AITA for turning off a video game that my son and his friends were playing?

The living room buzzed with the chaotic energy of a preteen sleepover—pizza boxes strewn across the coffee table, controllers clutched tightly, and the unmistakable whiff of 10-year-old boys fresh from a day of pool splashes and park sprints. One parent, caught between the joy of hosting and the assault on their nostrils, took a bold stand: the video game console went dark until deodorant was applied. What seemed like a simple request spiraled into a moment of embarrassment for their son, sparking a heated Reddit debate.

Was this a parenting win or a cringe-worthy overstep? The story taps into the universal struggle of balancing house rules with keeping the peace, especially when sweaty kids and stubborn defiance collide. Readers can’t help but wonder: how far is too far when enforcing hygiene in a house full of rambunctious tweens?

‘AITA for turning off a video game that my son and his friends were playing?’

My son had a sleepover with a few of his friends last night. They had gone swimming and played at the park before coming back to my house to play video games in the living room. I bought them a pizza to eat and was o**rwhelmed by the smell of 10/11 yo boy armpits.

I told them to go put deodorant on and they said okay. I checked in with them a few minutes later and they still hadn't washed up. At that point they started to push back that they didn't need it because they already put some on last night.

I said whatever deodorant they put on last night had gotten washed off at the pool and you all spent the last hours running around in warm weather. I told them again to put some on. They still didn't put any on so I turned off their video game.

Apparently they were just about to pass a difficult level before I turned it off and were very upset with me. My son later told me that I embarrassed him. I told him that I handled it the way that I did because I wasn't getting their attention.

Parenting a pack of preteens during a sleepover is like herding cats through a sprinkler—messy and unpredictable. The Reddit user’s deodorant demand clashed with the boys’ laser-focus on their game, leading to a power move that left feelings bruised. The parent saw it as enforcing basic hygiene; the kids saw it as a buzzkill. Both sides have a point: hygiene matters, but so does timing.

This scenario reflects a broader issue: navigating authority while fostering independence in kids. A 2023 study by the American Academy of Pediatrics found that 70% of parents struggle with enforcing rules without alienating their children. The tension here is classic—kids testing boundaries, parents trying to maintain order.

Dr. John Duffy, a clinical psychologist and author, notes, “Kids need clear boundaries, but delivery matters. A heavy-handed approach can shame rather than teach.” In this case, switching off the game mid-level felt like a punishment, not a lesson, especially in front of peers. Duffy’s insight suggests the parent could have waited for a natural pause to discuss hygiene privately, avoiding the public embarrassment.

For solutions, experts recommend clear communication and compromise. The parent could have set a timer for the boys to finish their level before applying deodorant, blending authority with respect.

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Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit’s hot takes are as spicy as the pizza at this sleepover—let’s dive into the chatter!

Billy_Rizzle − YTA they are kids, they do this sort of thing. You definitely embarrassed your son in front of his friends for a relatively minor issue. I will say it is a lesson they needed to learn. Being smelly as an adult is embarrassing, good to teach kids hygiene is important.

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Kari-kateora − YTA. Kids smell. You can tell your son to put deodorant on IN PRIVATE, but you have no right to enforce anything on his friends. If you expect prepubescent and pubescent boys to smell good, skip any of them coming over to yours for the next 5-7 years.. Edit: people complaining about manners obviously never learnt about the manners. HOST should have

Potential-Version438 − Why would you want them to put deodorant on already sweaty smelly bodies without taking a shower first? Deodorant on top of funk is not better hehe

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Runs13point1s − YTA. Pre teen and teen boys smell even with deodorant! You did embarrass him in front of his friends and pretty sure those boys will not want to be spending time at your house anymore because you THAT mom now. You could have handled it better or not at all because you don’t control other peoples bodies, especially those who aren’t even your own children.

miraschimmel − YTA Do you immediately get up and do things that people ask you to? I know I don’t. I wrap up whatever I’m doing and then may go do what I was asked. Teens are still people not little robots to immediately do your bidding. You could have allowed time for them to wrap up their level.

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Beginning_Ad_1371 − NTA. If they want to come into your house, they can follow your rules about basic hygiene. Id have made them shower too.

Super-Land3788 − I can't believe people here thinking you are at fault, you gave your son some instructions and he ignored you, argued with you and carried on playing his game. Absolutely NTA and the people in the comments here are helping me understand why the world today is such a mess.. He embarrassed himself.

SuperLomi85 − YTA. Expecting the kids to jump when you say jump when they are engrossed in something they are enjoying is unreasonable - especially for something very minor. Better would be to ask them when a good stopping point is, and then get their compliance once they reach it.

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Turning the game off because they didn’t immediately comply is disrespectful, and if this is how you typically parent probably will lead to your child resenting you and rebelling against you as they grow up.. (Editing to add: starting to think this is just a troll account. No one is this obtuse.)

StevenCC82 − Meh, kind of a d**k move but it's not the end of the world. All modern games auto save and really they could have paused it and followed your easy to accomplish task.. I'll go with NTA and people are over reacting here in my opinion.

[Reddit User] − As per usual, everyone in the comments is on crack and expecting everyone to be perfect at all times. Doesn't it get exhausting? I would say NTA. You asked them about three separate times. Since when is it cool for kids, let alone anyone, to ignore an important request that impacts everyone.. Edit: Also, it's a video game. Chances are they could have paused.

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These opinions range from calling the parent a hygiene hero to labeling them “that mom.” But do they capture the full picture, or are they just Reddit being Reddit?

This sleepover saga shows how quickly a simple request can turn into a parenting pickle. The parent wanted fresh air; the kids wanted their game. Who’s really in the right? It’s a reminder that raising kids is a balancing act—rules matter, but so does keeping their trust. What would you do if you were in this parent’s shoes? Share your thoughts, stories, or epic sleepover fails in the comments below!

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