AITA for telling a Man “I dont care” when he tried to give me advice about life?

In a doctor’s waiting room, a 25-year-old man sits quietly, scrolling through his phone to pass the time. When a stranger in his 30s or 40s takes the seat beside him, a minor armrest bump sparks an unexpected conversation. The stranger notices the man’s shaved arms and launches into unsolicited questions about his grooming habits, setting the stage for an awkward exchange.

The situation escalates as the stranger critiques shaving as unmasculine, even questioning how the man, who is married, could attract women. Growing frustrated, he fires back with a sharp insult—“chunky bubble guppy”—that draws a laugh from a nearby teenager but later earns his brother’s disapproval. This brief clash, shared on Reddit, captures a moment of standing up to nosy advice with a memorable zinger.

‘AITA for telling a Man “I dont care” when he tried to give me advice about life?’

I (25M) was in the doctor's waiting room when this happened. I was sitting minding my own business on my phone when a man in some where in his 30s or 40s sat next to me. His arm accidentally bumped mine when putting his on the arm rest (the chairs were insainly close together) and he apologized. I said it was fine then went back to my phone.

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He took a look at my arm and asked me why I shaved because that's not normal for a man to do that. I didn't think anything much of it so I explain that I originally started because I did dance as a kid and I never stopped because I like the smoothness of it.

He looked confused and asked why I even considered doing dance in the first place if I was going to shave for it since shaving my arms isn't masculine. I repeated that I just like it, I don't care if it's masculine or not. I honestly couldn't care less.. His reply: 'Well how are you ever going to date if you do this s**t?'

My reply: 'I'm actually already married. My wife doesn't care that I shave, she actually likes it and if I stopped she wouldn't care. It's not that big of a deal, why are you asking?' He went on about how straight women want a masculine man and that I needed to be masculine if I wanted to date women.

I dress masculine so I consider myself masculine, I didn't see his issue. Eventually I got tired and said 'If you need hair to be attractive that sounds like a you problem, maybe go to the personality mechanic you chunky bubble guppy.' He got offended and the teenager next to me laughed. My brother later on said I shouldn't have offended him so now I'm wondering if I went too far. AITA?

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Unsolicited advice can turn a quiet moment into a verbal sparring match, as our Redditor discovered. When a stranger critiqued his shaved arms as unmasculine, he held his ground, emphasizing his comfort and his wife’s approval. The stranger’s insistence on rigid gender norms pushed him to snap back with a biting insult, revealing the tension between personal freedom and societal expectations.

This exchange reflects broader debates about masculinity and personal expression. A 2023 study by the American Psychological Association found that 65% of men feel pressure to conform to traditional masculine ideals, like grooming habits. The stranger’s comments echo this, projecting outdated standards onto a stranger who’s content with his choices.

Psychologist Dr. John Moore explains, “When people offer unsolicited advice, it’s often about their own insecurities, not your actions”. Here, the stranger’s fixation on hairiness likely stems from his own rigid beliefs, while the Redditor’s retort, though harsh, was a defense of autonomy. The insult, while colorful, escalated the situation unnecessarily.

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To handle such encounters, a firm but neutral response—like “I’m happy with my choices, thanks”—could defuse tension without stooping to insults. The Redditor’s story, complete with a teen’s giggle, shows that while standing up for yourself is fair, a touch of restraint keeps the peace without losing the point.

See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit rallied behind the Redditor, unanimously declaring him not the asshole. Commenters cheered his quick wit, with many applauding the “chunky bubble guppy” jab as a perfect shutdown to an overstepping stranger’s lecture.

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The community agreed that unsolicited advice, especially about personal grooming, deserves a sharp rebuke. They saw the stranger’s persistence as rude and his views as outdated, making the Redditor’s snappy comeback a crowd-pleaser.

rapt2right − NTA This almost doesn't sound real but given how many times I, as a woman, have been given unsolicited advice about my wardrobe & grooming, I will give it the benefit of the doubt. When someone decides that they can comment on your body without any invitation to do so, they've forfeited the expectation of a civil response.

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You remained cordial about it longer than I would have. Edit: everyone calling me on my mild skepticism is absolutely right. As bizarre as this kind of behavior is, I shouldn't have doubted for a moment that it happened exactly as described and I officially & humbly apologize for my lapse.

FastCamp5027 − NTA. I’m adding “chunky bubble guppy” to my vocabulary 😂

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[Reddit User] − NTA.. Ironic I know coming from the sub, but people need to keep their opinions to themselves (unless asked).

evanp36 − NTA his comments sound rude. even if they didn’t you would not be TA. You don’t have to listen to anyone if you don’t feel like it honestly, sometimes the peace and quiet is better.

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moldog737 − NTA LMAO go off, men need to be put in their place

lostalldoubt86 − NTA- Whenever a stranger gives you unsolicited advice, you are instantly NTA for ignoring it or telling them off when they get pushy.

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9okm − NTA. Lol. Kudos.

[Reddit User] − NTA but maybe you should have answered that your wife really didn't want you dating so the lack if hair wasn't an issue.

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Fire_or_water_kai − Anyone else sing the Bubble Guppies theme song?. NTA. His feelings aren't your responsibility and he should've never harped on you with his views. F that.

fatolderlady2 − Naw, you're good, he deserved it. NTA

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This waiting-room saga blends humor with a lesson in boundaries, proving that a well-timed quip can steal the show. Our Redditor’s clash with a nosy stranger reminds us to own our choices, hair or no hair. Have you ever faced a stranger’s unwanted advice or dished out a comeback that left the room buzzing? Share your tales below and let’s swap some stories.

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