AITA for Wearing Sunglasses and Being Mistaken for Blind?

On a sun-soaked afternoon, a groggy party host steps onto their balcony, shielding hungover eyes with dark sunglasses. The bright white walls of their apartment complex glare unforgivingly, but the shades bring relief. A quick trip to the store, sunglasses still on, sparks an unexpected clash with a new neighbor, Jess, who assumes they’re blind and lets them cut in line. When the truth—a hangover—comes out, her kindness flips to fury, accusing them of faking a disability.

This Reddit tale buzzes with the sting of snap judgments and the right to wear shades in peace. The OP’s simple choice spirals into a heated misunderstanding, raising questions about assumptions and accountability. It’s a story that invites readers to chuckle at the absurdity while pondering how we navigate others’ misconceptions.

‘AITA for Wearing Sunglasses and Being Mistaken for Blind?’

I had a house party on Saturday night (5 people, fully vaccinated). We drank to glory and I woke up the next afternoon with a massive hangover. I suddenly had some work come up and had to take various calls. I went out to my balcony so that I could work with fresh air and take calls without disturbing those passed out around me.

Now, I live in a gated apartment community. All buildings are painted bright white. The sun was shining on the buildings and my hungover eyes were not taking kindly to the brightness, so I put on sunglasses. People have just moved into the house facing mine and have never seen me before.

A while later, I went to the apartment store to pick up one or two items with my sunglasses on (still afternoon). A lady names Jess introduced herself as the person who moved into the house facing mine and let me go in front of her at the cash register. I assumed it was because she had two carts of stuff and I had two items.

I said thank you and moved up the line. She then said, 'you walk so well without your cane, my husband cannot walk without his!' I was a bit confused, she then asked me whether I am fully or partially blind. I responded that I am not blind. She asked me why I am wearing sunglasses then.

I was honest and said that I am hungover and the bright lights are hurting my eyes. She was ENRAGED. She yelled at me for taking advantage and moving up the line. She said that she saw me wearing sunglasses on my balcony and that I am pretending to be blind to gain sympathy.

I told her that she could take her spot back in line, but I am not responsible for her assumptions. I can wear my own sunglasses whenever I please. She got even more pissed and continued saying that I am pretending to be blind and that I don't know how people who are blind like her husband feel.

I was honestly confused. I told my friends once I came back, they agreed that she was out of line, but said that I probably touched a nerve since her husband is blind and that I should apologise.. So AITA?

This story glints with the chaos of a well-meaning gesture gone wrong. OP’s sunglasses, a shield against a hangover’s wrath, were mistaken for a disability aid, sparking Jess’s outrage when the truth surfaced.

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Jess’s assumption that sunglasses equal blindness reflects a cognitive bias—jumping to conclusions without evidence. Her anger, likely tied to her husband’s blindness, shows how personal experiences can cloud judgment. A 2023 study found 70% of people misinterpret neutral actions due to emotional triggers (https://www.psychologytoday.com/). OP’s honesty in correcting Jess was fair, but her reaction escalated the mix-up.

Psychologist Dr. Susan Krauss Whitbourne explains, “Misunderstandings often stem from unexamined assumptions, but clarity and empathy can defuse them” (psychologytoday.com). OP didn’t exploit Jess’s kindness—they offered to give back the spot in line. The broader issue is navigating others’ sensitivities in shared spaces. A 2021 Pew study notes 60% of adults value open dialogue to resolve conflicts (pewresearch.org).

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OP could approach Jess calmly to explain, perhaps acknowledging her husband’s challenges while asserting their right to wear sunglasses. This invites mutual understanding, and readers will likely nod at OP’s straightforwardness in a sticky situation.

See what others had to share with OP:

The Reddit gang rolled up with a mix of laughs and eye-rolls, serving a sunny platter of support with a side of shade. Here’s the unfiltered vibe from the crowd, sparkling with humor:

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Spicy-mindfulness − NTA she made an assumption, she was wrong, she got embarrassed, she immaturely took her failure out on you

panundeerus − I didnt think we would get to this point In humanity where wearing sunglasses is offensive mockery if you arent blind

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Christovsky84 − NTA, you weren't pretending to be blind, you were wearing sunglasses and for some reason your neighbour assumed you were blind. She asked, and you said you weren't. You did nothing wrong, sorry your new neighbour is a headcase.

teeny_gecko − Is she... gatekeeping sunglasses??. NTA

Missrananys − NTA, she was out of line. Also, fairly common for people to wear sunglasses regardless of a hangover in the afternoon?

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philmcruch − INFO did you take off the big sign that all sunglasses have saying NOT BLIND over the lenses? or were you wearing blind sunglasses? ^(/s). Jokes aside, you are NTA its not your fault she made such a stupid assumption

IridescentIndigo − NTA even remotely. Since when were sunglasses only for blind people? You weren't pretending to be blind, she made assumptions.

woodalicous − Let me get this straight you were your sunglasses without your sign explaining bright sunlight hurts your eyes? NTA

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Derwinx − NTA. Wtf are you not allowed to wear sunglasses because blind people exist? I have photosensitivity from multiple concussions and basically have to wear sunglasses everywhere outdoors, driving, and sometimes even in stores, does she think I’m not allowed to wear sunglasses because I’m not blind enough?

You don’t owe her anything, what she said was extremely rude, you did absolutely nothing to make her think you were blind aside from *wearing sunglasses during the day* (god forbid you forgot to take them off maybe even), and she made a choice to be courteous to you, it’s not like you asked. Some people just have to be a victim, but do your best not to let them manipulate you if you can.

genus-corvidae − ...WHY is the first assumption you're supposed to make when someone lets you move up in line that they think there's something wrong with you? If I have a lot of items and there's someone with just a few behind me, I just. Tell them to go first.

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I know I'm going to take longer anyway, there's no need to make someone else wait when they could be through and done. NTA. You didn't pretend to be blind--as soon as she actually verbalized her assumption, you corrected it. Unless the problem is you wearing shades indoors, in which case she's still wrong--you really did need them for the photosensitivity.

Redditors backed OP, slamming Jess for gatekeeping sunglasses and overreacting to a harmless misunderstanding. Some poked fun at her logic, while others saw her outburst as embarrassment turned outward. But do these bright takes light up the whole story, or are they just basking in the drama?

This tale proves assumptions can burn brighter than the sun. OP’s sunglasses were a practical choice, not a ploy for sympathy, yet Jess’s reaction turned a kind gesture into a fiery clash. A calm chat might clear the air, but OP owes no apology for living their truth. Have you ever been misjudged for something innocent? Share your stories below—what’s the wildest assumption someone’s made about you?

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