AITA for telling others about the family therapist firing my dad and his wife?

The air in a cozy family home turned icy when a 16-year-old, still grieving their mother’s death, clashed with their father’s new wife over her sudden role as a parent. The teen’s world, already rocked by loss, felt betrayed when their dad broke promises of taking things slow, thrusting a new authority figure into their life. From chore lists to homework checks, the stepmother’s overreach sparked rebellion, pushing the family into therapy—where things only got messier.

When the therapist called it quits, fed up with the parents’ refusal to listen, the teen didn’t keep quiet. Sharing the saga with friends and family stirred up a storm, with the dad crying foul over “private” matters. This tale of grief, broken trust, and a teen’s defiance pulls us into the raw emotions of a blended family struggling to find balance.

‘AITA for telling others about the family therapist firing my dad and his wife?’

My mom died when I (16) was 11. My dad remarried last year. I didn't like it and I acted up. I still don't like it, full disclosure. But I was a t**ror and made life harder for them. I felt like dad betrayed me and my mom by marrying again and so fast too but my biggest thing was they expected her to slot right in like she was suddenly my parent too and someone who got to make decisions for me.

It was things like giving me new chores, telling me how to dress and what I should eat, where I should and shouldn't go, trying to make me explain my homework to her and expecting to let her review it. S**t like that I hated and I would get so mad that I'd scream at her. And at dad when he backed her up. So I'd sneak out, I was rude to them, I wouldn't listen to her and other stuff like that.

My dad tried talking to me. But he talked to me before he met her too. He made promises about how it would be just us until I was ready to move out. He promised me he needed a lot of time before he could think about dating again because he loved my mom so much. Then he's already dating someone and they're getting married and I was still 15 and couldn't just leave.

And not only that but he was acting like she was now my parent too? I felt like that wasn't fair. Hell date and keep her from moving in but they had clearly talked about how she'd be a parent once she moved in because they were on the same page with that stuff.

When things were getting so bad that dad was worried I'd run away, and I considered it, and I stayed out all night sometimes, he told us we needed family therapy. Strike one in family therapy was my dad and his wife refused the therapists suggestion of each of us getting solo sessions too. They just wanted the group sessions.

Strike two was the way they would talk over me when I was asked what I would be okay with or would like to see. The therapist said if me, the teen, could listen then so could they. Strike three was dad arguing back against the therapist and his wife calling her useless. Dad said she was not giving good advice and that he didn't need to consult me on who could and couldn't come into our home or help him parent me.

He said he didn't care if he sounded like an ass to me but he had decided his wife was deserving of equal respect and authority. Strike four which was the final strike was they refused to compromise. I already had. I stopped being so disrespectful and getting into so much trouble.

I did ignore my dad's wife a lot because I couldn't handle talking to her with how she talked to me, but I wouldn't go anywhere without asking or stay out all night and I didn't call her and I stopped calling her names. But they refused to discuss her not being my parent. The therapist even told me if she got them to agree it would be re-evaluated and discussed more over time.

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That she might end up with some parental-like authority eventually. But they said she was staying my parent and they weren't willing to discuss it. They told the therapist she was meant to make me get on board with that. So the therapist told them they were wasting her time and she wouldn't see us all anymore.

She did say she'd continue to see me since I worked with her but my dad said no way and so none of us are going back. They're pissed that she fired them. I found it hilarious. I told my friends, I told different family members, I told the neighbor who dad would tell all our s**t to before. And my dad hates it.

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He told me I'm trying to humiliate them and it's personal business not public. I told him if he could tell people our business then so could I. He told me I was enjoying it too much. Then we got into another fight. But hey, I just went into my room instead of sneaking out. Dad and his wife are blaming me because dad's side of the family are giving them s**t for getting fired from therapy. AITA?

Blended families are a delicate dance, and this teen’s story shows what happens when the steps are out of sync. The father’s rapid remarriage and insistence on his new wife’s parental role ignored the teen’s grief, fueling conflict. Dr. Patricia Papernow, a stepfamily expert, notes, “Forcing a stepparent’s authority too soon can alienate a child” .

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The father and stepmother’s refusal to allow solo therapy sessions or respect the teen’s boundaries—like not treating the stepmother as a parent—escalated tensions. Their dismissal of the therapist’s advice, coupled with talking over the teen, shows a power struggle, not partnership. The teen’s past acting out was a cry for control, but their willingness to compromise shows maturity.

Dr. Papernow advises gradual bonding in stepfamilies, with biological parents leading discipline initially. The therapist’s exit was a professional boundary, not a failure, as the parents sought compliance, not solutions. The teen could benefit from individual counseling to process grief and navigate family dynamics, possibly through school resources.

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For resolution, the family needs open dialogue where the teen’s voice is heard. The father should prioritize his child’s emotional needs over enforcing his wife’s role. Sharing the story wasn’t ideal but reflects the teen’s frustration. Moving forward, setting clear boundaries and seeking a new therapist could rebuild trust.

Check out how the community responded:

The Reddit crowd dove into this family drama like it was a blockbuster showdown, tossing out support and shade with equal gusto. It’s like a group chat where everyone’s got a hot take and no filter. Here’s the raw scoop from the community:

writing_mm_romance − Sounds like your dad is willing to throw away a future with you for this woman. I'd tell that's exactly what he's doing, and when I turned 18, I'd be gone from his life and let him end up sad miserable and alone.

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MommersHeart − Imagine being such a mess, your therapist discovers the teenager is the only adult.. They were correct to quit. NTA.

JamieJamis − NTA!! Lots of disrespect, miscommunication, manipulation, and abuse of parental power. It's very showing of your character that, although you'd been acting out, within a year you settled and tried to compromise in a respectful, adult way like they should have. yes, you did lash out, but it doesn't seem like you really did wrong.

sneaking out and calling names, sure, but that is MILD compared to what some kids have and will do. Stay strong and safe! and always, always remember that respect goes two ways, if it's not reciprocated, there's no need to show respect. dignity, pride, and confidence, grey rock them, that's the right way to go here!!

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No_Worker_8216 − NTA. Can you go live with a family member for a few months, years? It would allow you to finish school in peace?. Running away will never be the solution. You gotta find a safe living environment.. Best of luck! 🥰

No_Cockroach4248 − NTA, your dad and his wife were not interested in therapy, they saw the therapist as an extra person to apply pressure on you to accept his wife’s role as your parent. I am sorry about the loss of your mom and your current situation at home.   I would make plans to leave as soon as you turn 18.

cakivalue − It takes a lot for a therapist to break up with a patient. They must have been really really bad and challenging to work with. See if your school counselor can help you find someone else just for yourself. You are a few years away from adulthood, you need the tools to deal with the present and to plan for your future.

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Free_Fishing_5116 − DAD : How dare you make our personal business public?. OP : Imma post this s**t on Reddit.. Well played kid, kudos - but you know, there's also Facebook, Instagram and Critter.. I think you are going to be okay - ' 'tis but a scratch.'

issueshappy − NTA. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom and what you're going through. Your dad and his wife are the absolute assholes. There are so many ways to handle situations like yours and instead of trying anything different they are just trying to force you into compliance and that will only drive you further away. You acted out but it was to be expected, having your dad get remarried so suddenly is bound to have an emotional reaction..

I would suggest batting down, focusing in on college and getting out of there Is there a guidance counselor that you can speak to at school that can connect you to therapy? Are you in Canada? You can try the kids help phone. Talking to someone so you don't let all this stuff build into you would be one of the best things you can do for yourself.

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Ok_Childhood_9774 − NTA, and dad and his wife deserve to be embarrassed. They created this problem, and when that fact was pointed out to them, they took their ball and went home. Your dad has done serious damage to your relationship, and he just wanted someone to tell him it was OK. Guess he FAFO.

Aidyn_the_Grey − NTA. I also know kind of how you feel, OP. My own mom died suddenly just a couple of weeks before my twelfth birthday. My dad started dating my step mom when I was 14, and they married when I was 16. At first, I was very much against it - I felt too much in my life had already changed, and now even more was changing, and I felt powerless to do anything about it.

The big difference in our two situations is how they handled the change - I was put in therapy, and my parents listened to the advice. The relationship between me and my step mom started rocky, but over years grew because it was allowed to at a pace which I was comfortable with.

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The old wounds never fully healed regarding mom's death, but over time, there's now just a metaphorical scar remaining. I'm in my 30s now, and I think of my step mom as my bonus mom, and while she never replaced my mom, I'm grateful for her being in my life at this point.

But so much of my story hinges on my boundaries being respected, and I'm not sure how much of a relationship, if any, I'd have with them if they acted as your parents are. I'd ask your dad how he's gonna feel in two years when you move out and cut contact.

Because the way he's steamrolling your boundaries and invalidating your feelings, he clearly DOES NOT CARE about your feelings whatsoever. His wife takes priority, as does his desire to keep his d**k wet (sorry for the visual), meanwhile you're just a reminder to both of them that there's history that involves another woman (your mother)

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and that his new wife is just that to you - the woman he married. She's not mom and never will be. If they both cooled it, maybe it would have been a possibility that she became more than just his wife, but the way they are attempting to force their will upon you has almost certainly eliminated that as an option.

Redditors cheered the teen’s spunk, slamming the parents’ steamrolling tactics and urging escape plans. Some saw the therapist’s exit as a badge of honor, others pushed for solo support. But do these spicy takes capture the full story, or are they just fueling the fire?

This teen’s story is a raw reminder that grief and family changes don’t mix easily. The therapist’s bold exit and the teen’s choice to spill the tea highlight a deeper struggle for respect and understanding. While Reddit backs the teen, the path forward lies in finding a way to heal without forcing roles. Have you ever faced a family clash where boundaries were ignored? What would you do in this teen’s shoes? Share your thoughts below!

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