AITAH for getting a restraining order against my fiancee’s daughter to get my soon to be ex out of my apartment?

A serious accusation from a teenager turned one couple’s life upside down almost overnight. The man’s fiancée immediately believed her 14-year-old daughter and kicked him out of their shared apartment, even though his job made the claims impossible.

The fallout got intense fast. After proving his innocence to police, he secured a restraining order against the daughter—forcing his now-ex to scramble for new living arrangements. She’s pleading for him to drop it, but he’s standing firm, ready to end things completely. This raw situation sparked heated debates online about trust, consequences, and self-protection in blended families.

AITAH for getting a restraining order against my fiancee's daughter to get my soon to be ex out of my apartment?

The trouble started when the fiancée’s daughter made shocking claims about the poster.

My fiancee, Susan, has a fourteen year old daughter named Jay. Jay made some accusations against me that were gross. And impossible. I proved it to the cops.

The kid isn't bright. Susan believed her and kicked me out of our apartment. The lease is in both our names.

Things escalated quickly once the legal side kicked in.

After dealing with the cops my lawyer got a restraining order against Jay. She wasn't allowed within 300 feet of me or my home.

Her dad lives two towns over and her grandparents live in Arizona. None of her friends that have fathers are allowed to have her over so she can't stay with...

She is currently staying with a friend of Susan's that is a single mother. Susan is begging me to drop the restraining order or she will have to move out.

The poster laid out exactly why the accusations couldn’t hold up.

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I can afford the lease without her and right now I want her out. I know that as a mother she had to believe her kid but she didn't even...

I am done with her and her kid and I want them gone. If she has to move because of the restraining order that's all good in my books.

I'll give an example so you understand what I mean by impossible. Jay claimed that I did things during the week when Susan was at work. I also work during...

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I am working new construction at a secure site. That means I park at my company's office and I am bused to work along with my coworkers. The job site...

I cannot get an Uber or cab to pick me up there. In case of emergency the company has ambulances on site. And firetrucks. We are under constant surveillance. I...

This case boils down to shattered trust in a blended family setup. False accusations carry huge weight, especially when they involve harm, and the immediate belief from the mother left the poster feeling utterly betrayed.

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Many experts note that parents often react protectively at first when hearing allegations about their child—it’s a gut instinct. Dr. Laura Markham, a clinical psychologist and parenting expert, explains that in moments of crisis, “parents prioritize protecting their child above all else, even if it means temporarily sidelining logic.” That initial reaction might be understandable under panic.

Beyond that, though, the refusal to reconsider after clear proof emerges shifts things. Relationship counselor Gary Chapman stresses the importance of accountability on all sides. When one partner’s child causes major harm through lies, the parent needs to address it directly rather than push for reconciliation without consequences.

Practical advice here leans toward safety first. Therapists often recommend therapy for the teen if deeper issues are at play, while the accused protects themselves legally and emotionally. Ending the relationship sadly makes sense when trust breaks this badly—moving forward separately allows healing without ongoing risk.

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Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Most users backed the poster completely, urging him to keep strong protections in place.

Inside-Desk-9108 − I think this relationship needs to end.

Vdavwil − NTA Jay's accusations forced you to interact with the police and I assume could have had significant consequences.

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I doubt you could have gotten a restraining order otherwise.   I can't see where you can afford to take the chance of living in the same house with her.

AffectionateCable793 − NTA. Keep that restraining order. Tell the ex she should use this time to look for another place to live.

Zen_107 − NTA. Your now ex has to live with the consequences of her shithead daughter. Good to see you moving forward with your life

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Aggravating-Pin-8845 − Do not drop the restraining order. If you do, and someone finds out about the allegations, they will be questioning why you didn't fight to prove they were...

By dropping charges they may think you have something to hide. The relationship is done, get them out if there. This kid needs to learn consequences

Some commenters added balanced views, spotting red flags while still supporting the decision.

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kiwimuz − NTA. Do not under any circumstances drop the restraining order. Your fiancée is financially responsible for her part of the lease whether she is living there or not.

If she wants to break the lease then she can cover any expenses related to that.

Ok-Effect5249 − NTA "I know that as a mother she had to believe her kid but she didn't even think before kicking me out"

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I only think you should not hold a grudge about your ex kicking you out at that moment bc anyone who cares about their child would do the same without...

She did what she thought was right in a moment of panic. The problem is asking that you reconsider a restraining order after being proved that it was all a...

The daughther would only learn to make a better lie next time bc there's been no real consequence for almost ruining your life

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Situation-Mediocre − It’s telling that Jay can’t be at her friend’s houses because they have fathers. This is deeply disturbing, Jay needs therapy ASAP.

Talk to her mother about this, but yes, as the trust is gone OP you need to remove yourself from this relationship for your own peace of mind and safety....

zeidoktor − None of her friends that have fathers are allowed to have her over so she can't stay with them. Given the implications of Jay's accusations, did this line...

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NTA. If the implications are indeed what they sound like to me, that's the kind of accusation that destroys lives, regardless of truth.

Intelligent_Cut8148 − I mean does she think you guys are still together after what her daughter pulled?

Like she should just move out wtf why even bother asking you to remove the restraining order, your relationship is done with her and her daughter so why even bother.

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Others kept it sharp and witty, highlighting the irony and need for firm boundaries.

BoxKind7321 − She threw you out despite being on the lease so she can’t complain. Turnabout is fair play. NTA

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curiousity60 − NTA Susan's daughter tried to destroy your life to end your relationship with her mother. She is an unsafe person for you. She is also a teen struggling...

Susan needs to support her daughter's healing. That means living where she can do that. Not with you. It's sad and hurtful that the daughter's false accusations destroyed what you...

BlankiesWoW − NTA. False accusations like this are scorched earth territory, protect yourself at all costs.

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MajorLength7281 − NTA This happened to my father. . he wasn't so lucky to be under constant surveillance. It took 2 years for his innocence to be proven

The stepsister that accused is not only bipolar and has addiction issues, but also a history of not one, but TWO false accusations. Get the hell out of there, OP.

You stand to gain nothing and lose everything the longer these people are in any way connected to you.

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Baudica − NTA but I'm curious. .. If you're on the lease, and currently not living there, or are you? Do you still pay for your share of the rent?...

*'please don't stop me from using you for your money, and keep paying for the the housing of the teenager that tried to absolutely ruin your life'*

Of course you shouldn't drop the RO. They don't hand those out with cereal. If you obtained it, it means you need it, and are entitled to it.

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You had to deal with all the s__t her daughter created for you. Time the mom deals with the s__t her daughter created for her.

This tough story underscores how quickly trust can collapse under serious lies, leaving everyone to face hard consequences. While a mother’s instinct to protect her child makes sense initially, proof of falsehood changes everything—and self-protection becomes key. In the end, moving on separately might be the healthiest path for all involved. Would you drop a restraining order in a situation like this, or hold the line?

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  1. My sister had a friend whose daughter accused a teacher in her high school of sexual assault. He was run out of the school system and had to register as a sex offender for all of his life. The daughter was a lying scheming beyatch and the mother finally admitted her daughter was a liar but didn’t come forward to the school system to exonerate the man. She was too embarrassed to admit it to the school authorities. The poor man lived in shame his entire life. She (the friend) confessed this to my sister when she was dying.