible? Have you even seen cooked rice before? This must...

u/Tough_Entertainer122 look youre an AH for being pathetic and not being capable of cooking some rice so a child can eat. your friend is an AH for having you watch...

u/Mollykate123 ESH. There is so much wrong here. Firstly, did the parents know she sublet the child in their absence. This is very irresponsible. Secondly, you can’t boil rice? You...

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u/Inevitable-Cherry437
YTA for being 23 and not knowing how to make rice WTF

u/TitaniaT-Rex
23 and don’t know how to read instructions on a box of rice?

u/Open_Sector_3858
YTA, if you are this dumb, you should not watch children.  This borders abuse by neglect.

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u/annarich310 ESH. Except for that poor kid. He keeps getting dumped on people who don’t seem to care. Your friend is AH for dumping him on you to go to...

u/Previous_Rip_9351 Most worrying. You are 23 yrs of age and can't even cook rice!! And can't even feed yourself if all you have in your house is donuts. Girl, time...

u/EmilyAnne1170 You’re 23 and you’ve never boiled anything before??? Did the baby’s parents know that his aunt was leaving him at her friend’s house for hours? ESH. You for being...

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u/DuncanCant How do you arrive at the age of 23 without learning even the most basic cooking skills? You must be spending a small fortune on food if you buy...

u/annedroiid ESH. Even if you could cook, plain rice is not appropriate food for an 8 year old. She was incredibly inconsiderate to both you and her nephew for not...

she’s the one who left false instructions. She should have specified the exact duration of time to cook the rice if not 2 minutes.   Dear lord! "2 minutes" is...

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You may be in the right as far as your friend dumping her babysitting job on you, but if you can't boil rice - and can't even tell it's not cooked...

u/makrer
ESH.
You are 23 and have never cooked anything? You have never boiled water? You should never be in charge of watching a child.

u/Swirlyflurry ESH So much here is just… ugh. 1) OP’s friend was asked to babysit the nephew. That boy’s parents did not agree for OP to watch him or for...

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u/Necessary_Field_8424
23 and never boiled anything.  Do you survive on takeout?

A few commenters reminded everyone that the real victim here was the eight-year-old, who deserved far better than crunchy rice and donuts.

This culinary catastrophe leaves us with plenty to chew on regarding basic life skills and the boundaries of babysitting favors. The debate between taking instructions literally versus applying common sense shows no signs of cooling down. Do you think the babysitter’s literal interpretation was an honest mistake, or did she fail on purpose to avoid future favors? And how would you have handled a drop-off with nothing but a box of raw rice? Share your hot take below!

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