Am I wrong for throwing out my pregnant girlfriend who won’t pay rent?

A man’s patience snapped when his pregnant girlfriend, after months of dodging rent and spinning lies, dismissed his pleas for fairness. Caught stealing his clothes, funneling money to her manipulative family, and gambling away cash, she pushed him to the edge. His response? Eviction. Now, with a baby on the way, she’s wielding guilt like a weapon, leaving him torn between betrayal and responsibility.

This saga of debt, deception, and a looming birth crackles with tension. Was his eviction a stand for justice, or a step too far for a soon-to-be father?

‘Am I wrong for throwing out my pregnant girlfriend who won’t pay rent?’

Long story short, my girlfriend and I have been living together for around 10 months. When she first moved in she insisted on paying rent and I was reluctant to charge her if it didn’t work out but she forced it and paid a month. Then I found out she’s struggling for money, unable to pay for things, is in a lot of debt and lives month to month.

She agreed with me that she’d start when she clears the debt. Fast forward to Christmas I find out she’s been stealing my clothes to give to her family as gifts (another post on here). She lied for 2 weeks blaming me until I showed her footage of her taking the things from the camera in the living room (to watch the dog when I’m out).

I later then discover through letters and texts I’ve seen appear on her phone she’s been doing nothing to pay any of it off, so I confront her. She tells me and shows me messages that her mother and sisters constantly guilt trip her into giving them money and have for years. They’ll message her on pay day asking for it and she feels bad saying no, despite non of them ever paying it back.

Her mum alone owes her over £6000. She has taken a ton of loans out for her family and they leave her with the debt and don’t pay it back. Luckily her credit is now at the point where nobody will loan to her but she still tries and does it for them.

I also find out (I went through her finances, yes I shouldn’t have but something wasn’t adding up and I was being lied to) that in the space of 20 minutes she spent £300 on gambling sites. All during this time she isn’t paying a penny towards rent, bills anything. She’ll occasionally buy food shopping or trips out to Starbucks.

I tell her enough is enough and she needs to start paying her way. If she can give handouts to her family and gamble she can pay for where she lives and she’s taken me for a ride when she should’ve been saving and clearing debts. I make roughly 5x what she does but I’ve been fair in that the bills are split proportionally to income.

She’ll earn £1400 per month and pays £600 which includes rent and her share of the bills. I take on the rest which is substantially more but I believe it’s not fair to take more. On the 1st of this month she tells me she can’t pay rent.

She says she’s paid out too much on our trips to Starbucks, food shopping and I’ll get it when I get it but she doesn’t understand why I need it this month when she’s lived for free the past 9 months anyway. I’ve asked her to explain where her money has exactly gone but she tells me I’m controlling and it’s non of my business. In fairness she will pay when we go food shopping but rarely in comparison to me.

I’ve kicked her out as of yesterday and told her she needs to find somewhere to live. She is however pregnant and she’s using that card as a way to guilt trip me and make out I’ve thrown out her and my child onto the streets. In my opinion she is taking me for a ride and prioritising her family that is using her over her own family she’s started? What’s the solution here to getting her to see she’s not treating me fairly?

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The man’s eviction of his pregnant girlfriend reflects a breaking point after months of financial irresponsibility and deceit. Her failure to pay rent, coupled with stealing, gambling, and prioritizing her family’s demands, eroded trust. His proportional bill-splitting was fair, but her dismissal of his concerns as “controlling” and reliance on pregnancy to guilt him signal deeper issues. Still, evicting a pregnant partner raises ethical questions, especially with a child involved.

Financial conflicts often doom relationships. A 2024 study in Journal of Family and Economic Issues found that mismatched money values, like her enabling her family’s mooching, drive 40% of breakups. Her gambling and debt suggest possible addiction, requiring professional help, not just confrontation.

Relationship expert Dr. Terri Orbuch advises, “Financial transparency is non-negotiable in cohabitation.” The man could propose she return only if she agrees to therapy, budgeting, and cutting off her family’s financial drain. If she refuses, co-parenting separately may be the healthiest path, ensuring the child’s needs are met without enabling her behavior.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit didn’t hold back, dishing out shock and skepticism with a side of tough love. Here’s their take:

[Reddit User] − Dude your life is a train wreck. You will be forever tied to this mess.

One-Rogue-Star − At what point did you think, hey let's get pregnant. Horrible situation

hotfreshshitinbutt − is it your baby? you going to have to pay child support now?

Ok_hon − Wow. This went from “not your problem” to “congrats, you are tied to this woman for a minimum of 18 years.” I get the feeling you want everyone to agree that your gf’s life is a train wreck (it is). But you have demonstrated a serious lack of foresight and maturity for continuing to sleep with this woman after all that’s happened, then getting her pregnant. You, sir, are an i**ot.. ESH.

[Reddit User] − Why did you c** in this person?

[Reddit User] − INFO: When did she announce her pregnancy? When is it due? Boy or girl? Have you seen ultrasounds or other proof? Step one is going to be

Puzzleheaded-One-319 − She’s got a mom and a sister, she can live with them.

UJMRider1961 − My first thought was

Nodak1954 − First off is she really pregnant or just saying it to guilt you! As much as she lies to you if she is pregnant I would insist on a DNA test to be sure it’s yours. That’s before I would let her back into my life in any small way. The way her family uses her for money and how she uses & lies to you for money among other things I would be very cautious from now on in my dealings with your girlfriend.

VioletBewm − She doesn't seem to want to change, help or learn. It's rough cus she's pregnant but she clearly isn't going to change either so you aren't wrong. It's just a terrible situation.

These comments are blunt, but do they gloss over the pregnancy’s weight? Reddit’s quick to judge, but is the man’s choice clear-cut?

This financial fiasco, spiked with pregnancy and betrayal, leaves a bitter taste. The man’s eviction drew a line against being used, but the unborn child complicates his stand. Can he mend trust with a partner who prioritizes others, or is co-parenting the only path? It’s a dilemma that hums with raw stakes. What would you do when love, lies, and a baby collide? Share your thoughts—let’s unpack this chaos!

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