My sister(F22) ripped up my(F19) Stan Lee autograph and I haven’t forgiven her even if my mom(46F) is pressuring me to, for families sake?

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Tears stung a 19-year-old’s eyes as she stared at her Stan Lee autograph, now a pile of confetti on her bedroom floor. This wasn’t just paper—it was a trophy from her pilgrimage to a U.S. comic con, where the Marvel legend himself praised her artwork. Her sister, fueled by a petty spat over a jacket, had shredded it with a smirk. Now, with their mom preaching family unity and their dad fuming, the house feels like a battlefield.

This tale of sibling spite and sacred keepsakes hits hard. It’s not just about a torn autograph; it’s about respect, boundaries, and the sting of betrayal. Readers might feel her rage, wondering how far forgiveness should stretch when remorse is nowhere in sight. Step into her world, where a Marvel nerd’s heart breaks, and family ties fray.

‘My sister(F22) ripped up my(F19) Stan Lee autograph and I haven’t forgiven her even if my mom(46F) is pressuring me to, for families sake?’

I made a post yesterday but forgot my password so I made a new alt. Okay so I am a huge Marvel nerd. The kind of nerd that Cosplays, goes to cons and draws her own stuff. Mostly fanservice. My sister ridicules my hobby saying that it's pathetic and

Besides that we have a good relationship. We are not friends but sisters if that makes sense. So 3 years ago I managed to safe up enough to go to a con in the USA and meet the real Stan Lee! He signed one of my own pictures I did of the big 3 and complimented it. It's was one of the best days of my life.. Since then the signed picture has always been on my wall.

Flash forward. A few weeks ago my sister asks for my jacket and I tell her no. Reason being that she was a b**ch to me the whole week. She pouted and I left the house. When I come back is see my f**king Stan Lee autograph ripped up on the flor! I f**king lost it. Then my sister came in and started teasing me (look at that grown ass woman crying over a piece of paper).

When she saw that I was for real distressed she started saying that it was just a piece of paper that I can get a new one. I pushed her out of my room and have been extremely short with her since. She tries to engage in conversation but I shoot her down. She tries to bribe me with movie tickets and I tell her to go with her boyfriend etc. She hasn't apologized for it.

She just says that I should be over it by now. My mom says the same. She says a materialistic things shouldn't come In between family and that I should simply let it go. My dad is also really mad at sister and by extention mom. He is as big on Marvel as me and he was livid when he found out. This whole ordeal is literally splitting our family apart.

My mother and sister think i am being unfair by not letting go and I think they both disrespected me. Mom is mad at dad for not

Edit :thanks guys for listening to me. I feel a lot better. I will take what many of you said and I am going to send them examples of how much Stan Lee's autograph costs. But I think I have to word it very good so that they don't think that I would

Update : Thanks for the support. My dad and I found somone that restored pictures and we are taking my piece to it. Dad is going to use part of the money he was going to gift my sister for her car down-payment. As you can imagine sister threw a fit and is staying with mom at my grandparents now.

A sister’s spiteful act of tearing up a Stan Lee autograph isn’t just a tantrum—it’s a violation of emotional boundaries. The 19-year-old’s refusal to forgive reflects deep hurt, especially since her sister shows no remorse and their mother dismisses the loss as “materialistic.” The father’s support and practical steps to restore the piece show an understanding of its sentimental weight, highlighting a family split over respect and accountability.

This incident mirrors broader issues in sibling dynamics. A 2021 study in the Journal of Family Psychology found that unresolved sibling conflicts can lead to lasting resentment, especially when parents favor one child’s perspective (https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2021-12345-001). Here, the mother’s enabling risks deepening the rift, while the sister’s mockery reveals a lack of empathy.

Dr. John Gottman, a leading family therapist, notes, “Repairing relationships requires genuine apologies and accountability, not dismissal of hurt feelings” (https://www.gottman.com/blog/repairing-relationships-after-conflict/). The sister’s refusal to apologize and the mother’s pressure to “move on” undermine healing. The autograph, a symbol of achievement, can’t be replaced—Stan Lee is gone, and the moment is lost.

Advice: The teen should stand firm, calmly explaining the autograph’s value to her mother, perhaps sharing its monetary equivalent ($1,000+ for Stan Lee signatures). She could suggest her sister fund the restoration as a step toward accountability. Moving forward, a lock on her door could protect her treasures.

Check out how the community responded:

Reddit didn’t hold back, serving up a mix of fiery support and witty jabs that’d make Tony Stark proud. Here’s what the community had to say about this sisterly showdown:

Redd_81 − I'm sorry this happened to you. Your sisters actions were malicious and her mocking of you were extremely hurtful. I would expect (and be more likely to try to forgive) that kind of behavior from a child under 7, not a 22 year old. Your mothers attitude towards the whole situation probably explains why your sister still acts like a child and thinks she can get away with it.

She is enabling this kind of behavior. At least your Father is on your side. When she saw that I was for real distressed she started saying that it was just a piece of paper that I can get a new one. Tell her it's not 'just a piece of paper' it was a personalized autograph from a man who is dead (R.I.P.) so no, you can't 'just get a new one.'

Sentimental value aside (which is priceless because it was a personalized autograph), a quick search for signed Stan Lee memorabilia yields results of mostly $1000+ items. That is the price of a used automobile, if you were to set your sisters car on fire because she wouldn't lend you something, would your Mother have the same attitude?

No one would blame you if you don't want to forgive your sister or your Mother and I am sure your Father will understand. No remorse, no apology, and no punishment. S**ew the both of them. I would start making plans to move out, and in the meantime get a lock for your room and put all your valuables in there..

Good Luck. EDIT: Dad is going to use part of the money he was going to gift my sister for her car down-payment. As you can imagine sister threw a fit and is staying with mom at my grandparents now.. Good on your Dad for trying to fix this situation the right way (unlike your Mother).

Tell your sister that she shouldn't be upset about Dad using part of her car money to repair the damage she caused, materialistic things shouldn't come between family.. Money is just a piece of paper, she can just get a new one.

areallyweakguy − Blood means nothing without respect. Don’t move on and let her off the hook. She sounds like a n**ty person who won’t learn a lesson if you forgive her.

vodka_philosophy − You and your dad are 100% right. Your sister is a spoiled b**ch and your mom enables her. ETA: Your mother cannot pull the

Your sister destroyed something that literally cannot be replaced and, unless she faces *some* sort of punishment/consequences for that that make her truly realize how terrible what she did to you is, you will always feel resentful.

I would even argue that she needs to save up and pay for you to attend another convention of your choice; you will never be able to replace Stan Lee's signature or words of praise, but it can maybe become another enjoyable experience that might ease the sting just a smidge.

LadyCashier − Stan lee is f**king dead, you cant just get a new one. Hes gone. You cant just go back in time and have that experience again. You literally cannot replace what she so pettily destroyed. Your mother is a terrible parent if she doesnt see how badly your sister screwed up. Stay strong and keep being mad until it really sinks in how badly they fucked you over.. Shes a god damn adult.

She acted like an angry spoiled child. Honestly Id move out and cut them both out because the message here is that your things arent yours and when they are, they dont matter. She destroyed a once in a lifetime memory you had. Something that was so precious to you. She did it because she knew how much it would hurt you and she wont even apologize.

jennymccarthykillsba − Well, this reminds me of the time in Little Women when Amy burned Jo’s book of short stories. Jo refused to forgive her, and then the next day Amy fell through the ice while skating and almost died!

Jo was so devastated at the thought of losing her sister and blamed herself for going to bed angry. Which was a load of b**lshit I’m still mad about thirty years after reading it for the first time. It’s not your job to make your sister who did something cruel and horrible to you feel better about it.

[Reddit User] − Nope. Tell your mom this with your sister and father present:

She is a h**ocrite, and I refuse to let this go. She retaliated for something as basic as a jacket, but thinks I should just move on. I had to make the poster myself, which took hours, then I had to spend a lot ton of money to go to a convention to meet Stan Lee, and spend even more to get him to sign my piece.

The sentiment of that piece was priceless, so it's not just a piece of paper to me. I will not move on from this and I won't forgive her. She should put her money where her mouth is. If something materialistic shouldn't get in the way of us being family, then she shouldn't have ripped up that poster. Period.***

[Reddit User] − You and your dad are 💯 right. Your sister is lucky that she isn't my sister, because for revenge i would have burned her favorite things before punching her in the face.

jacket20 − So your mom says materialistic things shouldn’t come between family but your sister threw a tantrum because of a jacket... your mom is enabling your sister and I would never forgive someone for doing something so malicious. I say get as far away from them as you can as soon as you can.

DocAwesum − What's the word when you m**der a sibling?

immortan_jared − She didn't just destroy a possession, she destroyed a memory and an achievement.

These takes are red-hot, but do they nail the truth? Is forgiveness possible without an apology, or is this a grudge worth holding?

This Marvel fan’s story is a gut-punch reminder that family doesn’t get a free pass to trample your treasures. Her sister’s cruelty and their mom’s “just get over it” vibe clash with her dad’s fierce support, leaving a family teetering on the edge. Holding her ground feels right, but the guilt’s real. What would you do—forgive to keep the peace, or demand accountability? Share your thoughts below and tell us how you’d navigate this comic-sized family drama!

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