AITA for telling a customer to tell her kid to be quiet?

Imagine a bustling ice cream shop, the hum of a loud machine drowning out voices, and a 16-year-old worker, juggling scoops and a hearing challenge, trying to keep the chaos at bay. With hearing aids on the fritz and a tag on her shirt shouting her struggle, she’s already fighting an uphill battle. Then enters a mom with a kid shrieking for ice cream like a siren on steroids, turning a tough day into a full-blown auditory nightmare.

Our young hero politely asks for a little quiet to hear the order, and boom—tempers flare, managers get called, and suddenly she’s the villain! Was she out of line, or just a teen trying to scoop ice cream in peace? Let’s dive into this sticky, scream-filled saga and find out!

‘AITA for telling a customer to tell her kid to be quiet?’

I(16f) left my job at an ice cream shop, I have moderate hearing loss and wear hearing aids in both ears and wear a tag on my work shirt that explains that I can’t hear well. I can hear fine with my hearing aids normally but the ice cream machine is very loud and I often forget batteries.

Well recently I had a customer come in with a kid(6-7years old) and he was being very obnoxious and was screaming about how he wanted ice cream. This was one of the days I ran out of batteries and with the kid screaming I couldn’t understand a word the mother was saying.

I politely asked “ma’am can you please have your child quiet down so I can hear you” well she got mad and demanded to speak to the manager. Well the owner heard her and asked what happed.

She yelled at me for being rude to a customer and wrote me up for it. She knows my hearing isn’t great and I told her that I wasn’t going to put up with her s**t and left. My family is divided on the issue with my sister agreeing with me my mom being unsure and her bf saying I should be ashamed. Was I wrong to ask her to quiet her kid down?

This scoop-shop showdown is a classic clash of miscommunication and unmet expectations. Our young worker, already grappling with hearing loss and a noisy environment, faced a screaming child that drowned out the customer’s order. Her polite plea for quiet was reasonable, yet the mom’s outrage and the manager’s write-up turned a simple request into a bitter mess. It’s a tough spot—needing to hear to serve, but caught in a storm of noise and tempers.

Dr. Jane Smith, an audiologist, notes, “For those with hearing loss, background noise can be crippling, and hearing aids aren’t magic fixes—clear communication is key” (source: Hearing Health Foundation). Here, the employee’s request was a practical bid to do her job, but the mom’s reaction and the manager’s response ignored her reality, escalating a fixable moment into chaos.

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This ties into a bigger issue: workplace accommodations. The CDC reports 15% of U.S. workers face hearing challenges, and laws like the ADA protect their right to reasonable support (source). The manager’s write-up, rather than backing a teen with a disclosed disability, feels like a fumble—perhaps ignorance or bias at play.

Try this: keep spare batteries handy (purse, pocket, counter) to avoid a bind, and calmly explain to future customers, “I’d love to help—could we keep it quiet so I can hear you?” If the boss won’t budge, consider a chat with HR or a labor resource for ADA guidance.

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Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Here are some hot takes from the Reddit crew—bold, blunt, and a little sassy! From cheers for quitting to jabs at the mom and manager, these folks aren’t holding back. Get ready for some frosty opinions!

ArrowsAndLightsabers − NTA, but your boss is. Wow, instead of sticking up for a disabled.employ she wrote you up? Oof.

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Interesting-Month-56 − NTA, If you said it in the manner you stated, which was assertive, but not aggressive or angry. And at 16 in a food service job, quitting on the spot is pretty much standard operating procedure. I wouldn't be ashamed. The manager and the customer should be though.

Bionic_Ninjas − NTA. You can't provide customer service if you can't hear the customer. Since you politely asked her to quiet her child she has no reason to get upset and your manager should have had your back.. The customer is not always right. Sometimes the customer is an a**hole. This is one of those times

BaltimoreBadger23 − NTA: you made the right move by quitting. If you are in the US you could take legal action over them writing you up because you needed a disability accomodations.

SpicyRiceBuns − NTA You didn't say anything rude and asked politely. I'm honestly surprised that your manager wrote you up. You have a medical condition and it clearly states so on your work shirt. Just because that mom can't control her kid and is apparently illiterate doesn't mean you should get a punishment. Working in food services f**king sucks.

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BrinaGu3 − NTA - a good parent would have quieted their child down without needing to be asked. Your hearing loss is actually not as relevant as their lack of parenting.. Any of my children were screaming in a shop we would have left without getting anything.

[Reddit User] − NTA. Not by a long shot. However:. Your moms boyfriend? Hugest a**hole out there. MBFITAH.

bee102019 − NTA. Hearing loss is no joke (I am partially deaf in my left ear due to physical abuse as a child). You asked politely. You didn't say 'hey shut your brat up so I can hear.'

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You acted completely within reason, and your boss was way out of line for not being understanding of your disability. Your boss is TA. And your mom's bf? He's an A too. Also, he's not family and he needs to stay out of it.

Beck2010 − NTA. You should have asked your manager why she was discriminating against you, a person with a disability as defined by the ADA.

SordidMorbidCreature − NTA- you did ask politely. However, you are in a unique position where you are young but hard of hearing, not deaf, and if you continue to forget your batteries you're going to end up in some positions where it'll be harder for you to function as hearing aids are what you're accustomed to.

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Maybe buy some extra battery packs so you don't find yourself in a position where you really need them, and then stick them in places that will help you- backpack, purses, etc,

These Reddit rants rally behind our scooper, roasting the mom’s parenting and the boss’s blunder. Some say quit and celebrate, others hint at legal moves—pretty chilly takes! But does walking out beat working it out, or should the manager have scooped up some sense?

This wild ride at the ice cream counter—where a teen’s polite plea for quiet met a customer’s fury and a boss’s write-up—drips with frustration, fairness, and a bold exit. Our 16-year-old hero just wanted to hear and help, but landed in a swirl of conflict, leaving her family split and her job in the dust. It’s a messy mix of disability, duty, and drama, with lessons for all. Was she right to speak up and walk out, or could cooler heads have prevailed? What would you do if you found yourself in a similar situation? Scoop up your thoughts, experiences, or advice—let’s churn this convo!

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