Final Update – My friend told me she loves me 4 weeks before her marriage?

Nine months ago, a widower’s world was rocked when his lifelong friend Brie confessed her love just weeks before her wedding, unraveling into a canceled engagement and a violent clash with her ex-fiancé. Now, after navigating guilt, grief, and Brie’s temporary stay in his home, he’s ready to propose to her this Christmas. Their bond, rooted in decades of friendship, has blossomed into love, bringing joy to him and his young daughter. But Reddit’s not so sure, questioning Brie’s intentions and the whirlwind romance.

This final Reddit update dives into a story of healing, second chances, and lingering doubts. The man’s decision to embrace love again is heartwarming, yet the shadow of Brie’s past actions—her confession, the breakup, and her quick pivot to him—raises eyebrows. Is he wrong to trust this new chapter, or is love worth the risk? Readers are captivated, ready to weigh in.

For those who want to read the previous part: Original post, update1

‘Final Update – My friend told me she loves me 4 weeks before her marriage?’

I wrote a post nine months ago about my friend Brie telling me that she loved me a few weeks before she was supposed to get married. For context, I lost my wife three years ago, and we have a six-year-old daughter. Brie and her fiancé, Jason, moved to our town a year ago, and Brie confessed her feelings for me just weeks before her wedding.

Things went south quickly, and Brie ended up breaking up with Jason and canceling the wedding. She was staying with us when I last shared an update. I think the story was picked up by some popular, and people have been messaging me to find out what happened afterward. I wanted to maintain our privacy, especially since many of our family members saw the video and recognized my post.

They didn't know that Jason had assaulted me, and I had to assure everyone that we were safe and okay. I'm feeling particularly happy this week, so I thought I would share an update. Firstly, the reason Brie moved in with us while Jason was still in town was because I had a temporary restraining order (TRO) against him.

Brie also filed for one but was denied, as he had never directly threatened her safety. She said she felt secure with us because of the TRO, and I agreed. Jason didn’t cause any issues after that, though he continued texting Brie, asking her to work on their relationship. Eventually, he moved back to our hometown in February, and we haven’t heard from him since.

Brie got her own apartment once Jason left town, but she remained very much a part of our daily lives. I enjoyed having her around, and my daughter loves her. In April, Brie brought up the idea of us dating again. I explained that I wasn’t over my wife’s death and didn’t want to be unfair to her because I still love my late wife deeply.

Brie told me she knew she could never replace my wife, nor did she want to. She shared a beautiful analogy: she said my heart is like a big pot. It holds a lot of love for my late wife, but it also made room for more love when my daughter was born. Loving her wouldn’t erase my love for my wife or daughter, it would simply mean there’s more room in my heart than I realized.

I took a month to think it over, talking to my mom and mother-in-law (late wife's mom), who both encouraged me to give a relationship with Brie a chance. We officially started dating in May, and it’s been surprising how quickly we fell in love. I think the strong foundation of our friendship helped a lot. The last six months have been amazing, and I’ve never seen my daughter so happy.

She’s a big chatterbox now and insists that Brie comes to all her school events and recitals. Sometimes, I feel a little jealous of their bond and even a bit left out of their little chats. The reason I’m writing this update is because I’m planning to propose to Brie this Christmas. It’s not a surprise proposal, we went engagement ring shopping last weekend and finalized the ring.

We also have wedding plans for next summer. I know it seems quick, but I can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone else. Brie deserves to officially be part of our family. My daughter is thrilled, and she and Brie are already shopping for dresses for the engagement photoshoot. Our families couldn’t be happier, and we plan to get engaged at a small gathering of family and friends over Christmas weekend in our hometown.

I know some people judged me for taking Brie in after she left Jason, and others judged her for leaving him at the altar. Life isn’t easy (trust me), and things don’t always go as planned. But I’m grateful Brie found the courage to tell me how she felt back then. Thank you all again for your support on my last post.

The widower’s journey from grief to proposing to Brie is a testament to resilience, but Reddit’s concerns about her motives deserve a closer look. Brie’s confession, breakup, and rapid transition to living with him—followed by romance—suggest emotional impulsivity. Relationship expert Dr. Esther Perel notes, “Sudden shifts in long-term relationships can signal unresolved issues, especially when tied to major life changes like a canceled wedding”. Brie’s history of serial dating and her timing raise questions about whether she’s truly in love or seeking stability.

The man’s grief and daughter complicate the dynamic. A 2021 study in Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that rushed romantic transitions after major breakups often lead to emotional instability. Brie’s analogy about his heart’s capacity for love is touching, but her past actions—like naming him in her breakup—show poor judgment, risking his and his daughter’s safety.

Perel advises caution: “Ensure both partners are emotionally grounded before major commitments like marriage.” The man should discuss Brie’s intentions and their pace with a therapist, ensuring his daughter’s stability remains paramount. Setting clear boundaries about her role in his daughter’s life can prevent future heartbreak. Readers, is this love story a triumph or a red flag?

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit’s buzzing with reactions to this fairy-tale-turned-cautionary-tale, and the comments are as spicy as a holiday roast. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the community, packed with worry and wit.

Any_Time3277 − Is this ‘lets marry the l**atic week’ because ive seen atleast 10 stories about people marrying or proposing to absolute nutjobs. Wtf. 

Fit_Marionberry_3878 − Brie is a nut job. What woman is considered quality if they need to manipulate a grieving man into dating them? She moved to your home town to get close to you, duped her fiancé into thinking she was acting in friendship to keep your guards down, probably lied to her fiancé about your interest in her (convincing him it was you who pushed for the relationship),

which is probably why you got punched, and then forced you to consider her with a cheesy line about your open heart. . What was she lurking like a creep the entire time you were married ?. Proceed carefully. Super disturbing, honestly. I cannot be the only one getting vibes yucky about this update. 

AnonThrowAway072023 − Eeeek. If you haven't, go to his very 1st post where he describes B and her dating life Hard to read that,  and OPs trauma of losing his wife, and think this has any chance of being a happy relationship 

Datsucksinnit − I don't believe in relationships built in betrayal. It seems sweet and all, but she basically lead on another man until you became available. People like that can turn around and do similar s**t again.

Last_Driver_3894 − I think this isn’t gonna end well, she have more red flags than red army during ww2.

Sweet-Interview5620 − What a dupe I knew she told her now she was leaving him for you was to deliberate make him think op was a part of it. Of course op then jumped to she isn’t safe the person who risked his child in her home.  Then her desperately telling the person who she got attacked and risked his child that she was only safe in his home as he had a restraining order.

Oh she worked you good you’ve been manipulated this whole way and even when you said you weren’t over your ex and needed time she ensured you didn’t have it.  She worked on you that whole time and I hate to tell you but her ex, his family and many others she probably had believing you’ve been in a relationship this whole time.

That you did steal her and we’re both all ready cheating on him.  Who wouldn’t think that she was in your door the very night she left him. What a mug this was never innocent she moved her fiance to leave their families and change his career to stalk you and deliberately with the hope to be

with you she just didn’t want to give up the bf incase you didn’t let her near then when you did she made sure he stayed long enough to cover half the bills until she could get in your door. All these red warning flags and you expose and risk your daughter to that.. Best of luck I mean it you will definitely need it with someone so manipulative and scheming

Accomplished_Mud1658 − You can subscribe yourself into a cult and the effects would be the same of this relationship. 

ananananana − It looks like her manipulation game has been successful.  Well done OP, you fell for it.

Neonpinx − All I see is a predator who preyed upon and endangered a grieving man and his young daughter. Yikes.

ThrowRA071312 − Dude, this is the stuff horror movies are made of and is not likely going to end well. Brie was a “serial dater” to pass the time or maybe make you jealous but you weren’t picking up on what she was dangling in your face. When you met and married your wife, Brie got the point and moved away. When Wife passed, Brie saw her chance and zoomed in for the k*ll so to speak.

Yes, it was 2 years since your wife passed but Brie couldn’t take a chance on being that obvious. That pot of feelings business was just weird. She’s crushed and creeped on you for ~20 years so she’s not likely to give up now. Hopefully you can live up to the picture she has in her head. Otherwise you and especially daughter might be in for more than you expected.. UpdateMe when the weird stuff starts..

These Redditors are serving up warnings like they’re carving a Christmas ham, but are they spotting real danger or just cynical? One thing’s certain: this proposal plan’s got everyone talking.

This final Reddit chapter wraps a messy saga with a shiny engagement bow, but the shine’s tempered by doubts. The widower’s leap from grief to love with Brie feels like a win, yet her rocky past—confession, breakup, and swift move-in—casts a shadow. Is he wrong to bet on their future, or is Reddit overanalyzing a heartfelt romance? What would you do if a friend’s chaotic love story landed at your doorstep, ring in hand? Share your thoughts below—let’s dissect this bittersweet ending!

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