AITA for telling my husband that I won’t be sleeping in the same room as him anymore?

Love can stink—literally. In a cozy suburban bedroom, one woman battled her husband’s noxious nighttime farts, a side effect of his protein-heavy fitness diet. The stench, described as “death itself,” shattered her sleep, pushing her to a breaking point. Tired of waking up to a sulfurous haze, she took a stand, turning the guest room into her sanctuary.

Was this a betrayal or a bid for survival? Her husband, a gym-loving “stink machine,” wasn’t thrilled, sparking a silent standoff. Yet, their story, shared on Reddit, blends humor with heart, showing how quirky habits test even the strongest bonds. Let’s dive into this gassy tale of love and separate beds.

‘AITA for telling my husband that I won’t be sleeping in the same room as him anymore?’

This a stupid fight but I thought I’d get outside perspective. My husband is a pretty gassy man. He is really really into fitness and eats a ton to maintain his physique. The food he eats are honestly disgusting in my opinion and combined with the powder thing he drinks it makes his farts smell like death itself!

He continuously farts while we sleep to the point that the smell wakes me up from my sleep. So I told him to from now on start sleeping in guest room as that will be his room. He said he wasn’t moving to guest room and so i said cool and I packed my things and moved into it.

I actually made it kinda cute for myself. He does not like this set up but I can’t be gassed to death every night with the smell of hot ass and sulphur.. Me and him have been giving each other the silent treatment since last night .To clarify-I didn’t try to force him to move to the guest room.

I just told him since he already uses the guest room as his personal gym/work office it would be best he moved there. He said he’d rather stay in our room and I was fine with that. So I moved into that room. He was then frustrated that he had to move all his things from that room to what is now his room.

Further clarity- I obviously voiced my concerns with him several times over the years and he has tried his best I guess not to fart but of course you can’t control what you do while you are sleeping. There is nothing wrong with him medically this includes any allergies or gut/intestinal related issues.

Update-After my second night of great uninterrupted sleep. I woke up feeling like a boss and was able to approach my husband and try to understand his hurt feelings. I explained my side of things and he understood. He then told me his side of things and basically the man misses me and has difficulty sleeping without me.

As sweet as it is! I just can’t go back to sleeping in the same room as him. He said he’s going to try and fix whatever is causing his violent fart attacks and with any luck we can soon share a room again. Hopefully he can fix it quick because I do miss late night hugs with that stink machine!!

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This flatulence fiasco is more than a funny anecdote—it’s a peek into how lifestyle choices can ripple through a relationship. The wife’s retreat to the guest room highlights a universal truth: sleep is sacred. But was her move a fair play, or did it sideline her husband’s feelings? Let’s break it down.

The husband’s high-protein diet, common among fitness buffs, is a likely culprit. According to Dr. Michael Greger, a nutrition expert, “High-protein diets, especially those heavy in animal products or processed supplements, can increase gut fermentation, leading to more gas production” (source: NutritionFacts.org). This explains the “violent fart attacks” disrupting the wife’s slumber. Her frustration is valid—chronic sleep disruption can affect health, mood, and even relationships.

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On the flip side, the husband’s hurt feelings stem from a sense of disconnection. Sleeping apart, while practical, can feel like a rejection, especially for couples who cherish physical closeness. The wife’s choice to move herself, rather than forcing him out, shows compromise, but his reluctance suggests a deeper emotional stake. This tension reflects a broader issue: balancing individual needs with partnership.

Dr. Greger’s advice? Dietary tweaks, like incorporating more plant-based proteins or anti-gas supplements, could reduce the issue. Couples facing similar quirks might benefit from open communication and creative solutions, like charcoal underwear or scheduled sleepovers in one room. The key is mutual effort—perhaps a trial of dietary changes or medical check-ins to rule out underlying issues, ensuring both partners feel heard and valued.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

The Reddit crowd didn’t hold back, dishing out laughs and empathy in equal measure. From calling the husband’s emissions “protein farts” to praising the wife’s guest room glow-up, the comments are a riot. Here’s what the community had to say:

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AnarchyAcid - NTA, sleep is important. I’ve argued with my husband about wanting my own room because between his snoring, and the dogs deciding they need to lick themselves at 3am, I don’t get the rest I need. For a person who needs dead silence or not to be Dutch ovened out of an entire room, I side with you. Sleep is important.

[Reddit User] - NAH You can't be expected to be locked in a gas chamber every night, and as you're happy to be the one to move rooms it's fine. If you followed through on making him be the one to sleep in the other room that would be different, but in this case you're perfectly justified moving rooms

d3_tvl - Yeah we call those protein farts. Idk about smelly part though, definitely his diet.

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[Reddit User] - NTA. He can take anti-gas meds or change his diet, or he can deal with you having a separate space to sleep peacefully. Damn.

LunaKip - NAH. For various reasons, my husband and I have our own rooms, and it works out really well for us. We sleep together occasionally, but often just say goodnight and he retires to his room, as he generally stays up later than I do.

Some people can be judgy about it, but if you have the space, why have a bedroom that stands empty 350 days of the year, especially if this helps you solve a problem that’s clearly getting in the way of having a harmonious night.

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CoconutxKitten - NTA. Though they have these charcoal underwear things that can apparently help the issue. I joke about getting them for my family for Christmas. They may help?

Dropthebanhammer101 - Yeah.... my ex used to wake me up because I snored. I got sick of it and moved to the guest room. He was pissed about that but I started sleeping really well again. It’s amazing who good you feel when you aren’t woken up 3-5 a night.

Never slept, as in actually SLEEP, with him again. I’ve decided that if I live with another person again, I won’t be sharing a room with him.. Separate rooms is a luxury I am willing to pay for.

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[Reddit User] - NTA My boyfriend and I have separate rooms and separate bathrooms. When we tell people this, they look at us like we have 10 heads, but it honestly has improved our relationship so much. We each have a special space that is only ours. We can decorate our spaces completely to our liking without any sort of compromise being necessary.

We have separate closets which keeps our things more organized. When he has to go to wake up incredibly early, we don’t have to worry about his alarm also waking me or the noise from him getting ready interrupting my sleep, and vice versa. Also, I like to sleep in a cold room with heavy blanket and fans going.

He likes to sleep in a hot room with a sheet and complete silence. We fought over that for years until we finally just got a place where we’d have our own bedrooms. Nobody hogs the covers. Nobody takes up your side of the bed. You can fart as loudly and as gross as you want and nobody is going to say anything.. I’m convinced that having separate bedrooms is the key to having a happy relationship.

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apracticalpoet - NTA Sleep is very important and lack of good sleep makes you miserable. I dream about sleeping alone. My husband snores, his breath smells bad because of his diet, and he takes up 3/4 of the space in the bed. He says separate beds is a dealbreaker for him, but I’m beginning to think that poor sleep is a dealbreaker for me.

eatthebunnytoo - NAH he can decline to move and you have a right not to be gassed

These hot takes from Reddit are as spicy as the husband’s diet, but do they nail the heart of the issue? Sleep versus snuggles is a real dilemma—let’s see how it wraps up.

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In the end, this couple’s gassy saga is a reminder that love doesn’t always smell like roses—sometimes, it’s more like sulfur. The wife’s guest room escape was a practical move, and their honest talk opened the door to solutions. With the husband vowing to tame his “stink machine” tendencies, there’s hope for a reunion under one duvet. What would you do if your partner’s habits disrupted your peace? Share your thoughts—have you ever faced a quirky couple conundrum like this?

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