AITA for telling my coworkers not to start rumours about me?

One young employee needed a mental health day off after a tough night, called in sick, and got it covered without issue. Fast forward, and her supervisor pulls her aside with a wild story—someone supposedly saw her out drinking the night before.

Turns out, the supervisor made it all up to “test” if she’d slip and confess. When the worker quietly asked around to stop any real gossip, the supervisor flipped, accusing her of stirring drama. This mess left everyone scratching heads—why invent rumors about your own team? Online reactions poured in fast, mostly backing the worker and slamming the unprofessional trap.

AITA for telling my coworkers not to start rumours about me?

The bad night hit hard, making work feel impossible.

So last week I called in sick for a shift on Friday. The night before I was having a rough go, my mental state wasn’t the best,

basically I was having a sad b__ch kinda night and didn’t feel mentally, emotionally (or even physically) okay to go in for my shift.

I called in, asked for the day off so I could come back to work the next day feeling refreshed. Everything seemed to be fine, my manager wasn’t upset, my...

Then came the surprising confrontation at work.

Now two days ago while I was at work, one of my supervisors told me that someone told her I was out drinking Thursday night, hence the sick day Friday.

I was upset because I didn’t think I should have to explain anything to anyone— it was covered, I needed the day off. She told me that she “wasn’t going...

Knowing the gossipy crowd, she addressed it calmly.

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There’s only a couple of young people who work there. Two of them are especially gossipy and it’s on ongoing joke that they do so.

I asked one of the girls, I said: “Supervisor said someone told her I was downtown drinking thursday night. I don’t know if it was you or X or who...

but I would appreciate it if no one said anything about me that isn’t true. I wouldn’t be upset if it was true, yada yada”. She said it wasn’t her,...

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Things escalated when picking up a check.

NOW. I just went in to pick up my cheque. Supervisor comes up to me. “Brokebadbitch, I heard you were going around asking people who said that about you. You...

“Supervisor, if someone is talking about me I have every right to tell people I don’t appreciate it. I couldn’t tell them specifically because you wouldn’t say who it was”.

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“That’s because I was lying to see if you were actually drinking”. “So you lied to me and now you can’t handle the consequences of the lie”

and it went on like this with her thinking that I was petty for going around and asking, and of course I think she’s CRAZY (she’s a 40 year old...

This supervisor’s bizarre “test” by inventing a rumor highlights a serious breach of trust and professionalism. Managers should foster supportive environments, not play detective with lies that pit employees against each other. Her actions created unnecessary drama, undermining team morale over a perfectly valid sick day.

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Mental health days are legitimate—policies often cover them without requiring details, and prying like this invades privacy. Workplace expert Alison Green frequently addresses such traps on Ask a Manager, labeling them toxic and manipulative, as they breed suspicion instead of openness.

The worker responded maturely by addressing potential gossip directly and calmly, without escalating wildly. Calling out the lie’s consequences wasn’t petty; it was holding someone accountable, especially in a power imbalance with a 40-year-old supervisor acting immaturely. Moving forward, document everything, review company policy on leave, and consider HR if patterns continue—quiet job searching might help too. Everyone deserves a workplace free from mind games.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Loads of users declared her solidly not the asshole, blasting the supervisor’s shady tactics.

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inevitablegirlie − NTA. Your supervisor deliberately caused a problem because she didn't trust you. Any consequences of that are on her, not on you. She's managing a workplace, not being...

More importantly  it actually doesn't matter! You get to take your allotted sick days for what you choose! Even if you were lying and you were drinking, it's your call!

KZCrow − NTA What kind of employer approves a request then gossips about the reason that they are gone. The f__k, you have a day off and didn't disclose the...

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I'm petty enough to say i'd make up s__t about her too out of frustration, but that's not right that she would do that.

alesenia_song − NTA holy s__t

thefrozenfoodsection − NTA! This is some messed up s__t, it sucks that this insane woman is in a position of power over your job and income.

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You are 100% right it is none of your supervisor’s business why you needed the shift covered, especially since it *was* successfully covered.

I would personally apologize to the coworker you approached initially though, and then try to find another job or position where the supervisor doesn’t play mind games.

[Reddit User] − NTA. Your supervisor lied to you with intent to trap you. Can you go to someone higher than the supervisor about this? It is really unprofessional to...

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Others urged escalating to HR or higher-ups for the unprofessionalism.

repthe732 − NTA If you have HR, I would go to HR and make it clear that she specifically lied about one of your teammates spreading rumors because she was...

TalkMagically − NTA. Rumors like that can ruin your professional reputation, especially if it follows you to a different job. There's no excuse for your boss to act like this.

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HankScorpio_globex − NTA- some already said to go to HR, and I'm with them. I would like share a mini story with ya.

I had a manager that had all of these unreasonable expectations for a call off. (have your shift covered, 24 hr notice, Dr note, good excuse bla bla).

The thing is, I had a major eye injury, and it wasn't until I was dragged into work in excruciating pain did she show me mercy. When I returned, I...

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Guess what I found? The policy was the opposite of her expectation of us. Obviously, the same can't be true for every company, but as an employee, you have rights.

Some managers would have ya believe that ya don't, but you do. Before approaching HR, I would go in **equipped with a solid understanding of your attendance policy.

** If I were in your shoes? Well, this is how I'd handle it "HR, I have some concerns. I was unable to make it to work on August 5th....

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specifically found on page 25 of our code of conduct handbook. Manager had an issue, and brought it to my attention by claiming I was out drinking. After I followed...

After reviewing the handbook again, I can't seem to find where it says this is an acceptable managerial approach to an attendance issue. Can you please follow up with us,

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as I'd like to continue my employment with a clear understanding of our guidelines". I wouldn't even make it a secret either. I'd email HR and copy s__tty manager on...

Don't get me wrong, it'll be awkward, and she may even get mad at ya. But in this case, the ends justify the means. She will be crystal fuckin clear...

A couple shared stories or lighter takes on the wild behavior.

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Order66-Cody − NTA yoi should tell other people about this habit of hers

Jorojr − NTA. Holy unprofessionalism Batman. It's time to have a chat with HR (even if they don't do s__t), get it on record that this woman's behavior is unacceptable.

paralicious − NTA Wow- supervisor was unprofessional and actually contributing to a toxic workplace by putting employees against each other. Sick days are there for a reason- because we are...

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Unless you have been taking more time off than allowed or acceptable she has no right to question you and the details of your health are not her business( which...

I wasn’t out drinking I had xyz illness” ) If you want to have an accurate record of the situation you could always write a statement ( which you might...

dezeisvanliek − NTA: good that you were sticking up for yourself.

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objectboom − Yikes. Ask a Manager would love this one. NTA

ElfPaladins13 − NTA, what kind of lying monster lies about that kind of thing. She needs to be fired.

realistSLBwithRBF − NTA- I would report your supervisor/manager to a higher up. That’s a good way to get demoted. I had a supervisor a long time ago that always seemed...

I was a cashier and I stashed my rolls of change in a drawer I had a lock on under the till, as did supervisors. I locked it when I...

and she accused me that I left it unlocked- at the end of my shift she gave me the missing rolls ($75) worth and explained she was teaching me a...

because I was stashing it unsafely- I rebutted that it was locked with my key (she denied that) then eventually fessed that she unlocked it because I could easily “forget”.

I immediately reported her behaviour- guess who was demoted for over 1.5 yrs for her actions?

Clearly, inventing rumors to trap someone backfires big time, especially from a supervisor. This worker handled it with way more grace than most would. Workplaces thrive on trust, not tests. Have you ever dealt with a boss pulling sneaky moves like this?

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