AITA for telling all my friends they have to move out now that I’m pregnant?

In a cozy four-bedroom home, a joyful pregnancy announcement turns into a shouting match. A 27-year-old, inheriting her parents’ house, housed friends at low rent to pay off the mortgage. Now pregnant, she and her husband ask everyone to move out by August to start their family. Instead of support, they face slammed doors and defiance.

Picture the chaos: a dinner gone sour, friends claiming squatter rights. This Reddit AITA post dives into the clash of friendship and ownership, leaving readers to judge: is she wrong for reclaiming her home, or are her friends’ tantrums out of line?

‘AITA for telling all my friends they have to move out now that I’m pregnant?’

4 years ago my parents passed away in an accident. They left me everything including their 4 bedroom house that was almost completely paid off. At the time I was young and not financially responsible enough to pay off the full mortgage on my own so I let my then BF(now husband) and our friends and their partners move in.

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With 8 people paying rent we paid the rest of the mortgage off pretty quickly since we paid almost double the payment each month. But now I am 27 years old and I’m ready to settle down. My husband and I found out I was pregnant about a month ago and after talking we decided it was time for everyone to move out so we can start our family.

We asked everyone to dinner tonight and made the announcement. At first everyone was so excited for us. They started talking about how much they would help with the baby and how much fun it was going to be to have a kid around. When everyone finally quieted down enough we told them we’d expect everyone to move out by the end of August. It was silent.

It then immediately erupted into a screaming match. Everyone speaking at once and some people claiming they won’t be leaving. I told them I gave them more then enough time to look for a place and one of them blatantly told me to go f**k myself.

After an hour of arguing and one by one everyone going to their rooms and slamming their doors loudly in our faces my husband and I just got in bed. We genuinely don’t know what to do and thought we gave them more then enough time and they would be more understanding. Are we the assholes?

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Edit: just wanted to add that the mortgage was paid off 5 months ago but everyone still pays rent! Which is $250 per person. I should have probably said that. And they know the mortgage is paid off.

Navigating shared living can unravel when life goals shift. The homeowner, pregnant and ready to nest, asked her friends—long-term tenants paying $250 rent—to leave her inherited house by August. Their explosive reaction, refusing to budge, highlights a clash: her right to her property versus their sense of entitlement after helping pay the mortgage.

This reflects a broader issue in communal living: unclear expectations. The friends’ low rent was a steal, but it didn’t grant permanent residency. Dr. Irene Levine, a friendship expert, notes, “Mixing friendship with tenancy requires clear agreements; assumptions breed conflict.” The homeowner’s seven-month notice is generous, but the friends’ outburst suggests they saw the arrangement as a commune.

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To resolve this, the homeowner should consult a landlord-tenant lawyer to issue formal eviction notices, protecting against squatter claims. A follow-up meeting to explain her family’s needs might soften tensions, but firm boundaries are key.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Reddit’s serving up fiery takes, from legal advice to blunt outrage. Here’s what users think about this housing showdown:

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Skylark7 - NTA Congrats on the baby. Six months is generous notice to tenants. Given that it's already gotten bad, I strongly suggest talking to a lawyer who is expert in landlord/tenant disputes. Tenant rights are a real problem in some states.

You probably need to set the move-out date earlier than August to allow time for eviction proceedings if it comes to that. ETA Wow, thank you for the awards. I've learned the hard way that breaking up house sharing is not always smooth and easy.

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[Reddit User] - You gave your tenants 6 months notice. NTA. This is why you shouldn't ever let to your friends though. It almost always ends in tears.

beetrootsoup22 - NTA, someone mentioned how they helped you pay off the house but they were paying rent. it’s not different than living in an apartment

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GreekAmericanDom - NTA. Do your friends think you are running a commune? Of course they are going to have to move out some day. And yeah, having a kid seems to be about the right time.. And August is plenty of time. Sound like it’s time to look up local laws and serve them all formal eviction notices. Do it right, so you won’t have issues.

Jaxcastic - NTA. Your “friends” are gonna try to become squatters. They’re basically using and abusing they basically don’t have to pay for s**t living there and get to live there practically for free. If your “friends” were smart since it is so much of a steal to only pay $250 in rent they should’ve been able to save up a lot of money by now I’m assuming and be able to afford THEIR OWN HOUSE.

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Like what the f**k is their problem? You made it clear it wasn’t permanent but they obviously are acting entitled. They don’t own the house YOU do. 6 months is plenty of time to find somewhere to live, it’s not like you gave them a couple of weeks of notice, you gave them HALF a year.

[Reddit User] - NTA. Your “friends” are not your friends. It is literally your house and they’ve only been paying $250 in rent? I mean that’s definitely why they’re upset, they know they won’t get a better price anywhere else, but that’s no excuse to scream and yell at a pregnant woman and insist they’re staying. F**k August, I’d want them out now.

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[Reddit User] - NTA at all!!! It's your house and you're giving them SEVEN months to move out, that is beyond generous.

[Reddit User] - NTA your parents left YOU the house. Shame on your friends for thinking this was a permanent living arrangement. You are giving them ample time to find new accommodations.

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NGDGUnpunished - NTA. For four years you've all lived together like a family. Now your definition of family is changing and I'm sure there are plenty of hurt feelings. You've been very generous in the notice you're providing. I hope they'll come around after they've had time to adjust to the news. Good luck, OP.

Fearless-Drop3855 - NTA. They were paying off the morgatage, but were getting a place to stay in return...just like renting. Unless there was an explicit understanding that they would be able to stay forever in this place, the house is yours to do with as you please. They helped pay, but they get a place to stay in return, so you don't owe them anything.

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These opinions hit hard, but do they capture the full weight of balancing friendship and family dreams?

This homeowner’s saga is a raw clash of loyalty and ownership. Was she right to demand her friends leave for her growing family, or should she have softened the blow? Would you evict friends to reclaim your space, or try to keep the peace? Share your thoughts below!

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