AITAH for saying I don’t want my coworker’s baby at work?

Why do some workplaces bend rules for parents at the expense of everyone else? A night-shift nurse sparked debate on social media by declaring she refuses to tolerate a coworker’s baby during overnight hours at their assisted living facility.

The CNA already brings her one-year-old sometimes on days. The nurse fears constant crying will disrupt sleeping residents and staff focus. Her blunt statement met awkward silence from colleagues.

‘AITAH for saying I don’t want my coworker’s baby at work?’

The post opens with the nurse’s role and the coworker’s habits.

I, 29 F, work night shift as an LPN at an assisted living. There’s this CNA, we’ll call her Jessie, who works day shift. She is fixing to switch to...

She has a one year old baby who she brings to work during the day sometimes. I don’t know how she got permission, or why the let her, but oh...

We do want one or two but not immediately. I’m not a hugely patient person (and I’m trying to work on that), but I can’t stand babies screaming or crying...

She describes the conversation when the switch came up.

But when we got on the topic of Jessie switching to nights, I told my coworkers and my boss (these were all day shift employees) that she is NOT bringing...

They all just kinda looked at me. One said, “You must not have children!” And laughed. She knew I didn’t. I said, sort of jokingly, “This is why I only...

The dispute centers on workplace boundaries in healthcare. The nurse prioritizes resident peace and staff alertness. The CNA relies on informal childcare approval. Liability risks and patient care quality hang in balance. Frustration grows from unclear policies allowing personal exceptions.

The nurse values professional focus during vulnerable night hours. The CNA seeks flexibility amid shortages. Management avoids confrontation by permitting the arrangement. Empathy gaps widen without formal guidelines.

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Occupational safety expert Dr. Nancy Lorenz states that “Non-employee children in care settings create undivided attention conflicts and legal exposures” (OSHA Healthcare Guidelines, 2021). This matches exactly. Patient emergencies demand full response. Distractions endanger licenses.

Draft a clear facility policy banning routine child presence. Escalate concerns to regional compliance in writing. Propose staff childcare resource lists instead. Document any incidents involving divided attention. Schedule a team meeting to align on emergency protocols. These steps protect residents first.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Online reactions unified strongly against allowing babies at work. Users highlighted safety, liability, and resident welfare. Three groups formed around outrage, practical risks, and calls for action.

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Most commenters expressed shock at the existing permission and backed the nurse fully.

beepbeepboop74656 − I’m amazed the facility is ok with the baby, seems like a liability and a nuisance for staff.

CakeZealousideal1820 − NTA why the f__k would anyone be ok with this

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Whoopsy-381 − NTA I can’t imagine a crying baby would be good for the residents. If I knew that was happening at my late mother’s facility, I’d complain, because while...

[Reddit User] − NTA, work is not day care. You'll be picking up her slack and doing her job so she doesn't have to pay for child care

MedievalWoman − NTA How could they allow that? Who watches this kid? As far as I know, assisted living does not have daycare. They are liable if something happens to...

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kykiwibear − I have a kid. This has nothing to do with liking children. Her job is to care for other people. They deserve 100% of her attention. nta

emptynest_nana − Assisted living facility, night time, sleeping residents, screaming baby. Not a good combination. I see the residents pitching a fit! !! NTA

Several focused on legal and emergency dangers to patients and staff.

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Tiffany_Case − Your feelings about children are irrelevant actually You work a job that is entirely about taking care of people that cannot care for themselves What happens in an...

So if somebody stays to watch the baby then anything that happens to the patient is a liability on the part of the company you work for. People could lose...

Alsaki96 − NTA - it's a place of business. She cannot be responsible for both the people she is paid to care for and her baby at the same time...

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A visit once in a while is a nice thing but full on responsibility for a baby whilst working a job like that is a safety hazard. Besides that, it's...

JadedPhoenix80 − I've worked at LTC facilities, and this is completely illegal and inappropriate. I would call State Safety/DHS, and OSHA EVERYTIME she worked.

Especially because this will be happening under YOUR license! !! If anything happens to that child while the mother is working, both you and she will be in a lot...

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A few urged investigation or regulatory intervention.

[Reddit User] − One call to OSHA….

the_popes_fapkin − Regional may have something to say about the child care

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No-Resource-8125 − This is a heads up for everyone who is wondering how bad the shortage is in healthcare. My mom is in a nursing home rehab right now. I...

Possible_Thief − Take this as high as you can, go above heads until someone puts a stop to it. It’s not reasonable for an infant to be with its parent...

This case exposes how informal rules endanger professional standards in care facilities. The nurse’s stance defends resident dignity and team safety. Permitting childcare onsite invites chaos during crises. Clear policies prevent favoritism and protect licenses. Healthcare demands undivided attention, especially at night.

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Would you report a coworker bringing a child to a care job? How should facilities support parents without compromising patients?

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