AITA for taking my daughters keys until she agrees to learn to drive with one foot?

In a quiet suburban neighborhood, the hum of a teenager’s car engine turned into a family showdown. A 40-year-old dad, proud of his 17-year-old daughter’s driving skills, got a shock when he spotted her using both feet to drive her automatic car—one for the gas, one for the brake. What seemed like a quirky habit to her felt like a red flag to him, sparking a heated debate that’s left the family in a frosty standoff. Picture the scene: a grocery run turned into a battle over safety and stubbornness.

His decision to snatch her keys until she relearns to drive “properly” has his wife and daughter fuming, with silent treatments and icy glares replacing their usual chatter. Is this a case of a dad protecting his kid or overreacting to a harmless quirk? This Reddit tale dives into the clash of parental concern, teenage independence, and a surprising driving debate that’s got everyone picking sides.

‘AITA for taking my daughters keys until she agrees to learn to drive with one foot?’

Me(40M), my wife(37F) and my daughter(17F) are all up in arms about this situation and I really need to know if I’m being TA. At 15 when my daughter was legally aloud to get her learners permit she was very eager to drive and it was the first thing she went to do.

She gets it, me and my wife take turns teaching her how to drive. She does very well on the real road and learns quickly, which I already expected given her history on ATV’s (I know a car/ATV are totally different, but still).

Fast forward a year later & she goes for her license test and passes it on the first try. Shes a great kid, is doing well in school, & has proved to my wife and I that she can safely navigate the roads on her own. So given the passing test and her birthday being around the same time we decide to gift her a car.

She freaks, everyone’s happy, yay. Fast forward almost ANOTHER year later and my daughter is almost 17. She’s been driving for a good year and a half, almost 2. I ask her for a ride to the grocery store because I didn’t feel like taking my truck, she obliged & we were on our way when I dropped something on the floor of the car.

Leaning down to pick it up I look over and notice that my daughter is driving with two feet. Left for the brake. Right for the gas. In an automatic. I asked her what she was doing and she was obviously confused, and when I explained what I meant she laughed and said it wasn’t a big deal.

I let her drive the rest of the way to the store but on the way back I took her keys and told her I would be driving us back. She freaked out and asked what my problem with her driving was all of the sudden, and I told her that this was an extremely dangerous way to drive & that she is putting herself/possibly others at risk by driving this way.

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She just denied that that was the case and was silent the rest of the way. When I got home I asked her to sit down in the kitchen and called my wife in to back me up on this, but unbelievably she was on my daughters side and even said it was a good trait to have just in case she ever wants to learn stickshift one day.

My daughter has never expressed wanting to learn stick, and I doubt she will anytime soon. Besides, the car she is driving is automatic. I argued to them that this was dangerous because when you drive using two feet, your reaction time is delayed significantly.

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Not only that, but in a split second occurrence, you have a way higher possibility of mixing up the two pedals if you’re using both feet. My daughter argued back that she has been driving this way since she learned and that it would be more dangerous to try and learn the traditional technique at this point and brought up that she had never had an accident prior.

I wasn’t hearing any of it and decided to take her keys away. My wife & daughter have been giving me the silent treatment for a couple days. We have been driving daughter around. I just care about my daughters safety but am starting to feel like TA. AITA?.

A father’s instinct to protect his daughter collided with her confidence behind the wheel, turning a routine drive into a family feud. The dad’s alarm at his daughter’s two-foot driving—left for brake, right for gas—stems from genuine safety concerns. Using both feet in an automatic car can confuse reflexes in a panic, potentially pressing both pedals at once, and constant brake pressure wears pads and confuses drivers behind. Yet, the daughter’s accident-free record and her mother’s support complicate the issue, framing it as a clash of trust versus caution.

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Driving habits matter. A 2023 National Highway Traffic Safety Administration report notes that improper pedal use contributes to 5% of minor collisions. Dr. David Diamond, a psychology professor studying driving behavior, says, “Muscle memory in driving is critical; two-foot habits can delay reaction times in emergencies”. The dad’s stance is valid, but his abrupt key confiscation may have alienated his daughter.

To resolve this, a defensive driving course could reinforce proper technique, with an instructor’s neutral voice carrying more weight than a parent’s. Compromise—like supervised practice with one foot—could rebuild trust.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Reddit’s gearheads and parents revved up with opinions, from brake-wear warnings to calls for professional intervention. Here’s the community’s take, served with a side of sass and sympathy:

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o0o0Nighthawk0o0o - NTA. Driving an automatic with both feet is extremely dangerous. If they leave their foot l resting on the brake pedal most likely their brake lights are on so the person behind has no clue if they are really braking or not.

Not to mention the wear and tear on the brakes and the decreased gas mileage from having the brakes applied constantly. What I would do is to get her a manual shift vehicle and teach her to drive it. She will be forced to use her right foot for the brake and accelerator. Just make sure she doesn't ride the clutch.

[Reddit User] - NTA. My wife does this and along with it being a safety concern I have to change her brakes at least once a year from the wear of constant unintentional pressure. Also I drive stick and I can tell you that using the brake with your left foot will not help her at all.

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In fact when trying to teach my wife stick the fact that she brakes with her left foot was a big hurdle to overcome. Edit: when I say change brakes I mean both pads and rotors sometimes 2 times a year

Wren1101 - Not sure about the whole safety aspect, but driving stick, your left foot is always used on the clutch. The right foot is still switching between the gas and brakes. So driving with two feet like that wouldn’t really be helpful to learning manual.

I think the concern is that if she was in an accident situation, would her reflex be fast enough on the correct pedal. Hopefully she wouldn’t slam on the gas instead of the brakes. But if she’s been driving for a long time with no issue maybe she’s fine?

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swkoontz - NTA. You are correct. She is increasing her chances of confusion in a split second decision. And, it’s not a good practice. Also, even though all these “two footers” say they don’t depress the brake, it is a possibility.

I don’t believe your approach was very successful because you did not acknowledge your daughter’s accomplishments and intelligence. You treated her like a baby and belittled her. If you can get her to try driving correctly, she’ll realize how much easier it is. But, unfortunately, you’ve probably slammed that door SHUT.

Ehhhhhhhhhhhhhhk - Literally NTA. I had to take a 24 drive class and on the road driving course. Everything you said is true, and she won’t pass the test because they will fail her on it. It is dangerous, and not okay. You’re doing the right thing, your daughter really don’t get the gravity of the situation. That split second it takes can end her or someone else life.

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Your wife is being ridiculous. Ps I’m writing as a young female who use to drive with both feet as well and it caused me to get into an accident.. Regardless even if it’s an accident there’s consequences, and one of them could be she kills somebody or herself

Ggeunther - NTA. keeping a foot on the brake wears the brakes, and reduces fuel mileage. In the summer, it can generate extra heat in the pads, decreasing brake performance, and increasing brake distances. Modern power brakes require no effort to apply braking force, and will do so at the slightest touch of a foot.

It is dangerous. Professional race drivers, police officers, these individuals drive this way, because they have been trained to drive this way. Your daughter was not trained to drive aggressively, by a professional race instructor.

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Whoever taught your daughter to drive this way, did her a great disservice. It may be too late to help her fix this, especially with no support from your wife.. I think you are fighting a losing battle, but I admire the attempt to correct the problem.

Express-Stop7830 - NTA. As someone who drives manual, this 'technique' is not prepping her for using a clutch. Right foot is gas and brake. Left foot is clutch. Your wife is not in touch with reality on that one.

As someone who lives in a retirement state, can attest that a moment of panic by a two-footed driver can result in slamming on both the brake AND gas and causing accidents.. I just can't believe no one notices this sooner smh

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filthybananapeel - NTA. Even when you drive stick, you don’t drive like that.. I’ve mostly driven manual cars my whole life, and now I have a automatic. The way she’s driving is dangerous, end. My FILs a mechanic AND he races cars. He stared at me like I had three heads when I posed this scenario to him.

Take her back to defensive driving and have the instructor talk to her about it. You won’t win with this, because your wife has decided to back up your daughter. You need a third party professional to tell her to stop.

[Reddit User] - Info: what did the instructor say, and if it's so wrong, why did the instructor pass her?

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bkupisch - My father was an executive in a major insurance company. He taught us to drive (in the ‘70’s) using one foot on the pedals because statically, using 2 feet increased the risk of accidents & it was the law.

These Reddit takes hit the gas on safety concerns, but do they brake too hard on the dad’s approach? Or is the mom’s defense of the daughter shifting into risky territory?

This driving drama screeches into the heart of parenting, safety, and teenage defiance. The dad’s key grab was a bold move to protect his daughter, but the silent treatment from his wife and kid shows trust took a hit. Is he right to demand a one-foot driving fix, or should he ease off the pedal? Share your thoughts—have you ever clashed with family over a safety habit? How would you steer this family back to harmony?

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