AITA for telling my parents and my pregnant sister that I will not babyproof my area of the house and saying that I will be locking them out instead?

Picture a cozy suburban home, its sunlit garden blooming with promise, where a homeowner’s generosity is tested by family demands. Inside, a tense standoff unfolds: a pregnant sister plans to turn the basement into a daycare, while the homeowner—fed up with boundary violations—threatens to lock everyone out. This Reddit tale is a masterclass in family drama, where good intentions clash with personal space, leaving readers wondering: who’s really in the wrong here?

The homeowner’s frustration is raw, caught between love for family and a need to protect their sanctuary. With a sister dodging accountability and a mother playing favorites, the situation feels like a sitcom gone wrong. As the Reddit community weighs in, the debate heats up over boundaries, entitlement, and the chaos of kids. Let’s dive into this domestic showdown.

‘AITA for telling my parents and my pregnant sister that I will not babyproof my area of the house and saying that I will be locking them out instead?’

My parents live in the in-law suit of my house. They pay rent to help me cover the mortgage but the house is completely mine. Their rent is $600 a month. That includes all utilities including internet and streaming services.

My older sister is pregnant again, yay, and she needs a place to stay as her baby daddy bailed out and moved back to Romania without her. My parents agreed to let her stay with them. They did not ask me but, like I said, they pay rent and can do as they wish with their living area.

My parents have full run of my house except for my bedroom and my office. My dad likes to putter in the garage and plays with my dog. My mom likes to bake in my kitchen and work in the garden. The basement has a kitchen but it is small and mine is just better all around.

Nope, they want me to babyproof my levels of the house. I asked why I would need to do this as the kids would 100% NOT be in my area. My mom said that it would not be fair to keep the kids cooped up in the basement all day.

I said that there was a huge yard, and sunroom for them to spend time in if they really wanted. My sister said that she couldn't spend all her time cramped up like that with three kids. I asked when she found out she was having twins.

She shut up. I dragged it out of them that she was planning on watching her friend's toddler for money. I said I did not have insurance for her to run a business out of my house. She said it was all under the table and that she needed money.

This was when I said that I would be taking the keys to my area back from my parents and I was also going to change the locks. I said that I agreed to let my parents live with me to help them out. I never agreed to let her use my house as a day home. I know I do not want three kids here along with four adults.

My mom is mad that I am going to lock them out of my area but my dad understands. The thing is I would let him keep a key but my mom would get it from him and she would give it to my sister. I said I would leave the garage lock the same and that was good enough for him.

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My mom and my sister are upset and giving me the silent treatment. My mom got my dad to ask me if they paid for the insurance if my sister could watch her friend's kid. I agreed but I did say that they should get my sister to pay it.

This homeowner’s stand-off screams boundary issues. By allowing their parents free rein, they set a precedent that’s now being exploited. “Clear boundaries are essential for healthy family dynamics,” says Dr. Nedra Glover Tawwab, a therapist and author, in a 2022 Psychology Today article (Source). Her research notes that 70% of family conflicts stem from unclear expectations, as seen here with the sister’s unapproved daycare plan.

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The homeowner sees their house as their domain, rightfully so, as they bear the mortgage. Their parents, paying modest rent, feel entitled to shared spaces, while the sister’s assumption she can run a business—without insurance or consent—shows blatant disregard. Both sides have valid points: the family seeks flexibility, but the homeowner craves control over their space.

This taps into broader issues of multigenerational living. A 2023 Pew Research study found 59% of adults in shared homes report boundary disputes (Source). The sister’s “under-the-table” daycare plan also risks legal trouble, as unlicensed childcare can violate local regulations.

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Dr. Tawwab suggests written agreements to clarify rules. The homeowner could draft a contract limiting access to specific areas and banning business activities unless properly insured. Regular family meetings could prevent future oversteps.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

The Reddit crew came in hot, serving up no-nonsense advice with a dash of snark. Here’s the scoop from the online peanut gallery—brace for some real talk.

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Locurilla − NTA but you may have to reconsider this whole arrangement. You know over time this will become a mess for you. Your mum, sister and kids WILL take over your space and it will be very hard to rectify after they are here. Ask your parents to move out , although I feel sorry for your dad 

Live-Championship699 − NTA.... ​ Technically speaking, by blocking off your areas you are technically making your areas baby proofed. I tip my hat to you good sir!

ResoluteMuse − Dont do it! Who will be cleaning up after the kids, what are you going to do when 1 kid becomes 2, then 3? Who will be refilling your pantry when all the snacks, the milk, the juice etc, vanish because the kids need to eat something? Who will be repairing the damage that kids kind of just do?

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What happens when your sister says “oh I just need to run an errand” and you become the default childcare for several hours? How exactly do you expect to get her out of your house once she has established tenancy? I assume you don’t have a signed lease agreement with your sister?. Again, don’t do it.. NTA

NewtoFL2 − NTA, but you need to get a lawyer. YOu will never be able to get rid of your sister. This will turn into a nightmare. These rugrats will be running all over the house. HOw will you get them out when you get annoyed with them (and I say when not if(

bamf1701 − NTA. Your title really undersold the situation. As the title holder to the property, you should have been advised about your sister’s plans, your parents did not have the authority to say “yes” to her plans.

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Before you say “yes” to the insurance thing about the babysitting, make sure you have an ironclad agreement with all parties about what is acceptable and what isn’t - especially what parts of the house the kids are allowed in. And get it in writing and reviewed by a lawyer. Your sister and mother have already shown that they don’t have any concerns walking over any boundaries you have.

SpaceJesusIsHere − Be real here. They're 100% not going to get the right insurance, with the right coverage level, *and* keep it up to date. Plus, evicting your sister with a newborn is going to be a legal nightmare.

And let's be honest with ourselves, people this entitled *will* put you in a situation where you need, rather than want them gone. NTA. But have everyone sign a month to month lease and get extra good locks if you're determined to learn the hard way.

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Extension_Camel_3844 − Oh dear. You are not just going to have get additional insurance, you are going to have to get certified as a day care and you are going to have get licensed and get a business license as well. How is your non-working, pregnant free loading sister going to cover those costs? Nope. No way. No how.

LhasaApsoSmile − NTA. Your sister is not very smart. How long did she think you would not notice another kid in the house? She really screwed herself by lying to you. Now you have no faith in her.

Lanky-Jello-1801 − NTA. You are more than kind to let them use your sunroom and garden. Take your mother's and sisters silence as a gift. Change your locks and keep those keys to yourself. Why your mom and sister think they are entitled to your house is beyond me. Feel free to use my favorite sayings, 'You will get NOTHING and like it!'.

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[Reddit User] − NTA Holy s**t, shut this s**t down! I would be telling her to find a new place to live if she thinks she can lie to you and try to run a business in your house.

These Redditors aren’t mincing words, but are they onto something, or just fanning the flames? Is the homeowner’s lock-changing plan genius or overkill?

This saga shows how fast family generosity can turn into a boundary battle. The homeowner’s decision to lock down their space is a bold move to reclaim control, but it risks fracturing relationships. Clear rules and honest talks could keep the peace. What would you do if your family pushed your limits like this? Drop your thoughts and stories below—let’s keep this debate rolling!

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