AITA for tattooing half of what my MIL wanted and then kicking her out?

In a buzzing tattoo parlor, the hum of needles paused as a shriek pierced the air. A tattoo artist, sleeves adorned with vibrant ink, faced an unexpected challenge: their overly dramatic mother-in-law (MIL), squirming on the table to fulfill a decades-old promise gone awry. What started as a quirky request for a tiny tattoo turned into a cacophony of screams and family tension, leaving the artist to draw a line—literally and figuratively.

This Reddit saga, brimming with cringe-worthy chaos, captures the clash between professional boundaries and family obligations. The artist’s decision to stop mid-tattoo and ask their MIL to leave sparked a firestorm of opinions, raising questions about respect, consent, and handling difficult clients—even when they’re family. Can you balance duty to kin with duty to your craft? Let’s dive into the inky drama.

‘AITA for tattooing half of what my MIL wanted and then kicking her out?’

My MIL and I get along ok, but she is super dramatic and emotional all the time and I find her exhausting. We just don't have anything in common, and I know she looks down on me for not being conventionally feminine.

I'm a tattoo artist with full sleeves, and I've seen her looking at them before and making a face, so I was surprised when she came to me and asked about getting a tattoo. MIL clearly wasn't enthusiastic about it, but said she played a f**ked up 'prank'' 35 years ago and convinced FIL to get her name tattooed over his heart.

He thought it was tacky and a bad idea, but she cried about how she was scared of losing him when he went to college (dated in high school but he is a year older) So FIL got his and then she was like haha, f**k you I'm not getting a tattoo.

He made her promise that on their 30th anniversary she would get his name, and she agreed thinking that he would forget. I already felt a little weird doing a tat she clearly didn't want, but she was getting it in tiny letters on her hip bone, so I figured whatever.

Oh my god you guys, she screamed. She was screaming before I touched her, FIL and her friend were laughing their asses off at her and taping it, and it was the worst sound. FIL's name is Eric, and by the time I had Er down, I couldn't take it.

I had previously asked her to stop, and she claimed she couldn't. I said I would not go on and she got very upset and started yelling at me and calling me awful and judgy. She left without paying, which is fine, i wouldn't expect her to pay for something half done, and she got the ic somewhere else.

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Just looking at it you can't tell it was done by two people, and since I didn't charge her I feel fine, but MIL has been telling everyone how awful I was to her. Most people seem to think I should have finished.

This tattoo parlor meltdown is a masterclass in boundary-setting gone wild. The artist’s decision to halt their MIL’s tattoo amid her theatrics highlights a clash between family ties and professional standards. While the MIL’s screaming was disruptive, starting a tattoo she clearly dreaded raises questions about consent and communication.

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Tattoo parlors thrive on trust and respect. A 2020 survey by Inked Magazine found that 78% of tattoo artists have refused service due to client behavior, citing safety and comfort. The artist’s choice to stop was within their rights, especially with an uncooperative client—even if it’s family.

Tattoo artist Kat Von D emphasizes, “A tattoo session should feel safe for both the artist and client; anything less compromises the art”. Here, the MIL’s pre-emptive screams and the filming entourage created an impossible environment. The artist’s call to pause protected their craft and sanity, though kicking her out may have escalated family drama.

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This saga reflects broader issues of navigating family expectations in professional spaces. Artists can set clear pre-session boundaries, like discussing pain tolerance or behavior expectations. For this artist, a frank talk with their spouse about managing MIL’s antics could prevent future clashes.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit’s take on this inky drama is as bold as a fresh tattoo! From cheers for the artist’s stand to side-eyes for starting the tattoo at all, the community’s reactions are a colorful mix of support and shade.

PotentialityKnocks − NTA. Screaming during a tattoo is ridiculous (I have several). She also sounds ungrateful, and the whole situation is weird

YeetusDeletus-Feetus − NTA. as you are a tatoo artist, i assume you have the right to refuse service at anytime regardless of how far along the tatoo is. your MIL is an a**hole for what she did to your FIL, na dhow she acted. she probably has exaggerated what you said. i suggest you tell people what really happened and set the story straight.

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B4pangea − NTA. There is an actual etiquette to getting a tattoo and how you treat your artist. Expecting you to work under those conditions is rude and unreasonable and no, she doesn’t get a pass because she’s your in-law. She sounds truly horrible in general and is thoroughly the a**hole in this story on several counts.

Express_Course_4661 − ESH clearly MIL is TA, however, given she gave a forced consent to the tattoo, I don't think you should have started it in the first place.. Consent should never be accepted if it is forced.

MollyRolls − NTA. OMG that sounds so horribly uncomfortable, especially with the audience and the filming and everything. You tried, you couldn’t continue, you didn’t charge her, and it all worked out—I really can’t fault you for a single thing, here.

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[Reddit User] − ESH you should never have started that tattoo in the first place. Tattoos from pranks/bets are one of the stupidest moves and it almost guarantees you an unhappy recipient

ArgumentThrowaway112 − Info - did you stop doing it or did you just make the threat and she walked out?

Associate_Dear − ESH. not so much for kicking her out as for agreeing to do it to begin with.. MIL screaming before you started is. 1 rude, and suggests she might have been able to stop is she wanted

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2 an excellent excuse to extricate yourself without taking the full brunt of whatever social pressure made you feel like this was a good idea to get involved with.. where was your spouse in all this?

yodel-master-yoda − NTA and I'd bet she wouldn't have paid you either way.

MysteryLady221 − This becomes a petty revenge story when her husband says he only stayed with her this long because he wanted to get back at her for the tattoo, then hands her divorce papers.

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These hot takes paint a picture of divided loyalties, but do they capture the full sting of this family feud?

This tattoo tale proves that family and work mix like ink and water—messy and unpredictable. The artist’s bold move to stop mid-session saved their sanity but stirred up family gossip. Balancing professionalism with personal ties is no easy feat. Have you ever had to set boundaries with a dramatic relative in a professional setting? What would you do in this artist’s shoes? Share your thoughts and stories below!

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