AITAH for leaving all her stuff in the rain after she told me she’d be at home?

Breakups are messy enough without playing hide-and-seek with someone’s leftovers. One Reddit user hit his limit when his ex dodged picking up her stuff for three weeks, promising to be home for a drop-off only to vanish to a friend’s place. Frustrated and caught in a downpour, he left her belongings behind her wheelie bin—safe from street view but not the rain—and blocked her after a text tirade.

This isn’t just about soggy boxes—it’s a standoff over respect, closure, and moving on. The user’s fed-up move sparked her fury, leaving him wondering if he crossed a line. Was he wrong to ditch her stuff in the wet, or did her games earn the splash? Let’s wade into this breakup brawl and dry out the facts.

‘AITAH for leaving all her stuff in the rain after she told me she’d be at home?’

I (M25) broke up with my ex (F24) 3 weeks ago. The details of why aren't relevant, but it was messy. For the last 3 weeks I've been telling her to come and get her s**t from my place because I don't want it here, she says she will and then doesn't

Ive also asked if I can bring it to her multiple times when I know im going to be passing her palce, and she always says shes busy..I was going to be passing her place yesterday so I text her asking if she was in and could drop off her stuff, she actually said yeah. (I've been WAITING for all her stuff to be gone from my property to so I can then block her and never talk to her again) I drive there, it's raining pretty badly, and she's not in.

It's around 7pm, I text her asking where she was and she told me she was at a friend's (even though she said she wasn't going out and she'd be in..) so I asked where her friend lives and asked if I could bring her stuff there instead, she said no, that was it 🙄.

I wasn't taking her stuff back to my place, I wanted rid of it. So I saw she had a wheelie bin out front, I opened it but it stank and was filthy inside, and I figured wet was better than stinking and dirty. I put her stuff behind the wheelie bin in the rain (so nobody could see it from the street at least) and drove home.

No sooner did I get home she decided to text me again saying

She then proceeded to send me a bunch of messages calling me a p**ck and a d**khead and other s**t, I text back a final message saying

Post-breakup baggage—literal and not—can keep wounds open, and the Reddit user just wanted his ex’s stuff gone. Three weeks of her stalling, capped by a no-show after saying she’d be home, pushed him past patience. Leaving her things in the rain wasn’t ideal, but behind the bin, hidden from passersby, shows he wasn’t out to ruin them—just done playing courier. Blocking her after her insults sealed his need for a clean break.

This mess taps a bigger issue: breakups often snag on logistics like shared stuff. A 2021 study from the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that 60% of exes face conflicts over belongings post-split, delaying closure (source: sagepub.com). The ex’s pattern—agreeing, then bailing—suggests control games, not just busyness. Her rage at the rain-soaked drop-off ignores her own role in the delay.

Psychologist Dr. Guy Winch, an expert on emotional recovery, says, “Clear boundaries after a breakup prevent prolonged pain; dragging things out serves no one” (source: guywinch.com). Winch’s take backs the user—multiple offers to deliver, including driving by her place, show good faith. Her refusal to meet or redirect to her friend’s left him cornered. The rain was a consequence of her absence, not his spite.

Going forward, the user’s block keeps the peace, but screenshots of their texts could’ve covered him if she claimed damage. For others in similar spots, setting a firm pickup deadline—say, via certified mail—avoids this trap. Here, the ex’s stuff is her problem now, rain or shine. The user’s free to move on, no umbrella needed.

Heres what people had to say to OP:

Reddit’s posse dove into this rainy breakup like it’s a splashy soap opera, slinging cheers and quips with stormy gusto. Picture a pub trivia night, folks picking sides—most toasting the user’s clean break, some chuckling at the ex’s soggy surprise. Here’s the raw buzz from the comments, dripping with spice and a flash of wit:

EngineeringOk1885 − NTA. Sounds like she fucked around too long and now she is experiencing the consequences. Her fault totally!

Working-Hat4932 − Nah you finally got her out of her life, now you can move on with your life. Good on you

Sanity-Checker − When my ex moved out, she moved in with her affair partner. All

Then I moved, and only moved my stuff. I started from scratch and bought all new stuff for the new place. I abandoned all her stuff in our old apartment. THREE YEARS LATER she showed up at my work, said she's now ready to take her stuff back and her dog.

Yes, she abandoned her dog, too. I said he was my dog now, not hers, and that I abandoned her furniture just like she did. She was FURIOUS, said I should have called. I reminded her that I called monthly for a year, and she had another year after that. Thinking I was going to store her furniture for five years was delusional.. Edit to add NTA.

WinterCherriesxo − She played games, and you dropped the final card. Three weeks of excuses was enough. Her stuff met the rain because her work mean nothing.

MikeReddit74 − NTA. You gave her plenty of chances to come and get her s**t, but she refused to.

MamaWelder − NTA. You could not have been any more accommodating. Who gets mad for their s**t being given back and laid upon their doorstep for free?

Dapper_Addendum1841 − NTA. You set up a time that was conviennent for her. She decided not to be home. That was her choice.

Horror_Proof_ish − NTA my ex thought my house was a storage facility too, he found out the hard way that you are responsible for your own stuff and when you break up you need to remove yourself from the other person’s life and not be an ass about it.

maroongrad − NTA. Nope. She was enjoying watching you jump through hoops. I WOULD, however, screenshot the conversation where she told you to drop it off and that she'd be home. Beat her to the punch, put that on social media.

She also decided not to be there after she knew I was on my way with the stuff she abandoned at my place. I wasn't hauling it back home yet again.

SweetBekki − Too busy to come collect her things but not too busy to chill out with her friend.. She's being petty and trying to regain control since you did the dumping. She had 3 weeks to collect her stuff and doesn't look like she planned on doing it anytime soon. NTA

Redditors crowned the user a drama-dodging champ, though a few grinned that rain was the ultimate mic drop. These takes swing from hearty support to slick jabs, proving this tale’s got zing. It’s Reddit at its boldest—wet, wild, and all-in.

This Reddit yarn spins a drenched lesson in cutting ties. The user’s rainy drop-off wasn’t about revenge—it was a fed-up bid for freedom from an ex’s games. Maybe she grabs her stuff now, or maybe she keeps ranting. Either way, it’s a nudge to settle breakup loose ends fast. Ever had an ex drag out the aftermath? Share your take below—what’s your read on this soggy split?

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