My relationship started as a prank and now I don’t know what to do?

A young man in his early 20s faces a heartbreaking betrayal after his friends orchestrated a cruel prank, setting him up with a fake girlfriend, Emily, only for the relationship to become real. What began as a joke to mock his single status turned into a genuine bond, but the revelation of the prank—coupled with Emily’s initial complicity—leaves him reeling.

Her apologies and insistence that she now loves him clash with his shattered trust, while his so-called friends’ callousness prompts him to cut them off. The Reddit community is split: some urge him to give Emily a chance, citing her remorse, while others see her deception as a dealbreaker. Should he forgive her and rebuild, or walk away from a relationship built on a lie?

‘My relationship started as a prank and now I don’t know what to do?’

His friends’ teasing about his single status took a cruel turn:

I have five friends (2F and 3M, all in their early 20s), and they have been annoying me for some time about being single. I've never had a girlfriend, and...

Usually, their jokes were light-hearted, but on occasions, they were not. Some of their jokes were really low, but I let them slide because we were friends, although I never...

About two months ago, they introduced me to a girl, let's call her Emily, and we became friends pretty quickly. Soon, we discovered that we have a few things in...

Considering we were early into the relationship, things felt a bit weird for me. We bonded really quickly, and we enjoyed spending time together.

The truth emerged during a night out with friends:

Two or three days ago, I went out with two of my friends. We were having fun talking about stuff until one of them asked me why Emily hadn't dumped...

I asked him to explain, and he told me that all five of them were on board to prank me by having Emily play the role of being my girlfriend...

That was the plan originally, to which Emily agreed. That didn't go as they planned, and they then thought that she might pretend to be my girlfriend a bit longer...

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That also didn't happen, and Emily stopped hanging out with them, she pretty much cut them off from her life after we started dating. We got into a verbal fight...

Emily admitted her role but claimed genuine feelings:

To say the least, I was really angry, and I called Emily immediately after leaving them to talk to her about this. When we met, she wanted to hug me,...

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She became pale on the spot and started crying and apologizing for it. She admitted almost immediately that she was indeed on board with that, but she also said that...

She likes that I treat her with respect, trust, and kindness. I asked when she was planning on telling me this, and she told me that she didn't know when...

She said that she doesn't want to play with people's emotions and that even agreeing to this was so wrong, but in hindsight, it turned out good because she met...

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He’s torn about their future:

Our conversation didn't last long, and I went home. I blocked all my friends on all accounts, numbers, everything, I don't want to see them again. I don't know what...

I don't know what to do. If she lied and manipulated me into this, what will she lie about or manipulate me into tomorrow? I would find this entire situation...

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The man’s anger and distrust are justified—his friends’ prank was a cruel betrayal, and Emily’s initial complicity, though abandoned, stings deeply. Discovering a relationship began as a joke shatters trust, leaving him questioning his self-worth and her sincerity.

Psychologically, the prank reflects social bullying dynamics, where his friends exploited his vulnerability to humiliate him. Emily’s shift from participant to genuine partner suggests remorse, possibly driven by cognitive dissonance as her feelings for him grew. Her decision to cut off the friends supports her sincerity, but her failure to disclose the prank earlier indicates fear or immaturity.

Trust is the core issue. Her apologies and actions (distancing from the group) suggest potential for growth, but her initial deception raises red flags about her judgment. Rebuilding trust requires transparency, which she withheld until confronted.

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Advice: Cut off the friends permanently—they’re toxic. With Emily, have an honest talk about why she agreed to the prank and how she’ll rebuild trust. Take it slow, observing her consistency, or end it if the betrayal feels insurmountable. Therapy can help process this hurt and guide your decision.

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

The Reddit community is divided, with some urging a fresh start with Emily and others advocating a clean break, while all condemn the friends. Here’s what they said:

Supporting a chance with Emily:

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Belazael - I mean, I would definitely dump the “friends” for good but now that everything is out I’d be willing to at least try with Emily and see what...

I can actually kinda believe she was having a hard time telling the truth because she actually wants to be with you. That’s not out of the ballpark there. So...

Far_Prior1058 - I think you should give her another chance. Explain to her that this really did a number on your trust with her. It sounds like she really wants...

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Maybe talk about starting over and building something new with each other. As for the friends make sure to let other people know the type of people they are and...

TimeConstraints - Keep and love Emily. Ditch the "friends." They are assholes.

Dear_Parsnip_6802 - She is not staying with you out of pity. She wants to be with you otherwise she would have dumped you already.

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The fact she distanced herself from your friends straight away indicates she was immediately remorseful of the WAY you got together, not that you got together. I'd be inclined to...

L-EH77 - Emily is a keeper. She dumped your loser friends way before you cottoned on to them. You need to treat yourself better and surround yourself with good people...

Questioning Emily’s trustworthiness:

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[Reddit User] - Dude she started dating you to make fun of you. Sure she probably fell in love with you after realizing you were a great guy, but you...

Anyone telling you to stick it out is because they see she changed her ways. Let’s be honest if the shoes were reversed they’d tell her to drop you. If...

According-Western-33 - This house was built on a foundation of sand. You haven't been together for long, there is no way I could continue. What happens if/when you wanna break...

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Can you take her telling everyone she dated you as a prank, then stayed because she felt sorry for you? I don’t mean to crap all over you guys. I...

Do you wanna start a relationship with someone you can’t trust? Cut your losses, there will be other women. This ain’t no Rom-com, these kind of bad decisions only work...

TrueNorthStrengh - What do we know with certainty? The “friends” in question have a lot of growing to do. Another commentator used the term “sadistic” and I find it wholly...

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“Emily” on the other hand is somewhat vexing. She went along with a sadistic scheme to achieve…what exactly? This calls into question her underlying character. Perhaps she was swept up...

I would also communicate this reluctance to her so as to be transparent. To her credit, she recognizes her mistake, dropped said “friends”, and appears to regret her actions. I...

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and make careful observations of comments and behaviours that are consistent (and inconsistent) of someone with the type of character you want in a partner.

Speculating on Emily’s motives and context:

Cold-Expression-3794 - Regardless of what you and Emily figure out, these people are not your friends. A little light hearted ribbing is one thing, setting up a fake relationship with...

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ChrisInBliss - I'm not sure if she would lie and manipulate you in the future BUT it is possible she was interested in you beforehand but was too scared to...

So generally speaking your friends decided on this prank was the push she needed. On the other hand your friends suck and I would for sure ditch them no matter...

ScarletDarkstar - I think it’s possible she didn’t have a lot of malicious intent in agreeing to go out with you. It could be much more of a prank to...

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What she would have been doing isn’t that different from any other date - spend some time for a few days, and stop doing so if it doesn’t light your...

trekkiegamer359 - One thing you said caught my attention: "She likes that I treat her with respect, trust, and kindness." Could it be that you're the first guy/friend/person to really...

I could see if she got caught up with the wrong crowd since she was young just going along with a prank like this. Then because you're a really, genuinely...

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She ditches the assholes, and sticks with you. In this situation, I'd say give her a second chance if you can. You don't owe her anything, and you certainly don't...

On the other hand, she might have chosen you over the friends because she likes your guys' relationship in a more selfish using-you way, and she dumped the friends so...

I’d suggest you think about whether you would ever be able to move on in a relationship with her at all. If no, then break up with her, and don’t...

You’re the victim here, and none of it is your fault, no matter how shitty you may feel right now. However, if you think you could move past this, press...

Why did she change her mind? How does she feel about the ex-friends now? Pay attention to her answers. Does she talk about personal growth and accountability for her actions?...

Does she try to shift any blame at all onto you for not forgiving her? Does she only blame the friends, and try to act like a duped party herself?...

And whether you stay with her or not, she’ll now be a better person for herself, and anyone she ends up in relationships with. If she hasn’t grown from this,...

Cut your losses, and move forward as a free man. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this shit. It sucks. Sending you internet hugs if you’re a hugger.

Noting the absurdity of the situation:

EntertainerKooky1309 - Wasn’t this a movie?

strangemusicsince04 - The concept of “reverse the genders in the story” gets thrown around a lot here and subs like this one, but god damn these comments would be SOOOO...

seidinove - You are not wrong. I'm scratching my head wondering how your stupid (ex) friends thought this was funny. I agree about starting from 0 with Emily.

This tale of betrayal exposes the pain of a relationship born from a cruel prank, leaving a young man torn between hurt and hope. His friends’ sadistic scheme to mock his single status backfired when Emily, the supposed pawn, fell for him and cut them off.

Her genuine feelings clash with her initial deception, leaving him questioning trust and his own worth. The Reddit community condemns the friends, with some urging a fresh start with Emily and others warning against a shaky foundation. Can he rebuild trust with her, or is this betrayal too deep? What’s your take on navigating a relationship that began as a lie?

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