AITAH for reporting my coworker for stealing my food?

Imagine opening the office fridge, craving your carefully labeled tiramisu, only to find it devoured by a coworker who blames her pregnancy cravings. For one employee, this isn’t just a missing snack—it’s a battle of boundaries. Her single, pregnant coworker’s tearful excuses and brazen thefts push patience to the limit, leading to a report to the boss

As workplace whispers judge her as heartless, this tale of stolen lunches stirs questions of empathy, accountability, and just how far pregnancy privilege stretches.

‘AITAH for reporting my coworker for stealing my food?’

My coworker is single and pregnant. I think she’s due in June. We’re all happy for her and planning a big baby shower at work before she goes on maternity leave. The problem is she keeps stealing my lunch or snacks without asking. I literally caught her devouring my food, and when I confronted her, she started crying about cravings and called me heartless.

I didn’t want to make a scene at work, so I just let it go and told her to at least ask before touching my food next time. Then it happened again. This time, it was my labeled tiramisu from a local bakery. I had planned to bring it to my friend after work. I lost it. I told her there was a label on the box with my name and a DO NOT TOUCH MY FOOD post-it on it.

She just said, “I know, but the baby really wanted tiramisu! It was sooooo good .” Then she started crying again and making a scene.. So I reported it to my boss. Now my boss wants to meet with both of us on Friday. Was I the a**hole?

Some coworkers think reporting her was too much and that if I’m so worried about my food, I shouldn’t put it in the work fridge. She is pregnant and single she probably can’t afford since she is single so be a little empathetic . Did I overreact?

Office fridges can be a warzone, but this coworker’s food theft, excused by pregnancy cravings, takes the cake—literally. The employee’s frustration is valid: her labeled tiramisu, meant for a friend, was eaten despite clear warnings. The pregnant coworker’s tears and claims of “the baby wanted it” feel manipulative, dodging accountability. Reporting her was a last resort after repeated violations, not a lack of empathy.

This clash highlights workplace boundary issues. Pregnancy can amplify cravings, but it doesn’t justify theft. The coworker’s actions—ignoring labels and causing scenes—suggest entitlement, not desperation. Workplace psychologist Dr. Amy Cooper Hakim notes, “Clear boundaries foster respect; unchecked violations erode trust” (from Working with Difficult People). Her advice underscores the employee’s right to protect her property, especially after a second incident.

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Broadly, food theft is a common workplace gripe. A 2019 Office Depot survey found 71% of employees experienced fridge theft, often sparking resentment. Here, the coworker’s pregnancy adds complexity, but her single status or financial strain doesn’t excuse stealing. The employee’s coworkers urging empathy may overlook the principle: personal circumstances don’t trump others’ rights.

For solutions, the employee could propose a fridge policy during the boss meeting, like locking personal items or clear theft consequences. She might also suggest the coworker ask for shared snacks if struggling, fostering goodwill without enabling theft.

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Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

The Reddit squad brought their A-game, serving up support with a dash of shade. Here’s a glimpse at their spicy takes on this office food fiasco!

Briiiiiiyonce − NTA.. She is using her pregnancy cravings to be a s**tty person.

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greenglossygalaxy − When I was pregnant, I somehow resisted the urge to steal things. NTA.

Important_Chapter203 − The thief was probably a thief before she got pregnant too. Thanks for reporting her.

medandhedhmd − No. If she wants tiramisu, she can go get it. She can’t use pregnancy or cravings as an excuse. Ive been pregnant and had cravings, I either went and got it myself (or asked my husband to get it for me) or I didn’t have it, and lived.

KPinCVG − NTA. She's a thief. She happens to be pregnant. The two things aren't related. She's also super manipulative. To brazenly say that it's okay to steal because she's pregnant and expect you to go along with it is some delulu. Go prepared to your meeting. Try to make a list of things that have been stolen from the refrigerator, and give the items a dollar value.

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Make sure they understand that this is not about $5. Also make sure you account for anything that you've done to replace your lunch. Like going out to grab a replacement lunch, raiding the vending machines, etc. Even going without, whether it's due to money or time and just being hungry the entire afternoon.

If her being pregnant becomes a type of conversation, if anyone there has had a child, if they're female ask them what sort of things they stole when they were pregnant. If they're a male, ask them what sort of things their partner stole when they were pregnant. If they want to draw a line between pregnancy and stealing, make them draw it in ink.

Oh, Patty in Finance had her baby in the fall, what sort of things did she steal while she was pregnant? If they try to say that she's a single mom and she needs to eat lunch, compliment them on stepping up. You're happy to know that they will be providing her with lunch everyday.

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You look forward to letting all the other expectant mothers know that when they're pregnant lunch will be provided by management. Oh, but they might also want to provide free lunch to men who have expectant partners. I mean, it's hard to justify offering a free lunch to just some employees.

Since lunch is so important, and they're so committed, maybe they should just provide lunch everyday to all the workers. As a final note, tell them that you're a little bit concerned that management's policy is that it's okay to steal if you've got a good reason for it. It starts with lunch, but stealing is stealing, and once they make it okay to do so it's hard to tell where it will stop.

trig72 − She’s pregnant and also a thief. Yes she can be both.

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Appropriate-Sand-192 − NTA. She seems very manipulative. Hope your boss does not fall for it. Really, some pregnant women really are entitled. Please update us, after, im very much invested.

FinnFinnFinnegan − Not wrong. She's responsible for feeding herself

tinyredfireant-hater − How did she or the baby even know that it was tiramisu in the closed box?🫤

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GardnerThorn − She’s a horrible human being who doesn’t have self control. She’s blaming it on being pregnant.

These Reddit reactions, from calling out manipulation to demanding accountability, light up the debate. But do they cut through the drama or add fuel?

This office food theft saga proves that even a tiramisu can spark a showdown. The employee’s report wasn’t about lacking heart—it was about demanding respect. Pregnancy cravings don’t give a free pass to steal, yet workplace whispers paint her as the villain. Where do you draw the line when personal struggles clash with workplace rules? Have you faced a fridge bandit? Drop your stories below and let’s dish on navigating these sticky situations!

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