My (20F) boyfriend (23M) sided with another girl (23F) over me and made me feel humiliated.

A 20-year-old woman felt deeply hurt when her boyfriend of unspecified length agreed with his best friend’s girlfriend that she should stop late-night eating and lose weight—right in front of her at dinner. The friend initiated the comment casually, but his immediate support, framing it as “for your own good,” left her silent and humiliated. The evening worsened when they joked about her potential mukbang content, revealing he’d privately told the friend no because she’d “end up fat” like a streamer. They laughed together while she stayed quiet.

Earlier, he’d worn the friend’s perfume after smoking, initially denying it. This isn’t isolated—he’s compared her unfavorably to the friend before, saying she lacks the “body or height.” They call each other “brother and sister,” but he prioritizes her opinions, discusses decisions with her, and dismisses the girlfriend’s feelings as overreacting or controlling. Community calls it blatant disrespect and red flags.

The dinner incident unfolded painfully.

The mockery continued with a shared inside joke.

Smaller details added to the unease.

Patterns of comparison and dismissal emerged.

Public criticism of a partner’s body, especially aligning with another woman, erodes trust and security—core relationship foundations. Couples therapists like Dr. John Gottman identify contempt (mockery, name-calling) as a top predictor of breakup; here, tag-team humiliation fits perfectly.

Healthy partners address concerns privately with empathy, not publicly for laughs. Dismissing feelings as “overreacting” gaslights, avoiding accountability. Close opposite-sex friendships thrive on boundaries—shared perfumes, private vetoes on her activities, and prioritizing her input signal emotional infidelity at minimum.

Self-esteem impacts: repeated comparisons keep insecurity high, making leaving harder. Red flags wave when respect vanishes—humiliation isn’t “honesty,” it’s cruelty. Leaving preserves dignity; staying teaches tolerating disrespect. Support networks and therapy aid exits from devaluing dynamics.

Check out how the community responded:

Everyone saw massive red flags, urging immediate breakup.

Many called for dumping him swiftly.

Some questioned staying or pushed for action.

Unanimously red flags everywhere—public humiliation, body shaming with another woman, dismissive gaslighting. Community screams dump him; no loving partner treats you this way. Respect yourself enough to leave. Would you tolerate a “friend” talking to your future daughter like this?