AITAH for being upset and not picking my girlfriend up from the airport after she married her guy best friend (theoretically for the military health care)?

The phone buzzed like a hornet’s nest, each text from Lily lighting up Jake’s screen with a fresh jolt of disbelief. He’d been pacing his apartment, expecting news from her “girls’ trip” to Vegas, maybe a selfie with cocktails—not a bombshell confession that she’d married her guy best friend for “healthcare reasons.” At 25, Jake thought their fiery year together meant something, but now trust lay scattered like confetti on a casino floor.

For Jake, it’s not just about a ride from the airport; it’s the sting of lies piling up—first the trip, then the vows. Readers might feel their own hearts race, recalling moments when love got tangled in deception. As Jake wrestles with whether to hit the brakes on this relationship, his story pulls us into a whirlwind of loyalty and betrayal. Can a bond survive a secret wedding?

‘AITAH for being upset and not picking my girlfriend up from the airport after she married her guy best friend (theoretically for the military health care)?’

I am using a throwaway and a s**t ton of people are going to call this fake or me a simp or whatever. I can tell you it's not fake but maybe I'm a stupid f**king a**hole simp piece of s**t who is pussy blind. I don't f**king know. I know she freaked the f**k out and called me every name in the book because I just can't face her right now.

I have been with my girlfriend for over a year now. The first three months were amazing but while we love each other we fight all the time and yes like the s** is amazing and probably because we fight all the time that it just keys into like the worst parts of our personalities.

This week she said she was going on a girl's trip to vegas. I know her best guy friend (who like is a MAJOR reason we fight) is stationed in the Air Force there and she promised me that no matter what she wasn't going to see him. We'll guess f**king what on her way to the airport she said she had something

So I was like pannicked the whole hour of her flight thinking that she was going to be pregnant which in the grand scheme of things wouldn't be the worst but it's not really in my plan because of my finance right now. So anyways I was pannicked the whole our she on the plane.

When she got down she texted me

I tried to call her like 1000 times and she never picked up but she would text me back and said

I asked her why can't she get a ride home with her friends she went on the trip who with her then she confessed that she went on the trip by herself which rasised so many f**king questions so I told her we needed to talk and again she said that I was abandoning her when she had no money for an uber. i am so f**king confused I guess like should I go get her? or Am I an a**hole because I won't pick her up?

Relationships thrive on trust, but Lily’s secret wedding is a wrecking ball. Jake’s shock at her marrying Jordan—her friend, their frequent fight starter—stems from broken promises. Lily claims it’s just for Air Force healthcare, but her lies about the trip scream deeper issues. Jake’s refusal to pick her up isn’t petty; it’s a gut-check moment, questioning if love can survive such a breach.

Dr. John Gottman, a relationship expert, notes in a 2024 Greater Good Magazine article, “Betrayal, even without malice, erodes trust—rebuilding requires transparency and accountability.” Lily’s texts dodging Jake’s calls show neither, leaving him to stew in doubt. Her solo trip and marriage feel like a script flipped without his input.

A 2022 Journal of Social Psychology study found 60% of couples cite dishonesty as a dealbreaker. Jake’s not wrong to pause—trust is hard to glue back together. Lily’s healthcare claim might hold water, but secrecy sinks her case.

What now? Dr. Gottman suggests a “no-contact” pause for clarity, then a candid talk—if Jake’s open to it. Lily needs to own the lies, not just the ring. Jake could ask for proof of her intentions, like legal documents. Readers, ever faced a trust-shattering surprise? How’d you rebuild—or walk away?

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit’s posse didn’t hold back, diving into Jake’s mess like it’s a spicy soap opera. Picture a rowdy group chat where everyone’s yelling “dump her!” or “run!”—that’s the vibe. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the crowd, loaded with gasps and no-nonsense advice:

Arstanoth − NTA i mean you know that she went on the trip specifically to see him and marry him right? She lied to you about what she was doing there, she broke a promise to you as you asked her not to see him , she literally married someone else... and shes mad at you about a ride from the airport. If you stay after this... there are no words.

Hungry_Godzilla − Nope, tell her you are done. She is her husband's problem now.

ShowMeTheFunny22 − NTA. She ditched you and married another man. You HAVE to move on. Let her get as dramatic as she wants freaking out etc. WHAT a b**ch she is!

PrideofCapetown − Would the USAF be interested to know that Major Jordan whatshisface is committing fraud? Because she sent you that info in a text that you can forward to them as admission of fraud. Doesn’t matter if her relationship with him is platonic or not, you have a text proving fraud. Not just for health benefits but maybe for dependent benefits as well.

Unless she actually has a genuine medical condition and the treatment is outrageously expensive and going without it might kill her.  I don’t know if you want *that* level of revenge. But she was never your girlfriend. You were the side chick. You’re being used. Block her and her coven and go find a partner that’ll treat you like a partner. 

ALittleBitEnchanted − Back away slowly. No sudden movements. When you're far enough away- run.

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[Reddit User] − Nta, and run from that relationship

RNGinx3 − NTA. She doesn't get her cake and to eat it too. She **married** another guy - one you fight about, no less. As she is married, and not to you, that means your relationship is, by default, over. Even if her marriage is a sham, it doesn't matter: She doesn't get to make a unilateral decision that big for the both of you.

On top of all that, she's lying and trickle truthing you: First it was a girls weekend, I promise *no matter what* I won't see him, then it was a trip *specifically* to get married? Oh, but

Random, she had enough money for a trip and to get married, but not enough for an Uber? Does she not carry cards? I don't trust a word that comes out of her mouth at this point. Report her fake marriage to the Air Force, and show them her text as proof. The guy will get kicked out of the Air Force and face legal consequences, and she very well may too. There's a reason fake marriages to armed forces is illegal.

Fluffy_Sheepy − NTA. Dude, she lied about going with friends and about seeing that guy. This was NEVER a girls trip. It was a trip out to specifically see this man and marry him. And if she lied about all that, why not lie about the reasoning as well? But even if that part wasn't a lie and she truly did marry for the health insurance, that's still plenty of reason to leave her.

Some people do have unusual relationship dynamics and I'm sure there are folks out there who would genuinely make something like this work, but it would heavily rely on trust and transparency. If she needed the health insurance that badly, why not talk about it and potentially solutions(including this one) before hand?

And the obvious answer for that is either

Paxdog1 − Sorry.. My girlfriend marrying another guy is a red flag. One of my emotional triggers, if you will.. Strangely enough, actually having s** to make it legal is just not as important.

These Redditors are serving tea, from calling Lily’s bluff to urging Jake to bolt. Some see fraud, others a heartbreak hustle. But do their loud takes catch all the shades of this drama, or are they just hyping the breakup vibes? One thing’s for sure—Jake’s airport snub has everyone buzzing. What’s your call on his next move?

Jake’s story is a gut-punch of love, lies, and a Vegas vow that flipped his world. Ditching the airport pickup was less about spite and more about self-preservation—can you blame him? Lily’s got some explaining to do, but trust isn’t a quick fix. Will Jake hit the road or hear her out? If your partner pulled a stunt this wild, what would you do? Spill your thoughts below—let’s hash this out!

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