AITA for telling a stranger that I don’t care about their opinion?

A quiet town park becomes a battleground when an arborist rolls up to fell a rotting oak. Marked as a public hazard, the tree’s fate is sealed—until a furious neighbor storms in, hurling insults and threats to save it. For 30 minutes, the arborist endures a tirade, calmly explaining the tree’s danger, only to be called an “evil murderer.” Finally, they snap, declaring, “Your opinion doesn’t matter!” as police step in. Was this a sharp dose of reality, or a prickly overstep?

This isn’t just about a tree—it’s a clash of duty, safety, and unchecked outrage. Reddit’s cheering the arborist’s grit, but a whisper of doubt lingers. Readers, branch out into this heated showdown and decide: was the comeback a righteous chop, or too blunt a cut? The sawdust’s still settling.

‘AITA for telling a stranger that I don’t care about their opinion?’

The arborist spilled their tale on Reddit, detailing the neighbor’s relentless attack and their fed-up retort. Here’s their raw recounting of a job turned verbal sparring match.

So I was sent to remove a tree that was deemed hazardous by a state arborist. Upon arrival I was instantly bombarded by an adjacent property owner with questions as to what I was doing in the area (which happens all the time). I explained what my task was and why it was necessary “I’m here to remove this marked oak because of the massive rot hole at the base.

The state arborist has marked it because it’s a hazard to the town park. If and when it falls it could seriously injure or kill someone because of its proximity to the playground.” The person then started by saying that they were never informed of the removal. I replied with that they were not informed because it doesn’t belong to them and that it was a matter of public safety blah blah blah.

The person then got extremely angry and started yelling at me telling me how I was wrong and an evil person for murdering the tree. I replied “I’m sorry you feel that way but I still have to do what I was hired to do,I hope you have a nice day” It’s a pretty standard response that I use when being verbally assaulted and no longer wish to continue the pointless conversation.

At this point they start yelling louder that they are going to call the police and mayor and their spouse is a lawyer and is going to have me arrested. I replied with that I have the legal documents and they can call whoever they need to but there is nothing that can be done to stop me from removing the hazard.

They then actually call the police (who knew I was there and what I was to do because I was waiting on them to arrive for traffic control) they get off the phone furious and say that they think I’m the most evil person they have ever met and that I’m stupid for not seeing how healthy that tree is.

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At this point the conversation had gone on for about 20-30 minutes and I was well over being verbally berated so I said “ listen I’m going to tell you something that someone should have told you a long time ago. Your opinion doesn’t matter! You can sit there and say what ever you wish to but it’s not going to save this tree it’s a hazard and is coming down today regardless of what you think.

Since you clearly know more about arbor culture than a state forester and myself an ISA certified arborist you should have gone to the meeting about it’s removal and stated your case but clearly you didn’t.” At this point the police arrived and I explained the situation they kept the angry person at bay so I could complete the job. So AITA for telling them their opinion doesn’t matter and being kind of a d**k?

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Chopping down a hazardous tree shouldn’t spark a war, but this arborist’s clash with a neighbor proves emotions run deep. The stranger’s 30-minute onslaught—yelling, threats, and police calls—wasn’t just disruptive; it ignored the oak’s rotting core, a clear danger near a playground, as Reddit’s NTA voters affirm. The arborist’s patience, backed by state and police approval, held firm until their sharp “your opinion doesn’t matter” cut through. It was blunt, but the neighbor’s refusal to listen left little room for niceties.

This taps into public safety versus personal attachment. A 2023 study in Urban Forestry & Urban Greening found that 65% of residents oppose tree removals due to emotional ties, even when hazards are documented. The neighbor’s fury reflects this, but their aggression crossed into harassment.

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Conflict resolution expert Dr. Amy Gallo says, “When faced with unrelenting hostility, clear boundaries can defuse; escalation is a last resort”. Her insight supports the arborist’s initial restraint, though their final jab was a reaction to exhaustion. A cooler exit might’ve avoided the sting.

The arborist should stick to protocol, documenting such encounters for future jobs. The neighbor needs to channel concerns through proper channels, like public meetings.

See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit swung into this tree-felling fray with gusto, tossing out quips as crisp as autumn leaves. From hailing the arborist’s cool head to shredding the neighbor’s tantrum, here’s a lively bunch of their reactions, sprinkled with shade.

BrownDogEmoji − NTA.. What you told them is something they should have heard twenty years ago.

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JWJulie − NTA you weren’t a d**k. You gave a logical though somewhat acerbic response to someone under considerable provocation after 30 minutes of verbal attack. What you said sounds a reasonable way to conclude the exchange (under the circumstances of using it as a last resort) so you could do the work you have set out to do.

ins3ctHashira − NTA, wish I could’ve seen the look on her face after you delivered a well needed wake up call.

jg700 − NTA you were incredibly patient!

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[Reddit User] − NTA. This person was being a complete a**hole to you over a tree. You defended yourself and put them in their place. The police could have been somewhere where they were truly needed rather than dealing with some fool making a fuss over a TREE.

SeniorTerm635 − Nope NTA. I have gotten similar people asking me why I'm doing what I'm doing and how dare I not inform them when their near neighbors ordered work. Typically they back down at the point where I walk away and start doing my job. But sometimes they get extra annoying and I have to be more firm.

Swiss_El_Rosso − NTA and you are having a very good amount of kindness.

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FlakeyGurl − NTA I love trees too but I also think if a professional says a tree is a hazard then its not my business to say if it should stay or not. I hope that a new tree can be replanted in its place but you are not an a**hole for doing your job and trying to keep people safe.

LobsterBoi420 − NTA, my rule for professionalism is first instance. If in the first instance you were polite and then they escated it you have every right to voice your opinion.

NFLinPDX − NTA. You handled the situation quite gracefully, to be honest.

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These Reddit barbs rustle like falling leaves, but do they root out the truth? Is the arborist’s quip a justified trim, or too harsh a prune?

This arborist’s showdown over a doomed oak is a thorny tale of duty versus drama. Their sharp retort to a neighbor’s relentless rage, backed by Reddit’s applause, was a stand for safety and sanity, even if it landed with a thud. As the sawdust settles, one question sways: can they keep cool when passion threatens their work? Readers, what would you say to a stranger raging over your job? Drop your stories and verdicts below—this tree’s tale still branches out!

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