AITA I might’ve destroyed my cousin’s small business by telling the truth about her “supply chain”?

Picture this: a young woman, suitcase stuffed to the brim, navigating a bustling market 14,000 kilometers from home, all to help her cousin with a “family wedding.” The air hums with vibrant colors and the chatter of vendors, but the weight of those six sarees feels heavier than expected. Back in Canada, the truth unravels—those dresses weren’t for a celebration but for her cousin’s profit-driven Instagram shop. Betrayal stings, and a fiery comment on social media sparks a firestorm, threatening a family’s livelihood.

This Reddit tale from 2019, recently resurfaced, captures the raw sting of being used under the guise of family loyalty. The woman’s decision to expose her cousin’s deception publicly has split opinions—some call her a truth-teller, others a family wrecker. It’s a juicy saga of trust, lies, and the cost of speaking out, begging the question: was honesty worth the fallout?

‘AITA I might’ve destroyed my cousin’s small business by telling the truth about her “supply chain”?’

This happened in 2019 but recently came up. I (21f) live in Canada, and I was planning a trip to my native country in 2019. My cousin (23 at the time) asked if I could bring some items back. She explained that her father's side of the family (unknown to me) was having a wedding, and that buying cultural clothes ([sarees] in our native country is much cheaper than buying it here in Canada.

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She asked for 6 dresses, and agreed to pay for the items + a little extra for my troubles. I agreed (mostly on the basis that it's for family). It was a pain. I had to compromise on my own clothing, shopping etc. in order to make space for her stuff. I made it back to Canada and to her credit, she paid me the agreed amount..

Now here's the kicker: I was scrolling though Instagram a few days later and saw a post from her business page. She sells sarees at a slight discount relative to those sold in Canadian stores. Sure enough, the next few images were the 6 dresses that I had hauled over from 14,000 km away.

She called it the 'Wedding collection' and marked everything up, to the point where selling just 3 dresses would cover the full cost of everything I got + the 'inconvenience' amount she provided. I saw red. She took advantage of my kindness, and even if the wedding was real, she obviously didn't use any of this stuff and it was clear that it was pre-meditated.

This is where I may have been the a**hole. In my anger, I immediately commented on her Instagram post, telling the truth about how she lied to me as I brought all this s**t back for her, and that I could prove it. Plenty of people DM'd me and I provided.

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Within minutes, she called me and gave me an earful about how I just screwed over her entire family because they were depending on this income. She's got two adult brothers (late 20s), and her parents (early 50s). IMO, someone can work. I told her that I would've still helped her if she was honest with me about the business,

but that lying to me and adding me to her supply chain is s**tty as f**k. The conversation ended, and so did our ties. Ever since then, her business has seen a considerable decrease in public interaction, and some still leave comments about the s**t she pulled.

People have thanked me for speaking up, as she had done the same to them, but they stayed quiet to preserve ties. Others have called me an AH for destroying the business of a relative. IMO, the business was destroyed the moment she started slithering, and it was only a matter of time before someone spoke up.

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I do feel bad if I genuinely screwed over the rest of her family, which is why I'm wondering if I should've just shut up.. So Reddit, was I TA for speaking the truth? Edit: Wow this is really blowing up! And I understand that there are mixed feelings about it.

Don't worry, I recognize that I may have overshot my response to the situation. I'll explain my judgement to bring it up publicly, and hopefully that helps everyone make their decisions. I can definitely see why I was rash for bringing it up publicly.

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I do still think that, even though it was an a**hole move on my part, dealing with it privately wouldn't have gone anywhere. If I had brought it up to her first, (as from her natural character) there's a big chance she could've blocked me off the only social media that her business is on, so I couldn't have spread the message to the poor souls buying those clothes.

I feel like I got very lucky that she screwed up and posted it to the page that I was following. If I had brought it up to her privately, she would've realized her mistake and been more cunning with the way she went about this in the future (i.e. make sure she blocks the 'transporter' from the page so they have no idea).

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I felt like I took this one mess up, and didn't let go of the chance. Also, I think the whole 'she would've used it as a lesson learned' thing would've only really applied if she was unknowingly doing something wrong, and was willing to take criticism or learn from a situation.

However, seeing that she has repeatedly lied to people, (and she was 23 years old at the time as well), it was clear that she was doing this with malicious intent. As in, she knew she was lying, she knew that it was wrong, and still went with it. That didn't sit right with me.

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Edit 2: A lot of people are asking why I didn't just say no. I have detailed this a bit more in the comments, but essentially, there was a massive family expectation for me to help her out because of this supposed wedding. There was a lot of pressure and guilt tripping that resulted every time I tried to argue that I needed space in my luggage.

Stuff like 'oh you can't do this for family cause you need to shop SOOO much right', 'if you can't even do this for your cousin, imagine what happens when your parents get old. Guess they'll end up in a senior home cause you can't make space for them too'.

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It gets brutal and this kind of stuff is deeply rooted in my culture. I know that there will be some people who don't understand this and that's fine. Just hold the assumption that I had no other choice but agree to help her.

Family favors can blur the line between help and exploitation, especially when trust is weaponized. The cousin’s lie about a wedding to secure free labor for her business crosses an ethical line. Dr. Lindsay Malloy, a developmental psychologist, states, “Deception in family dynamics often stems from exploiting cultural expectations, like duty, to avoid accountability” (Psychology Today). The woman’s public outburst, while impulsive, was a reaction to being manipulated under the guise of familial obligation.

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This situation highlights broader issues of transparency in small businesses. A 2020 study by the Better Business Bureau found that 62% of consumers are less likely to support businesses caught in deceptive practices (BBB). The cousin’s reliance on lies to cut costs suggests a shaky business model, unsustainable without honesty. Her markup on the sarees wasn’t the issue; the betrayal was.

Dr. Malloy suggests addressing such conflicts privately first: “Confront the individual directly to clarify intent and seek resolution.” The woman could have messaged her cousin before going public, potentially preserving family ties. However, given the cousin’s pattern of deceiving others, public exposure likely protected future victims.

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For resolution, the woman might consider a mediated family discussion to rebuild trust, while the cousin should formalize her supply chain transparently. Honesty in business and family dealings prevents such blowups, ensuring mutual respect.

Check out how the community responded:

The Reddit crowd jumped into this family drama like moths to a flame, serving up a spicy mix of cheers and jeers. Some hailed the woman as a whistleblower, others tsk-tsked her for airing dirty laundry online. Here’s the raw scoop from the community:

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Ok_Smell_8260 − NTA. And she probably avoided customs dues by having you import them rather than doing it properly. She is deluded to think you wouldn't a. find out and b. be pissed off that she hadn't been honest and c. feel she was making an obscene profit off the back of her deception.

RogueFanUK − NTA. Evading customs duty is a crime and she just made you an accessory after the fact - this could still come back to bite you - if the authorities ever investigate her or her business they could come after you as well. If you don't already have a lawyer, now would be a good time to at least look at reputable firms just in case you need one.

\*EDIT\* - various people have said I'm overreacting, the authorities won't care or the exact offence I'm citing doesn't exist under Canadian law. To them I say this, regardless of the criminal liability or likelihood of criminal investigation,

and charges there's always the chance of it occurring, resulting in time and expense to fight the charges even if they get them dismissed and even being charged can have deleterious effects on gaining employment, especially in sensitive areas or occupations.

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If the OP ever decides, for example, to enter law enforcement, a very detailed background check will be made. If it transpires that a family member is involved in evasion of customs duty and the OP was ever even tangentially involved, that could scupper her chances.

Also the OP said 'native country' in their post which suggests they might not be a Canadian citizen. If it comes to light that they've been involved in any kind of smuggling that could affect their residency / leave to remain / future citizenship application etc.

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They might (as one other poster has already suggested) be subject to extra scrutiny and searches if they leave and return to Canada and have every little thing checked for potential border and customs violations. If they are not a citizen, they could even be denied re-entry.

In short, the OP's cousin has exposed them to an unknown number of potential criminal, civil and personal consequence that could surface at any time without warning. There's a difference between 'unlikely' and 'impossible'. Never underestimate how bureaucracy can conspire to make your life hell.

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bob_the_driver − NTA. If her business relies on deceiving and taking advantage of her family, it's not a business that should exist. Too many assholes want to run their own business but suck at it, and somehow think that means they should just be able to s**ew over everyone else to stay afloat. She can stop sitting in her house in her pjs, calling herself an 'entrepreneur' and get an actual job. I hear restaurants are hiring.

GreekAmericanDom − NTA. She shouldn't have lied to you. Her business shouldn't be so fragile that the truth can damage it.

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ClothDiaperAddicts − She doesn't have a business. She had a 'side hustle' that required scheming her family/friends for merchandise. I'd be doubtful AF if there's an actual business in here with licensing, wholesalers, etc. NTA, obvs.

nobody_nemo_nobody − NTA. Anyone commenting here that you agreed to bring back the sarees and were compensated appropriately has never. a) Been in a situation where the whole family always jumps onto someone traveling “home” to bring things back. b) Experienced the combined weight of family displeasure if you turn them down.

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The family would have understood “No, I do not have room for sarees” if the cuz had said it was for a business. Since it was for a family wedding, though, all hell would have broken loose if OP turned down the cuz. The family displeasure was 100% how cuz managed to trick so many others into doing exactly this.

And let’s be honest here - bringing special clothes back from a “home” country just to sell them is super common. No one ever worries about import fees bc even though it’s illegal, it happens so often and no one is ever fined. So cuz legit was bring a snake with the way they went about it all.

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If OP didn’t confront them publicly, it would also have distorted the story. Cuz is a confirmed liar, she would have made things up and lied to make herself seem better. Going public about things means everyone knows the truth including family.. All of you E S H and Y T A commenters just don’t get it.

RoyallyOakie − NTA...Anyone who travels knows what a pain in the but it is to try and bring things back for people. She portrayed her business as a personal family favour. It's definitely not your job to provide someone with an income. That's why it's best to just tell people that your luggage space is spoken for.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. People have thanked me for speaking up, as she had done the same to them, but they stayed quiet to preserve ties. That right there showed her greed. If lying to you had been a necessity for her family's fnancial situation then it'd have happened once or twice.

But the fact that she's done the same to so many others shows that she wants for people to do her job without actually having them hired as workers so she doesn't have to give them a monthly paycheck.

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Penelope1000000 − INFO: Why comment on her Instagram page? How is she lying to her customers (versus to you)? Did she say she made the sarees?

CT0760 − NTA, she used you for her business and wasnt upfront about it. If she was better with her business, and not so underhanded, then she should be able to weather this situation.

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Redditors were split—some praised her for exposing a scam, while others questioned her public approach. But do these hot takes capture the full mess, or are they just fanning the flames? One thing’s clear: this saree saga has sparked a fierce debate about truth versus family loyalty.

This tale of sarees and secrets shows how fast trust can unravel when family and business mix. The woman’s Instagram comment was a bold move, exposing her cousin’s deceit but torching their relationship and the business’s reputation. Cultural pressures and family expectations add layers to this drama, making her choice both understandable and divisive. Have you ever been caught between family loyalty and calling out a lie? Share your stories—what would you do in her shoes?

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