AITA for telling my brother and his girlfriend that I could care less that she is pregnant?

In a bustling family home, the air crackled with tension as an 18-year-old woman faced off against her brother’s pregnant girlfriend. The girlfriend, newly moved in, had already worn out her welcome by rifling through personal belongings and whining about early pregnancy woes. When she and the brother demanded rent money from the young woman, her patience snapped, unleashing a fiery retort that she couldn’t care less about the pregnancy—a statement that sent shockwaves through the household.

This saga of clashing boundaries and questionable motives pulls readers into a drama where loyalty, privacy, and skepticism collide. Was the young woman’s outburst a justified stand, or did it cross a line? Let’s unravel this tangled family tale and explore the heated debate it sparked.

‘AITA for telling my brother and his girlfriend that I could care less that she is pregnant?’

My (18F) brother (21M) and his girlfriend (20F) are currently living with my parents (40F & 46M). She moved in after my brother revealed that she is pregnant, and that he wanted her to live with us in case something were to happen since he doesn’t have his own place and neither does she.

She is not a good person. She is extremely manipulative and she is bipolar. I have had problems with her in the past because I have caught her wearing my clothes, using my skincare and makeup, and just overall invading my privacy as well as my younger brother’s (17).

I have brought this up to my parents and they took it with a grain of salt so I began to dislike her more and more as she continued to cause problems for me and brothers. Anyways, she is 4 weeks pregnant and she is already milking the absolute s**t out of it.

She’ll whine to my brother about pregnancy cravings, how much her stomach hurts, how tired she is, how she needs a bigger bed to sleep in (they sleep on a twin sized bed in the living room) and a bunch of other bs. She also brought up quitting her job due to “feeling sick all the time” and my parents opposed this since she wouldn’t be able to pay rent.

Fast forward a few days later and she quits anyways, and she doesn’t have rent money and neither does my brother since his pay day wasn’t for another week or some s**t. So, they come up to my room and ask for 200 bucks to pay their rent.

I tell them no, and she goes on this rant about how sick she feels and how much pain she is in “because of the baby” and that she would have the money if she wasn’t forced to quit. I explode on her and tell she that I don’t give a damn that she is pregnant, a few weeks pregnant at that,

and that she’s just using it as an excuse to leech off my parents and my brother. We get into a screaming match which results in her crying and my brother calling me a “heartless b**ch” and they run and tell my parents about how mean I was being to her.

My parents are on my side and they told her that I’m right about her being lazy and that they are not allowed to ask me and my younger brother for rent in the future, but they thought that I took it overboard by saying that I didn’t care that she was pregnant and for calling her a leech.

Her and my older brother are ignoring me now and they said that if I don’t apologize for what I said then they are going to continue to not speak to me, and they are going to keep the baby away from me once she gives birth. I’m not sure if I should apologize, I want to be in the baby’s life but I simply do not feel sorry for anything I said. AITA?

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Family homes can become battlegrounds when boundaries blur, especially with new additions. The young woman’s clash with her brother’s girlfriend highlights a classic struggle: protecting personal space amid shared living. Dr. John Gottman, a renowned relationship expert, observes, “Conflict escalates when respect for boundaries erodes” . Here, the girlfriend’s invasion of privacy and financial demands fueled the young woman’s resentment, amplified by her parents’ initial leniency.

The girlfriend’s early pregnancy claims, at just four weeks, raise eyebrows, as confirmation that early is rare without medical testing. About 30% of women experience early pregnancy symptoms, but exaggerated complaints can signal manipulation. Gottman’s advice on de-escalation—calmly asserting boundaries—could help the young woman. Locking her belongings and discussing house rules with parents might prevent future conflicts.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

Reddit lit up with spicy takes on this family feud, serving a mix of support and skepticism with a side of humor. Here’s what the community dished out:

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Potential_Speech_703 − NTA. No need to apologize. She IS a leech and you don't have to care about her being pregnant.. Poor baby (if there really is one).

FLKaren − NTA and for your sake I hope they keep the baby away from you. With two brothers and you being the young female - they will do almost anything to get free childcare from you. Lock down your stuff and your information. Protect yourself from identity theft because they will take loans in your name.

have a conversation with brother/friend/parent in earshot about identity theft and how you would 100% prosecute to the fullest extent. These people are users. And in the words of my grandmother 'people will feed you sh!t as long as you eat it.'

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teresajs − NTA. '...Keep the baby away from me ..'. Lol! Who do think she's going to want free babysitting from?. Also, get a key lock for your door.

CompleteInsect8373 − Info: how the hell does she know she's pregnant if she's not even a month along?

Unique_Level1161 − Shes not pregnant. She homeless and on her period. NTA. Put a lock on your bedroom door

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letheix − Info: how does she know she's pregnant? 'Less than a month' doesn't make sense

Select-Anxiety-1557 − if I don’t apologize for what I said then they are going to continue to not speak to me, and they are going to keep the baby away from me once she gives birth.. Oh noes! However will they force you to babysit if you aren't allowed near their child?. NTA

DdaeddaeCheon − NTA she is very toxic person, she Just using pregnancy to have benefites, it is not good.

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armyofant − NTA. She is a leech. I wouldn’t apologize. That means they won’t speak to you. Honestly I wouldn’t be surprised if she wasn’t actually pregnant.

Bright_Past_2226 − NTA. If this girl were having a rough pregnancy, even this early on, you would KNOW it. Mine were rough at times and I could not hide it. And I couldn’t afford to quit my job at the time so I just had to go in and hope for the best. I might have been a little more sympathetic towards this girl, but she’s going through OPs things

and threatening to withhold this child who is currently only an embryo from her. She’s immature and about to bring a child into this world that she obviously is in no place to care for. Maybe. I’d hold out for the first ultrasound. It sounds like she’s been living there for a bit and she’s not even a month pregnant? Like she found out at a week? Things aren’t adding up.

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These Redditors didn’t mince words, but do their suspicions about the pregnancy hold water? This drama’s got everyone buzzing.

This pregnancy-fueled family clash shows how fast boundaries can fray under pressure. The young woman’s bold stand against her brother’s girlfriend stirred the pot, leaving her torn between defiance and a desire to connect with her future niece or nephew. Navigating family drama is never easy, especially when trust is shaky. Would you apologize to keep the peace, or stand firm like she did? Drop your thoughts and experiences below—let’s keep this conversation going!

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