AIW for accusing girlfriend for cheating on me? (Found pregnancy test final update)

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The air was thick with tension as a man stood in his girlfriend’s apartment, keys in hand, ready to unravel a web of lies. A secret pregnancy test, a suspicious trip to a friend’s house, and evasive excuses had led him to a crushing truth: she cheated with Jesse, confirmed by her own messages. This final chapter sees him confront her, only to face deflection and more lies.

With the relationship now over, he’s left to pick up the pieces of his shattered trust. Readers, step into this raw tale of betrayal and resolve. Was he wrong to end it so decisively, or did her deceit demand closure? Let’s dive into the end of this heart-wrenching saga.

For those who want to read the previous part: Original post, update

‘AIW for accusing girlfriend for cheating on me? (Found pregnancy test final update)’

Hope the mods will give me some slack as I just wanted to post an update to my previous two post as quite of few people were asking for an update. TLDR version: gf took trip to see male friend but I later find out that she secretly bought a pregnancy test. Later found out through text messages that she has s** with him while on the trip.

So last night, I told my gf that I needed to talk to her. At first she kept saying she was busy but I insisted on seeing her in person so she finally said to go to her place around 8 pm. I go over and I reiterated how eversince she got back from her trip, things have felt weird. She claims I’m the one who’s making things weird by believing that she cheated on me.

She continues to claim that the pregnancy test was not hers and that her friend Jesse was just a friend and they just hung out. I then proceed to tell her how I know she cheated because I saw the thread in her messages. “You came here without me knowing and went through my personal messages? That’s so messed up and creepy to be honest.” She says.

We got into a slight argument as I told her that my suspicions were correct and she was trying to deflect the conversation. I asked her to give me her phone and I’ll show her all the messages I saw which were very clear and explicit. Of course she refuses and says “we are not married. We don’t live together. You don’t own or control me.”

While I agreed with her on that part, I decide to end things quickly and simply put her copy of her keys on her coffee table and tell her “you cheated. Plain and simple. Goodbye and good luck.” I walk out and she makes no attempt to stop me. Later, she tries to text me and says that she’s sorry for what she did.

At first, she claimed that Jesse was an old boyfriend that she never told me about and that they dated years ago before she met me and that he moved away several years ago. She claims that the messages I saw were old conversations they had but I quickly told her that was obviously not true.

She swears that she didn’t mean to cheat and that Jesse must’ve gotten her drunk and it lead to s**. She assures me that she is NOT pregnant with anyone’s baby. I told her “that’s good cause I don’t want anything else tying me to you.” I wished her good luck again and I haven’t heard from her since.

Personally, I’m relieved but I’m so upset and devastated by all this. I spoke with my friend Eric who told me that he had an ex that cheated on him too but she later tried to contact him years later when the dude she cheated on him with turned out to be a b**. Hoping I can move forward from this. Thank you all for your input.. Am I wrong for anything I did or the way I acted in this?

The man’s decision to confront his girlfriend and end the relationship was a masterclass in resolve, born from undeniable proof of her infidelity. Her trip to Jesse’s, the secret pregnancy test, and her absurd lies—claiming it was her sister’s or for “PMS regulation”—pushed him to check her iPad, revealing her affair. In their final showdown, her deflection, gaslighting, and refusal to show her phone only confirmed her guilt. Her post-breakup excuses—Jesse as an ex, drunken mistake—were too little, too late.

This saga underscores the devastating ripple effects of infidelity. A 2023 study in Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy found that 68% of betrayed partners experience significant emotional trauma, often requiring closure to heal. Her attempt to shift blame, accusing him of violating her privacy, is a common tactic to dodge accountability. Pregnancy tests serve one purpose—detecting pregnancy—making her lies transparent.

Dr. Esther Perel, an infidelity expert, notes, “Healing from betrayal requires acknowledging the truth, not burying it in excuses” (https://www.estherperel.com/blog/why-infidelity-hurts-so-much). His clean break—leaving the keys, stating the truth, and walking away—minimized drama and preserved his dignity. While snooping was ethically gray, her deceit justified his need for clarity, especially given the pregnancy test’s implications. Her drinking to “prove” no pregnancy dodged the real issue: her betrayal.

Experts advise maintaining no contact, as he did by rebuffing her texts, to protect emotional recovery. Blocking her on all platforms, as Reddit suggested, prevents further manipulation. He should keep message screenshots for potential fallout, like mutual friends being swayed by her narrative. Therapy can help process the grief, particularly as his first serious relationship in years. Leaning on friends, like Eric, will anchor him.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Reddit’s dishing out support as bold as a clean breakup! Here’s what the community had to say:

just1here − Quick & clean. Good job. No need to hash it all out or look for an apology. Just end it bc she cheated. Done!

gidgetcocoa2 − Nope. Not wrong. You did everything right. There's no more arguing and lying. You'll find that person that's for you and no one else. It hurts but it won't last. Don't let her steal more of your time. Heal and love line you've never been hurt. Always trust your gut.

Smoke__Frog − Only on Reddit are people shamed for looking at their partners phone.. You did nothing wrong. When you’re in a relationship, looking through someone’s phone is not nearly as bad as lying and cheating and exposing a partner to disease. Don’t listen to Reddit.

changelingcd − It sounds like you did what you had to, and the result is painful but necessary. In the long run, you're much better off without her.

Analisandopessoas − Deliverance. You are right. Life that

rocketmn69_ − Block her. If you want to p**s her off, have a friend quietly tell her that she really fucked up and you had to take the engagement ring back... mess with her mind

NotSorry2019 − Dating is a job interview for marriage. Marrying a lying cheater is a recipe for a miserable life. Congratulations on your wisdom. NTA

Jthemovienerd − You 100%did the right thing. No not, no less. Just be ready for the blowout

Ginger630 − I’m so glad you broke up with her. She was lying and cheating. And she bought the test because she thought she was pregnant. You would have thought it was yours. And even if you had doubts, she’d manipulate and guilt you into staying until the baby was born.

You broke up with her in the best way: confronted her, told her it was over, gave back her keys and left. Clean cut and done.. Now block her and any of her friends and family on everything. Move on and be done with her.

HaphazardJoker258 − Ah the deflection and gas lighting.

These takes are fierce, but do they light the path to healing?

This man’s story is a testament to the power of facing truth head-on. His girlfriend’s cheating, masked by lies and a secret pregnancy test, left him no choice but to walk away. Her deflections couldn’t undo the damage, and his decisive exit—keys down, contact cut—sets the stage for recovery. With friends and time, he’ll rebuild stronger. How would you heal from such a betrayal? Drop your thoughts below—let’s cheer him on as he steps into a brighter future!

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