No, this is not your email address.

It started with a simple mistake, and it somehow turned into a full-blown international travel disaster. A woman found herself drowning in emails meant for someone else — bank alerts, medical notes, travel confirmations, even mortgage paperwork. The problem? The sender insisted the email address was hers.

At first, it was mildly annoying. Then it became overwhelming. Seventy emails a day about house purchases and flights to Venice would test anyone’s patience. When polite explanations failed, the situation escalated in a way that left social media divided. Was she justified in stepping in, or did she cross a line?

No, this is not your email address.

The confusion began with one stubborn mix-up that refused to end

There is a lady named Irene who does not seem to be able to understand the concept that my email address is not hers. She gives it out constantly, and...

REPEATED efforts to explain to her that she has it wrong have gone unheeded. Strong boomer energy from this one. As a result, I know she lives down in the...

she drives a Toyota RAV4 that is due for an oil change, and she seems to be having some medical issues "down there". (Irene, if you see this, call your...

I have repeatedly asked the various people involved to please inform Irene that she is providing all these places with my email address, which is, again, not hers. The only...

so I have not been able to call her, although I did send her a Christmas card last year that read, "Irene, Merry Christmas, stop telling people your email address...

Then came the house purchase and the trip to Venice

Recently, it appears that Irene has been trying to buy a new house, and is planning a trip to Venice. I know this, because I got all the confirmations of...

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as well as all the confirmations from her mortgage broker and insurance agent. This resulted, a couple weeks ago, in somewhere in the neighbourhood of 70 emails a day, informing...

After patience ran thin, she decided to intervene directly

So, I followed my usual approach. I emailed the agents back, and (probably slightly less politely than I could have been) informed the agents that Irene is once again giving...

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and I have no interest in any of the private documents they had sent her. Apparently, they tried to call her -- unfortunately,

I suspect they all tried to call her within a few minutes of each other to tell her the same thing and she got very angry with all of them.

She told them, very rudely, that in fact my email address is hers, and people needed to stop telling her that it wasn't, and why hadn't any of them sent...

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Not long after, I separately got apologetic emails from each of them, the insurance agent, the travel agent, and the mortgage broker, telling me that they were very sorry,

but Irene was VERY insistent that this was her email address, so they couldn't remove it from her account. This seems very stupid to me, but I am not American...

So I told them that since I was apparently Irene, and I am completely sure that I did not apply for a mortgage, or for insurance, that all of those...

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The mortgage broker told me that if we did that, we may not meet the date required in the contract for the removal of subjects. I told him that since...

The travel agent, who it seems had received the majority of the earful from Irene, seemed completely indifferent to my request to cancel "my" trip to Venice.

She did tell me that there might be a cancellation fee for the original flight to Frankfurt. (Why she was flying to Frankfurt to get to Venice, I have no...

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So I told her to cancel all the rest of the flights and hotel rooms except the original flight to Frankfurt. Don't wanna cost Irene that extra $20 after all.

I have not heard anything further, and I am a little sad about that, as there's a part of me that loves the idea of Irene flying to Frankfurt,

getting there and realising all her connecting and return flights are cancelled. And I do wonder if she ever bought that house.. But at least the emails have stopped!.

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Eventually, the truth came out and the emails stopped

UPDATE: I just heard back from the mortgage broker. Apparently I gave them all a good laugh, they realised I am not Irene, of course, since my name is on...

and were just as frustrated with her as I was by her failure to sign and return the documents they had been emailing her. Apparently Irene is using a company...

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So she signs in to Gmail, but (this is my interpretation) her address is something like \[myaddress\]@\[herorganization\].com and once they told her they had a request to cancel everything from...

she immediately sent them an email from her account. He thanked me, because the documents need to be signed by Tuesday, and Irene was giving them quite an earful because...

The travel agent just said "My apologies, we've fixed the problem, you will not receive any further emails, please delete the ones you have received."

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So since I ended up helping her actually successfully buy her house... does this technically count as a Good Deed?

Situations like this hit a nerve because they combine digital confusion with personal frustration. The poster tried the polite route. She notified senders. She even mailed a holiday card. When those efforts failed, the endless stream of sensitive financial and travel information crossed into uncomfortable territory.

From Irene’s perspective, this may have been a genuine misunderstanding about how email domains work. Technology literacy gaps are common, especially when someone uses a company-hosted Gmail account that looks similar to a personal one. Still, insisting the address was hers while ignoring mounting evidence escalated the issue.

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Relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman of The Gottman Institute once said, “Conflict isn’t the problem; it’s how people handle it that determines whether it will lead to growth or damage.” That idea applies here in an unexpected way. The conflict wasn’t about feelings, but about communication and accountability.

A practical solution in situations like this is documented communication. Forwarding proof, requesting written confirmation from businesses, and even filing a formal misuse complaint with email providers can protect personal data. When boundaries are ignored repeatedly, stronger action sometimes becomes necessary. Still, transparency with third parties is key to avoiding unintended fallout.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Many users sided with the poster, arguing that patience has limits.

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Dearthair − I told this story to a friend, and she told me I was being a jerk, and I should have just emailed Irene to tell her she was...

Pissedliberalgranny − Irene is lucky you're a decent person. You have all her banking information. She obviously has enough in her bank to fund a trip to Italy via Germany...

You could have seriously fucked with her but you didn't. My SO (cyber security) was shaking his head for several minutes after I read him your story. "G__damn" "Holy s__t...

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creditspread − I'm sure you have enough emails with personal information to get access to Irene's bank accounts and other sensitive data. Irene is lucky OP is petty and not...

dkisanxious − This is AMAZING. It's one thing to make an honest boomer mistake, but another to get mad and not even try to rectify the issue.

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Lady deserved everything that came to her, but she still probably blames someone else. This reminds me of how my mom got her paypal hacked and someone made some purchases.

She got it all worked out and got the money back, but now she thinks that paypal is evil and will never sign up again. I'm like, mom, the same...

This is also the woman who refused to let me burn her CDs back in the 00s because she said they'd give her work computer a virus. She did not...

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AJourneyer − I like the OP's action on this. I have an early Gmail address, a bit unusual but not seriously common name. There is a folder called "errors". I've...

travel, banking, car dealership, family photos and letter, receipts for s__ toys (lots of them) receipts for spa days, receipts for damn near everything, and at least four breakup letters...

Once a month or so I go in and send them all "sorry wrong email address" notes. Repeat offenders don't get the polite one. Why aren't people more careful?

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Others offered more balanced or cautionary takes.

SnarfBurger − I was at the library recently and an older woman was a a computer near me trying to apply for a job at a fabric store.

She was having issues and asked a librarian for help. She was trying to log into gmail to get the confirmation email. Turned out, she didn’t actually have an email...

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She thought by making up one on the job application, that meant it was hers now. The librarian tried to explain that someone else probably already has that account and...

It took the librarians (yes multiple) maybe 10 minutes just to get this lady to understand the concept that email accounts aren’t created when you type them in on a...

After finally getting that through to her and explaining she’d have to go to gmail to set up an account, she then couldn’t grasp the notion that someone else in...

last-name as their username. “Oh, I doubt someone else has the same name as me.” Turned out someone does and had already created an account. “They must have a different...

rubamid − Happens to me all the time. But seems to be a variety of people. One lady used my email to set up a cell phone plan…it included her...

She was really freaked out when I texted her and told her to stop using my email. She had also just changed all her credit cards to me.

Other people have sent their kids to private school in New England, bought dentures online, and one very annoying one was uploading all sorts of legal documents for a will/trust...

wolfn404 − I’ve had this issue for two years. Two different people, all sending the same stuff. Ones in Seattle, ones in TX.

I’ve even got the phone number of the TX guy ( he got a free govt lifeline phone) and tried calling and having a conversation w him. He was rude...

I’ve now taken to cancelling anything with my name on ( same as not my email people). From a 6k cruise to a boat, auto insurance, and two SW plane...

They still keep using it, so I still cancelling. The last one was dinner reservations for a college graduation ( felt bad and let that one slide). But some people...

Harvard-23 − So with all these emails Irene is not concerned that she has not gotten any reply or confirmation responses? Or does she have your password?

GaryDickersfield − I'm in a similar boat with Paul. Paul apparently had my phone number before me. . I've had this number for about 10 years. . Still getting spam...

So much so that Paul actually shows up on my "people you might know" on social medias. Idk how to mess with Paul without my own number or I totally...

And a few lighthearted comments kept things entertaining.

night-otter − I have several folks who think my email address is theirs. Most have accepted they gave out the wrong address. I still get confirmations for Jenny's orders of...

A couple of months ago, I started getting Etsy confirmations. As in seller's orders and reports of payments received. When informed of the incorrect email address, via the Etsy messaging...

So after another couple of rounds of this, I reset his Etsy account password. Logged in changed the email. Logged out. 2 days later I get a blast from them...

Found the delete account button. "This is irrevocable. Once you confirm, your store is deleted and there is no recovery. " So I said Delete and Confirmed. Despite him having...

PomegranateReal3620 − Many years ago, when I still had a landline phone, my number got on a list for faxes. Like a bunch of different branches of a business each...

They would just keep autodialing me all hours of the day and night. They'd fill up my voicemail. I tried calling them back, but it's not like they had a...

and they said it was a bunch of different phone numbers from all over the country. This went on for months. I had avoided changing my number because there was...

Eventually, when my husband moved in with me, he paid to have the number changed. I still hear that fax beep tone. It haunts me. And that's why I don't...

LokiKamiSama − I’ve done similar things to someone who refused to change their phone number. I cancelled their pizza one night and it stopped for a bit.

But I got calls from their bank, their auto loan bank, blockbuster (they didn’t return one of the disks for the special Lord of the Rings The Two Towers), their...

I went to order something and they had their address. I asked what address they had and sent them everything under the sun for free.

Every magazine, coupon, religious pamphlet, everything. The most recent one I can’t talk about because it was not my finest, what I did. But I hope they got it sorted...

reddgrrl − I swear I could have wrote this story myself. My boomer email user is a lady in Virginia who uses my email for all of car services, medical...

I’ve unsubscribed from the services and when it didn’t let up, I got more aggressive like canceling appointments and upgrading services as well as leaving comments in “addtl comments” sections....

backtheduckup − Come on Irene, please don't email me, at this moment, I'll cancel everything. Trip to Venice, Irene I confess, Its no longer, going to be.

In the end, the emails stopped, the mortgage was signed, and Irene may never know how close she came to landing in Frankfurt without a return ticket. The poster insists she only wanted peace and quiet in her inbox. Still, the method she chose left plenty of room for debate. Was this justified self-defense in the digital age, or did she push things too far? What would you have done after the seventieth email?

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