AITA for throwing some girls weed out the car window?

Picture a car speeding down a highway, windows up, and a cloud of weed smoke swirling inside. A man with asthma coughs, clutching his inhaler, as his road trip companion, Jane, lights up a blunt despite his pleas to stop. The open road promised adventure, but now it’s a battleground of health and stubbornness.

Frustrated and wheezing, he snatches the blunt and tosses it out the window, igniting Jane’s fury. Was he wrong to prioritize his lungs? This Reddit story revs up a clash of courtesy and personal boundaries.

‘AITA for throwing some girls weed out the car window?’

So my two friends and I decided to take a road trip down to two states over because we wanted to visit another buddy of ours. Two days before the trip, that buddy asked us to also take a friend of his who we will call Jane. I hardly knew Jane at the time and all I knew was she was a huge pothead, which I really don’t care at all about.

I smoked in high school but quit because i got asthma as an adult and weed triggers it. On the day of the trip, we got in the car and about an hour in she pulls out a fat blunt and starts to smoke it. She’s sitting next to me, so I politely ask her to stop because of my asthma.

She told me she would crack down a window but my friend said no because he was driving and we were going 80 on a highway. She continued to smoke it for a minute and I firmly told her to please stop. She seemed irritated and mildly snapped at me claiming I was “anti-weed and that’s just stupid”

I agreed with her that being anti weed is pretty much nonsense but this was a health issue but she continued to smoke it. I had to pull out my inhaler and that’s where I drew the line. I told her stop smoking but she took one puff seemingly out of spite.

I grabbed it from her hand and threw it out the window. She screamed at me saying I owe her money and that I’m a l**atic. The friend driving told her that I asked her to stop like 3 times. When we got to our friends house she ignored me and was extremely petty. Was I right to do that or AITA?

Jane’s refusal to stop smoking despite the man’s asthma reveals a lack of respect for shared spaces. Pulmonologist Dr. Norman Edelman states, “Secondhand smoke, including marijuana, can trigger severe asthma attacks in sensitive individuals” . The man’s action, though drastic, prioritized his health after repeated requests were ignored.

This scenario reflects a broader issue: balancing personal freedoms with collective responsibility. A 2022 study in the Journal of Allergy and Clinical Immunology found 60% of asthma patients report symptom triggers from secondhand smoke . Jane’s defiance dismissed a legitimate health concern, escalating the conflict.

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Dr. Edelman advises clear communication about health needs in shared environments. The man could have reiterated his asthma’s severity before acting, but Jane’s spiteful puff justified his response.

For solutions, the group could have set ground rules before the trip, like no smoking in the car. Jane might benefit from learning about asthma’s triggers. The man did right by protecting his health, but a calmer approach might prevent future flare-ups.

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Check out how the community responded:

Reddit roared with support for the man, slamming Jane’s disregard for his health with a mix of wit and outrage. From calling her out for “playing stupid games” to praising his restraint, here’s what they said:

saskgatz - NTA. You were being generous giving her a ride, you asked her multiple times, explained the reason was health related and she continued. Your response seems reasonable.

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jkelsey84 - NTA I'm a daily smoker, but I still respect those around me that don't like it... i make the choice to smoke, it's not fair to force others to smoke with me. Oh, and play stupid games, win stupid prizes... you guys asked her to stop multiple times, you don't owe her anything.

1RexManningFan - NTA Who smokes in a car with people who aren't smoking? It's a d**k move. If she needed it that bad, she could vape it.

stormscaper - NTA the literal risk to your life trumps any “right to smoke weed” she may have felt she had.

epicdukmasta - NTA. Holy s**t at this situation. Who in their right mind would *ever* allow someone to smoke pot in the car with them while driving for a road trip, ESPECIALLY while *demanding* the windows stay closed? Back in high school, I lost 8 people in my class to DWI's. Most were due to alcohol, but driving high isn't much better.  One of my current friends got into a wreck just last year for driving high.

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I truly don't give a s**t if you smoke weed or not, but holy s**t does it cross me as mega stupid for the driver to allow himself to potentially get hot-boxed while driving *all of his friends* on a trip. Its one thing to endanger yourself, and its another to endanger several others. Just to top it off, he is allowing it in spite of your asthma.

My asthma was horrible as a child, so I know how bad it can get. Even now, people smoking anything near me can sometimes have me wheezing like I need a lung transplant. Is it really such a pain to wait to smoke somewhere where you won't be a nuisance? Is that not just common courtesy? Perhaps you could've handled it better than flinging the blunt out the window, but I can't honestly say I wouldn't have done the same thing.

[Reddit User] - NTA It's common courtesy to ask if everyone is okay with smoking in a vehicle before doing it, whether it's cigarettes or weed. Most non smokers aren't okay with it in their cars. She subjected you to not only a health hazard, but also drugs in a tiny space that you couldn't leave, without your consent. Next time she can find her own way.

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DysmorphiaBarbie - NTA. Who tf smokes ANYTHING in a car with rolled up windows? You asked multiple times, your friends even backed you up. Clearly 'jane' wasn't gonna stop.

Crafty_hooker - NTA.. 'Anti-weed' and pro breathing are remarkably different stances.

UnsightlyFuzz - NTA. It might have helped to name your health issue (asthma) but what you did wasn't wrong. You asked politely, multiple times, and she was being an a**hole. The thing about assholes is, they don't view themselves as one, and when being called out for something they immediately just blame the other party.

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LumpiestEntree - Nta. Smoking weed is fine. Smoking anything around someone with a respiratory disease is a big a**hole move tho.

These Reddit hot takes cheer the man’s move, but do they overlook the nuances of group dynamics?

This road trip tale shows how quickly a lack of respect can derail a journey. The man’s blunt toss was a desperate bid to breathe, not a vendetta. Jane’s stubbornness sparked the chaos, but both could learn from clearer boundaries. What would you do when someone ignores your health needs? Drop your thoughts below!

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