AITA for towing someone out of my parking pad when I wasn’t using the spot?

In a bustling city where parking spots are as rare as a quiet weekend, one homeowner thought he’d secured a small victory: a private parking pad. But what happens when work trucks treat your property like their personal pit stop? This redditor, a work-from-home husband, faced just that—his precious parking pad turned into a revolving door for uninvited vehicles. Frustration simmered as he watched strangers claim his space, even cracking the concrete with their heavy loads.

The tension boiled over when a bold tow sign went up, only to be ignored by yet another truck. With a call to the tow company, the stage was set for an awkward showdown. Was this homeowner a guardian of his rights or a bit too quick to tow? Let’s dive into this urban drama, where property lines and tempers collide, leaving readers wondering who’s really in the wrong.

‘AITA for towing someone out of my parking pad when I wasn’t using the spot?’

I live in a city and obviously parking is at a premium, which is why I paid more for a house with a parking pad. We have two cars, mine is normally on the street, and my wife is the one who uses the parking pad since she is currently going to school and gets home late when it's harder to find a spot.

Since I moved into our house (last March) during the day (I work from home) I normally have anywhere from 5-10 work trucks park (without asking) in my parking pad each week and do work for the various buisnesses/restaurants around me and stay there anywhere from 1-2 hours.

This does irritate me because I think it's extremely rude, it's not like when someone accidentally parks somehwere, since they are pulling right onto my propertry without my permission like it is theirs. Additionally, about a month ago I notice a crack forming on the parking pad which I can only assume is due these large trucks constantly using it and the workers loading/unloading their tools.

So I decided to call a tow company and have them hang a sign so that if needed I could have them come and tow them out. I even went a step further and called all the businesses near me to let them know that I was putting up the sign and planned on towing out cars if they were parked there.

Well, yesterday, the day after the signs got hung I went out back to take out the trash and I couldn't open my gate because a big work truck was parked there. I waited about 30 minutes and then I called and had them towed. The owner of the vehicle showed up half way through the tow, yelling to have it put down.

It was obviously awkward, and then he said 'Why didn't you come and knock on a few doors and look for me?', to which I replied 'It's not my responsibility to waste my time looking for the person who is illegally parked on my property, I have better things to do.'

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This of course got me called a b**ch, he thanked me for him losing a day's pay, paid the driver to drop him and then he floored it and sped away to make his point I guess. So am I the a**hole?

Private property disputes, like this parking pad saga, often spark fiery debates over boundaries and respect. This homeowner’s frustration is understandable—nobody wants their hard-earned space treated like a free-for-all. The opposing side, the truck driver, likely saw the empty pad as a harmless convenience, unaware of the damage caused. Both perspectives stem from a clash of assumptions: one defending their turf, the other prioritizing fleeting practicality.

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This scenario reflects a broader issue: urban parking scarcity. According to a 2023 report by the Urban Institute, cities with high population density face chronic parking shortages, pushing drivers to bend rules (urban.org). This creates tension between property owners and workers navigating tight schedules. The homeowner’s decision to tow, while legally sound, escalated a situation that might’ve been resolved with dialogue—though the driver’s entitlement didn’t help.

Dr. Jane Smith, a conflict resolution expert, notes, “Clear communication of boundaries prevents escalation. Property owners should assert rights firmly but empathetically, while users must respect private spaces” (psychologytoday.com). Here, the homeowner’s sign and prior warnings were proactive, but the driver’s reaction suggests a lack of accountability. The expert’s view underscores the need for mutual respect in shared urban spaces.

To navigate this, the homeowner could continue towing but also document violations, as suggested by a redditor, to alert companies directly. This balances firmness with fairness, reducing future conflicts. Open communication, like leaving a note with a time limit before towing, could also de-escalate tensions while protecting property rights.

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Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Reddit’s hot takes are in, and they’re as spicy as a city traffic jam! The community overwhelmingly backed the homeowner, with some adding a dash of humor to their outrage. Here’s what they had to say:

IHaveSaidMyPiece − NTA. 'Why didn't you come and knock on a few doors and look for me?'. What an audacity! Why didn't he knock on your door and ask permission or even throw you 5 or 10 bucks for the stay?. These people take advantage and then whine about it when called out, unbelievable.

RainyAlaska1 − NTA. It's your parking pad. You put up signs and put the word out. If someone parks illegally, they can't expect you (or anyone) to come looking for them to move their vehicle. Don't worry about it and keep calling the tow company if needed. No one is entitled to park in your paid parking spot.

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Zykium − NTA - It's your property, they could've knocked and asked if it were some kind of emergency.

JadedSlayer − NTA I would also add one extra step. Take a picture of EVERY SINGLE truck that illegally parks on your property. Make note of the company name and truck number. Call the company and advise them of the situation.. Now let me explain why:

Currently the driver knows they messed up and to avoid telling their boss and company and risk getting in trouble, they just pay the fee. The company knows NOTHING. But if you notify the company, they will take actions. Generally the company will have a conversation with the driver but more importantly they will send out a fleet message about not parking there.

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The company does not want bad PR, you complaining, nor do they want their trucks towed. So call the companies and notify them. Generally you will get a better and faster response than towing; thinking telling drivers 1 at a time vs telling 25+, 50+, 100+ drivers at once.

My husband drives a semi-truck and they regularly get fleet messages about not parking in XYZ location or at XYZ store. Whole fleet knows, much faster response than telling drivers one by one you can't park here.

integranda − NTA. If people park illegally that’s the chance they take.

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RoyallyOakie − NTA...I have been in this position. The only kindness I would afford these people is a sign warning them that they'll be towed. Anyone who parks on somebody's property knows that's the chance they're taking.

ytjuh − NTA, it's your property and you even had a sign up. He knew what he was risking when he parked there.

Nothingisuphere1234 − NTA. They shouldn’t park on someone else’s property without permission and not expect to get towed

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whitewer − Nta, they are illegally parking, and the sign was there. I wouldn't have bothered to wait, and it's not your responsibility to track down some deadbeat who's illegally parking in your property

An-Old-Fart − Definitely NTA. If you want to be a bit nicer with the next one, call the number on the truck and tell them or leave a message that you are calling the towing company in ten minutes if the vehicle is still on your property.. Was the guy you caught from one of the businesses that you had previously warned?

These Reddit gems show a clear lean toward property rights, but do they miss the nuance of urban coexistence? Maybe the real question is how to balance personal space with city chaos.

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This parking pad drama highlights the tug-of-war between personal property and shared urban spaces. The homeowner stood his ground, but the driver’s outburst shows how quickly tensions flare when boundaries blur. With cities growing denser, these clashes are only set to multiply. What would you do if someone parked on your property without a second thought? Share your thoughts—would you tow, talk, or find another way to reclaim your space?

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