LAST UPDATE – AITAH for passing out during a family gathering meant to introduce our new baby?

A new mother’s world, already teetering under sleepless nights and a newborn’s cries, shattered further when her husband’s neglect turned to rage. What began as a collapse from exhaustion at a family gathering spiraled into a nightmare of threats and violence, as shared in a gripping Reddit saga. For those who want to read the previous part: UPDATEAITAH for passing out during a family gathering meant to introduce our new baby? Now, in her final update, she recounts a chilling encounter that pushed her to the edge—fleeing with her baby, shaken but resolute, as Reddit cheers her on.

This story isn’t just about one woman’s breaking point; it’s a raw glimpse into the chaos of postpartum life when support crumbles. With her husband’s true colors blazing, she’s charting a path to safety, leaving readers to wrestle with the fallout. It’s a tale that’s equal parts heart-wrenching and empowering, igniting fierce debate online

‘LAST UPDATE – AITAH for passing out during a family gathering meant to introduce our new baby?’

For all of you who wanted to know what his mother's reaction was, she yelled at him and he made that my problem. The things he's messaged me are vile. And even though MIL was mad at him and KNOWS what he's been saying to me, she still insisted that I go visit him face to face so we can work things out.

I don't really blame her. He's her son, of course she'd still want to help him, but still....With all the ways he's been threatening me and cussing me out, I really didnt want to see him, but I decided to go. Mostly because I needed the stuff that I left at our house.

I went with my sister for safety, obviously. We got there and he played with our baby, he offered to feed her (she wasn't hungry), just acting completely different from the man texting me about how much of a

but she's still his baby. I don't think the courts would favour him after I show his texts, but I thought I should rather be safe and allow him some form of contact before going to court. This was a mistake. At the end of the visit, I decided I should go pack my stuff, since that was one of the only reason I agreed to come.

But, I didn't feel comfortable not being there while he had my baby. Yeah, my sister was there and I trust her, but I'd rather watch her with my own eyes. So, my sister went upstairs to pack for me. As soon as she was gone, he started talking about

And other stuff but that wasn't the problem. Even if he became super dad, I wouldn't be able to see him the same. Not after all those messages he sent me. I told him that and he got pissed at me. I was getting worried since my daughter was still in his arms, so I tried to deescalate his feelings.

It didn't work and he started yelling at me for

but he shoved her away too and ran to the guest room and locked himself and MY BABY in there. He refused to come out unless my sister left and i stayed behind. I can't tell y'all how scary it is to not know what's happening to your child.

It took officers almost 30 minutes to get him out, which pissed me off. Like I know they were probably trying to assess the danger or whatever but I just wanted my baby. In that 30 minute window he could've shaken her or threw her out the window or something and they were there asking him to come out like he was a child and not breaking down the door. She was fine, though, so I can't be too mad.

They didn't arrest him since

I don't think I'm going to go near him again. Not with my baby. I'm thinking of going to apply for that emergency custody thing yall were talking about. This happened on Wednesday and I'm still shaken. It's really depressing, for a lack of better word, seeing how much he's changed.

I really loved him and I felt he loved me too. How he's acting is crushing me. I feel deflated. My baby girl and my sister are really the only things keeping me going right now. I'm sorry for the wall of text, it's just that texting this all out helps me feel better

But, I don't think I want to continue updating. Just know that we're splitting up. Thank you all for your support!! Extra: after visiting the doctor, I've decided to just skip the hassle and formula feed. She seems happier with formula anyways.

This Reddit tale reads like a storm warning for new parents, with a mother’s collapse escalating into a full-blown crisis. Her husband’s shift from neglect to violence—shoving her and locking himself with their baby—screams a breakdown in trust that’s hard to unsee. It’s not just about one bad day; it’s a pattern of dodging duty, then lashing out when called on it.

Psychologist Dr. Lundy Bancroft, an expert on abusive dynamics, notes, “Abuse is not about losing control, but about asserting it” (source: Why Does He Do That?). Here, the husband’s texts and actions fit that mold—blaming her for his shame, then escalating to physical force. His brief “good dad” act during the visit feels like a ploy, not progress, especially after locking the baby away to manipulate her.

Statistically, postpartum stress amplifies tensions—40% of new parents report increased conflict, per a 2022 study (source: Journal of Family Psychology). For her, exhaustion wasn’t just personal; it was a signal of abandonment. His refusal to share the load left her vulnerable, and his violence crossed a line. Dr. Bancroft might say she’s right to prioritize safety—emergency custody and legal documentation are smart moves.

She’s leaning on her sister and formula-feeding to stabilize, wise choices under pressure. Long-term, therapy could help her process this betrayal, while a restraining order might keep him at bay. Readers, what’s your take—can this family salvage anything, or is her exit the only path forward?

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit’s crew swarmed this update like it’s the climax of a thriller, dishing out a mix of battle cries and hugs from afar. Picture a rowdy town hall where everyone’s shouting their piece—some salute her courage, others curse the system that let him walk free. Here’s the unfiltered pulse from the comments, sizzling with outrage and support:

JanetInSpain − OMG document everything. Take pictures of the bruises. Go see a doctor and tell the doctor you just need things documented to protect yourself and your baby. File a police report for a**ault and both you and your sister write detailed statements of everything that happened. Then apply for emergency custody. Please update us at least once more so we know you are safe and you have your baby girl full time.. updateme

Wren-0582 − Good grief, you must have been absolutely terrified! I'm so glad you're all OK. I understand why the police officers decided not to break the door down & rush him, they wouldn't have wanted to risk him escalating & harming baby.

Trying to talk him down, make him feel heard was the sensible thing to do.. I o think he should have been arrested for the assaults upon you & your sister though.. Emergency custody & a restraining order sounds very necessary in this situation.. I'm so sorry for everything you're going through.. Updateme.

canyonemoon − I'm so genuinely sorry for what you're going through. Please, get a lawyer immediately, screenshot, save, double save everything, take pictures of you and your sister's bruises, and get that emergency custody order and hopefully also a restraining order, and get ready for custody and divorce proceedings.. I'm so glad you're with family and you have the proper support net.

Trailsya − Sorry to hear this happened to you.. Now get a lawyer asap so you don't make mistakes again.

Recent_Data_305 − Protection order. Violent texts, pushed two women, locked himself up with the baby… I wouldn’t wait for “harm done.” Sickening.

bayleebugs − They didn't arrest him since

At that point you should have said you wanted to press charges. You have the bruises and a witness to prove he assaulted you, and having a paper trail will protect your daughter. If he puts his hands on you again, press charges. Don't let them talk you out of it.

HeartAccording5241 − Take pictures of your bruises and your sister

sickBhagavan − NTA. Next time you have to meet him, have a phone recording the whole thing, consult a laywer forst how it should be approached. Decide, if it is worth the risk (for example, if the recording would be useful only if he knew you were recording,

but you are afraid of telling him etc), but having the moment (where he is attacking you while holding an infant) recorded could help you in the custody battle. Even if you just turn in on and have it in your pocket because he does not have to be informed

Vegetable-Cod-2340 − NTA. Sorry this is happening op, but know you know exactly who he is and must go about protecting your child from him. See a lawyer and a doctor, get the bruises documented for you and your sister and the baby , get a copy of the police report , and submit that all along with the text to your lawyer.

Don’t even communicate with him or anyone in his family anymore, all communication about the divorce and custody goes through the lawyer . Ask your lawyer about making his visits supervised by CPS, he should never be alone with the baby, and no because he’ll try it , his family doesn’t count as supervision.

Op, you need to know that he didn’t just comes up with that plan on the spot, he intention was always to get the baby and use it to make you come home, and probably always planned to lock himself away with the baby. That his mind went there is the scariest thing ever and a judge needs to see his crazy side.

He didn’t think you’d call the cops , but always be ready to call the cops on him. Also for coparenting do a third party app, the communication is recorded and monitored, change your phone number , once the app is in place there is no need for him or any of his family to call you,

and all communication with him should happen in the app, so he doesn’t need your new number or another a way to contact you. Your new place should have cameras everywhere, but I also encourage your sister to upgrade her security as well.

Cameras are vital , ( ones with sounds are better but check your state about their legality) especially if you will eventually have to do custody drop off, but I recommend you do those at a police station or public place directly in-front of cameras.

I would also obviously recommend therapy , and not so obvious recommend you taking up a martial arts, not only will you learn self defense, but it will build up your confidence.Op, I’m so proud of you , you saw troubling behavior and you got out and sadly you were correct , and you’ve put yourself in a great position to be able to protect you and your child.

ApprehensiveCress785 − Do not let a violent man around your baby. It doesn’t matter if the baby is his. He is violent. Protect her.

These Redditors are locked in, urging legal armor or fuming over police inaction. Some see her husband’s stunt as a calculated power grab; others beg her to keep documenting for court. But are they catching the full weight of her trauma, or just riding the wave of a juicy plot twist? One thing’s certain—this mom’s fight has the internet roaring. Where do you land on her next steps?

This story hits like a punch you didn’t see coming—a new mom’s joy twisted into fear by the one meant to stand by her. From fainting under neglect to dodging a husband’s fists, her journey exposes the raw edges of love gone wrong. Now, with her baby safe and her heart bruised, she’s facing a future she never planned. Who hasn’t felt trapped by someone they trusted? What would you do to protect your child in her shoes? Drop your thoughts—let’s unravel this together.

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