AITA for telling my step father to get out of my house if he doesn’t like me?

Owning a home at 19 is a dream, but for one teen, it became a battleground. After inheriting his grandfather’s house, he welcomed his mother, new stepfather, and step-siblings, only to face his stepdad’s bossy demands to socialize and take on their chores. Tensions boiled over when the stepfather and his son accused him of slacking, prompting a fiery retort: “If you don’t like me, get out of my house!” His mother pushed for therapy, but the family split, some calling him disrespectful, others backing his rights.

An update reveals he evicted them after they refused rent, and his mom divorced the stepdad. Was his outburst justified, or too harsh? This Reddit saga dives into the clash of family roles, property rights, and blended-family strife. Can a young homeowner reclaim peace without losing family?

‘AITA for telling my step father to get out of my house if he doesn’t like me?’

So this happened a few months ago. When my grandfather passed away he gave.me 19m his house. And my brother land. My mom 50f, works overseas where she met my step dad 51m, and his kids 16f,16m.. Then my brother goes to another country. To get a better job. My mom then tells me. That she and my step dad will get married.

And will move in with me because they will sell the house there house. After a month they move in with me. After a while my step dad gets bossy trying to order me around the house. And trying to make his child's chores be my chores. So here's where the story starts in quarantine i don't get out of my room.often and sometimes cook for myself because they already finished eating.

Then my step dad said to me that i need to get out of my room to socialize and help with chores. I said i already did my chores and make his kids do his chores because im not doing it. My mom then mediated the situation but step dad became salty and said my mom is taking my side. The next week he does it again.

He said to me to help out on the house and do some chores. But i said to him i have already done it and check the chores that my mom assigned for me to do. Then he started to yell saying thet i make his kids do more chores. I then said that say it to mom because she is the one assigning them.

My mom yelled at us both and said that we need to have a family therapy session. We both agreed but then his kid,16m, said that i need to pull my own weight. And it goes dowhill. i yell at him that its my house and that he should pull his weight. i then called him a leech that doesn't contribute anything.

He then rages off to his room and my step dad says i have no right to yell at his son i said if he doesn't like me he can get the out the house my mom separated us and told me to cool down. The next day i see that the family group chat is split. saying i was disrespectful and others are with me saying i own the house. I don't know if im the ahole but please judge.

This 19-year-old’s clash with his stepfather was a power struggle in his own home. Inheriting his grandfather’s house gave him autonomy, but his mother’s decision to move in her new husband and stepkids without clear terms set the stage for conflict.

The stepfather’s bossy attempts to parent—demanding chores and socialization—overstepped, especially since the teen already handled his responsibilities. Yelling at the stepson, calling him a “leech,” and telling the stepdad to leave escalated tensions, but the root lies in unclear boundaries.

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Dr. Patricia Papernow, a blended-family expert, says, “Stepparents must earn authority, not demand it, especially with young adults.” The stepfather’s push to control a 19-year-old homeowner, not his child, was doomed. About 60% of blended families face role disputes, worsened when property dynamics shift power, as here. The mother’s mediation and chore assignments tried to balance peace but didn’t address her son’s ownership rights or her husband’s overreach.

The teen’s outburst, while harsh, voiced real frustration. Evicting them after their rent refusal was his legal right—homeowners can set terms for guests. Dr. Papernow suggests proactive steps: a family meeting before move-ins to clarify roles, rent, and chores.

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See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit users weighed in, mostly backing the teen’s stand but noting the messiness. Here’s what they said:

Chair-Relative - NTA your stepdad sounds like he just wants to be man of the house because he’s older. This is YOUR house, understand that, your stepdad needs to understand that as well. If he wanted to have rule over a house they should have kept theirs,

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you’re already doing more than enough by allowing them to live with you and basically letting them have majority of the house. If that isn’t good enough for him then yeah.. he should get out .. ETA; thank you anons for the rewards 🥺❤️

[Reddit User] - Update: I asked them to pay rent but they said no so i booted them out and my mom divorced my step dad because he cheated. My mom lives with me now

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graveyardbratz - nta, you own the f**king house bro . you have no obligation to your stepdad , he simply is just with your mom . that doesn’t constitute him intruding upon your space

GloryIV - NTA. Your house. If they can't be gracious about living there then ship them out. And why is your mom assigning you chores in your house? If anyone is assigning chores here it should be you.

mutantblake - Wait, this is your house. Tell them to get the hell off your property if they dont respect you. Your mom should be allowed to stay and maybe the kids, im not sure if they did anything to wrong you, but step dad must leave. NTA, you are 19, not a child. Not even his child. Stend up for yourself, good luck

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TeamChaos17 - INFO: why did you just let them move into the house without any discussion, and let him tell everyone what their chores were like you were a kid instead of 19 and the homeowner?

celticflame99 - Nta, your house your rules right?

Remarkable-Army7731 - This story seems way to similar to another post I read a couple months ago but if this is real NTA I would definitely tell him and his kid to clam the f down because they aren’t paying a single bill also I would tell them to leave your house if they can’t respect you

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usernumber2020 - F**k him. He can go live on the street. Along with his bratty kids. Although why is your mom assigning the chores in your house? NTA

bamf1701 - NTA. The house is in your name, correct? Does your mother and step father pay any rent? If they don’t, they don’t have a leg to stand on. It sounds like your mother told you she was moving in without asking you first. You need to take authority for yourself.

These Redditors are vocal, but do they overlook the stepkids’ perspective?

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This teen’s home became a battleground, but his stand—“get out if you don’t like me”—reclaimed his power. His stepfather’s overreach and refusal to pay rent justified eviction, though yelling fanned flames. Clear rules from the start could’ve cooled tensions, but now, with his mom staying, he’s got a fresh shot at peace. Blended families are tough—his story proves boundaries matter. What would you do when family oversteps in your space? Share your thoughts below—how do you keep the peace in a shared home?

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