AITA For walking out of a job interview?

Step into a tense job interview where professionalism crumbles and tempers flare. This Reddit saga unfolds as a 26-year-old man storms out after an HR interviewer, late and mocking, belittles his life choices and credentials. The exit escalates when a public jab from HR triggers a homophobic retort from the candidate. Was his walkout warranted, or did he go too far? Reddit and experts dive into this clash of respect and regret.

The interview’s toxicity exposes raw nerves, from workplace culture to personal slights. This tale of boundaries and missteps pulls us into a debate about handling unprofessionalism without losing integrity. Let’s unpack the story, community reactions, and expert insights

‘AITA For walking out of a job interview?’

I (26M) got offered an interview for a job I had my eye on for quite some time. I was scheduled to meet with three people within the actual office itself, and considering this was a job that could be done remotely, that raised my suspicion but I still decided to learn more about the position.

When I got there, the first interviewer (who was with HR) took almost 20 minutes to call me in. The receptionist was nice and all, and kept trying to reach out to them to see what was taking so long, but nonetheless that irked me the wrong way. My interviewer eventually walked into the lobby and told me to follow him, no apology for the long wait.

To describe him, he was a tiny guy, about 5'6, and spoke in that weird valley girl accent (important later). The actual interview went off the rails really quick. My interviewer was rude to me and cut me off a lot. For background, I live with my parents because they have health issues and I help take care of them, so moving out isn't an easy option for me or them.

When the interviewer asked where I lived, I told him I lived with my parents in X town. He laughed and asked if I was too scared to move out. I was still trying to be professional but he kept making snide remarks about some of my experience, the state school I went to, etc.

I eventually got fed up and I felt like I wasn't going to get the job anyways so I decided to tell him 'you're being really unprofessional, so we're done here.'. He got mad and said 'so you don't want to meet the team you're interviewing with?'. I told him 'no, if HR is this unprofessional then I can't imagine what everyone else here is like.'

As I was leaving through the lobby, the HR guy followed me and tried to embarrass me by saying out loud to the receptionist 'he is no longer welcomed here, if he tries to come back in call the police.' I told him to shove it and go make out with his boyfriend so that way no one has to hear his voice, then I left.

I had never walked out of an interview in my life, no matter how well or bad they went. I did kinda feel bad for skipping out on the other two interviews which would have been with some of the managers on the team I would be working with, but I absolutely hate most HR departments as it is since they produce some of the most toxic people, and if this HR guy was really unprofessional, I question the company as a whole.

This man’s decision to leave the interview was a valid response to unprofessional conduct. The HR interviewer’s tardiness, mockery, and public shaming breached basic workplace etiquette. Dr. Amy Edmondson, a workplace culture expert, notes, “Disrespectful interview practices signal deeper organizational flaws.” The candidate’s choice to prioritize self-respect aligns with protecting mental health in toxic settings.

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However, his homophobic remark was a misstep, undermining his high ground. Studies show 25% of workplace conflicts escalate due to personal insults, often reflecting unchecked biases. The interviewer’s behavior doesn’t excuse discriminatory language, which could harm OP’s reputation.

Edmondson’s work emphasizes constructive feedback over retaliation. A calm exit with a professional critique could have preserved OP’s dignity. Job seekers facing this might document incidents for later reporting.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit’s split with an “ESH” verdict, roasting both sides. Here’s their sharp take:

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Virulencer - ESH. This whole thing is just two assholes butting heads. You were perfectly within your right to leave because he was being unprofessional. But did you really need to stoop so low with the final comment you made?

wageslave890 - ESH The HR guy is an AH for being insulting and rude, and you are also an AH for being h**ophobic. You were right to walk out, but from what I see in the comments you keep defending your homophobia which reverses any sympathy I might have had.

You are clearly just as judgemental of the way this guy talks as he is of you living with your parents. Assuming someone's sexuality from their voice/looks and then using that assumption to attack them is a AH move.

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thepasswordisdonkey - I told him to shove it and go make out with his boyfriend. YTA just for this. It's fine to walk out of interviews. It's fine to let them know WHY you're walking out of the interview. It's not okay to insinuate someone's gay as an insult. It's 2020, don't be h**ophobic.

Also... your main complaint is that he was so unprofessional, but insulting him is also incredibly unprofessional. If you're going to say you value professionalism, then act like it. You lost any chance you had of being taken seriously, because instead of 'good candidate giving feedback about why they turned down the job' is now just 'petty spat with a rude h**ophobic candidate'.

KittySnowpants - ESH. I was totally cheering for you until you decided to throw in a h**ophobic dig. You were perfectly justified until you went low.

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Old_Sheepherder_630 - ESH. Out of curiosity what on earth does his height have to do with anything?

the-willow-witch - YTA for being h**ophobic. I also imagine much of this story is over exaggerated and you just don’t like him because he’s “feminine” and you’re h**ophobic. Short men with “valley girl accents” aren’t necessarily gay anyway. Ugh.

paxgarmana - I told him to shove it and go make out with his boyfriend so that way no one has to hear his voice, then I left.. aaaaaaaaand that's what made it ESH

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HappySnowFox - You were without a doubt N T A up until the final insult. Don't stoop to someone else's level. And especially don't insult someone based on a stereotype and/or their s**ual preferences. That's always unnecessary and will always make you an a**hole.. So it has to be ESH. Edit: formatting

somedayillfindthis - ESH, you're both assholes, now go make out with each other

augustsippedaway - You’re joking right? YTA

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These opinions cut deep, but do they fairly weigh both faults? Reddit’s a fiery stage—let’s see if they balance it.

This story stirs a pot of righteous anger and regrettable jabs. The man’s walkout rejected toxicity, but his final insult tainted his stand. Could he have left without the low blow? It’s a dance of pride and prejudice. What would you do in a hostile interview? Share your stories—how do you exit with grace?

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