AITAH for charging my son rent?

A 17-year-old turns his bedroom into a pro streaming setup, raking in $3,000 a month from Twitch and Kick, leaving his dad beaming with pride—but then eyeing $600 rent to “teach responsibility.” Cue the wife slamming on the brakes, insisting their kid still gets a free roof, no matter the cash flow.

The post lit up social media like a viral stream, reeling in takes from parents wrestling the same tug-of-war: strict lessons versus endless support. Is hitting him up for rent smart prep for adulthood, or just dipping into his hard-earned loot? We’ll break down the drama, grab some pro advice, and scan the savage online backlash to see if dad’s demand holds up.

‘AITAH for charging my son rent?’

It kicks off with a teen’s wild streaming success, decking out his space like a boss and quietly banking serious cash:

Need some advice here. My 17-year-old son has really taken off with his live streaming "career" in the past 6 months. He's doing so well that he's been able to...

He's pulling in around $3000 a month, which is really impressive for his age. I originally thought he was just blowing his allowance and lying to me, but I have...

He didn't actually tell me that he was making money until I pressed him, which was weird, but he came clean and showed me his Kick and Twitch profiles.

Dad spots a teachable moment and floats a rent idea tied to the kid’s prime real estate at home:

Given his new financial situation, I thought it might be a good idea for him to start paying a small amount of rent, like $600 a month.

Something comparable to what a 2 bedroom should go for, given he has 500sqft for his room, an ensuite, and a lounge for his sole use. I see it as...

Mom digs in her heels, stressing parental duty trumps any side hustle, even with the kid hogging WiFi and power:

She thinks we shouldn't ask for rent period, and that it's our job to give him a roof regardless of external circumstances.. Plus, he utilizes our WiFi and Electric to...

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The son’s fresh out of high school early, chilling in a gap year via streams, sparking epic spats that pit dad’s “real world” boot camp against mom’s kid-gloves vibe:

Now, he finished high school early and has been streaming over his "gap year" before he decides if he wants to go to college. This has led to some pretty...

On my end, I feel like I'm just being realistic and preparing him for the real world. I had to pay rent as soon as I made an adult wage,...

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So, AITA for wanting my son to contribute a bit to the household now that he's earning his own money?

This dust-up boils down to dad’s push for financial boot camp via rent on his 17-year-old’s $3K streaming haul versus mom’s stance that minors get a free pass on shelter. Dad eyes the $600 as prime life-lesson fuel, factoring in the kid’s luxe setup and utilities drain, while mom fears it erodes family safety nets.

Dad’s got a point—drawing from his own sink-or-swim youth, it’s a nod to budgeting basics in a pricey world. But today’s landscape flips the script: Sky-high rents keep young adults home longer, and nickel-and-diming a teen’s windfall can breed resentment over growth. The online pile-on calls it out as greedy, ignoring how streaming gigs fizzle fast without savings buffers.

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Financial whiz Dave Ramsey cuts through: “Train kids on cash flow with small stakes, not by siphoning their earnings—push savings and smart bets over fake rent schemes” (source: Ramsey Solutions, 2022). Here, skip the levy and guide him toward a Roth IRA or skill-building courses; it’s hands-on without the sting.

Culturally, we’re shifting: Mental health pros warn against money fights fracturing bonds, especially when success like this screams “celebrate, don’t complicate.” Yet dad’s unease about freeloading rings true post-grad earners often face sticker shock without prep.

Forge a family pact where he chips in for personal perks like gadgets or outings, with parents matching into his savings pot. At 18, ease into true rent with a clear exit ramp. Kick off a no-blame huddle with wife and son to align—his wins are your shared glow-up, not a grudge match.

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Check out how the community responded:

Social media didn’t pull punches, mostly torching dad for eyeing his teen’s cash like a landlord, not a parent, and turning the thread into a roast fest on greedy parenting.

The horde hammered him as selfish, stressing a minor’s right to a worry-free roof while stacking paper:

Far-Patient-2247 − Are you claiming him as a dependent? If you charge him better take that off your taxes bud.

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[Reddit User] − YTA It comes across as you wanting a piece of the pie. If he were over 18, OK but he's not. If lil bro was flipping burgers...

knugget2 − YTA You're going to charge your minor and dependent son, who has a great job, rent? ?? And you're only charging him because he's making money, that's ridiculous...

KalebsRevenge − YTA - at 17 he is a dependant and charging him rent is not ok and especially with the world as it is he is lucky to have...

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ObjectiveAd9837 − YTA. Let him cover his expenses but you owe him food, shelter, education, and medical care.

so_slzzzpy − YTA. He's a CHILD, and you're charging him to live in the only place he legally can! ? Did you forget that you were the one to bring...

It's your responsibility to care for him until he's an adult; that's literally the whole point. This is literally one of the reasons why kids go "no-contact" with their parents...

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yesimreadytorumble − how pathetic to be a grown ass man needing to leech off your teenage son.

Electronic_You8800 − Greedy fk YTA

Many-Reading6247 − When I read $600 my eyes went 😳 a small amount of rent my ass! It doesn’t matter how much son is bringing in. Geez this man is...

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SeparateCzechs − YTA Your son is a literal child. You taking money from him is predatory. Keep it up. He will be looking to move out as soon as he’s...

AdjectiveNoun581 − YTA big time. You are not "teaching him about adult responsibility," you are sitting on the sidelines greedily slavering over the prospect of carving off a piece of...

At $3000/month he could easily live on his own in many areas, so the non-ahole way to go about "teaching him responsibility" would be to try and find a nearby...

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Even that's pretty bad, the real good parenting answer is that you should introduce him to a good, prudent broker so he can make investments that'll help him support himself...

One-Chipmunk3386 − YTA and a very greedy person. That's not how you teach responsibility, that's how you push away your child. Wow just wow. Unbelievably evil

[Reddit User] − Yta. He's 17 You're not allowed to charge him right. That makes you a bad parent. You should be helping him invest and save his money. Maybe...

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And helping him pay for college or some other form of higher education. Saving money for a car or his first house and even retirement. If you wanted to charge...

missbeegee − YTA. He's a teenager living under your roof. How about teaching him how to save money since he's kling it at earning it. Building a savings account would...

Help your kids get ahead because housing and the economy is insane right now. I can't imagine taking money from my kids.

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One voice tempered the flame, nodding to dad’s intent but urging a wait-and-see with a savings twist:

goffeclese − YTA Mostly because he is a minor, imo. I understand what you want to teach him and I think there are a couple ways you could approach it...

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but everything he pays you should put into a nest-egg account for him that will eventually go back to him. I have seen this suggested on other situations and I...

Because yes, it does teach a good lesson about finances and managing money and all that good stuff, but it also helps to provide him with a little security for...

And then, when he officially moves out, the money goes back into his full possession again. But, at the moment, as a 17 year old minor, I wouldn’t charge rent....

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In the end, this rift spotlights the tightrope between prepping a high-earning teen for life’s bills and safeguarding his youth, with dad’s rent pitch drawing near-universal side-eye from the crowd while his wife’s nurture-first line shines.

Your spin—is $600 rent a savvy starter lesson, or a fast track to family fallout? Better to stash it for his future, or let him bank it all? Vent in the comments; we’re tuned in!

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  1. Can’t understand all the ‘YTA’ answers – especially as he’s using your utilities for his money-making. And 17 is NOT ‘7’! He’s under a year from being legally able to live on his own, FFS!
    But, do make sure HE is dealing with the tax implications for the $3K a month.
    All the bleeding hearts, “He’s your son AND a minor!”, are ignoring that almost every government in the world wants THEIR cut of income, even from a ‘minor’ with a job in the weekend stacking/bagging groceries.