AITA for still wanting the present from my dad even after my mom has protested me getting it saying its “unfair”?

The sting of being an outsider in your own home cuts deep, especially for a 17-year-old navigating a bustling blended family. Caught between a mom who remarried and a dad in a modest apartment, this teen feels like a guest in their own life, retreating to a room with a barely functioning TV. When their dad promises a shiny new TV—a rare moment of feeling seen—their mom cries foul, claiming it’s unfair to their step-siblings.

This Reddit tale, brimming with raw emotion, pulls us into the messy world of family dynamics and fairness. The teen’s quiet rebellion, insisting on the gift despite their mom’s protests, paints a vivid picture of a kid yearning for validation in a home where they feel like an afterthought. It’s a story that hooks readers with its relatable struggle, setting the stage for a deeper look at standing up for oneself.

‘AITA for still wanting the present from my dad even after my mom has protested me getting it saying its “unfair”?’

My parents got a divorce when I was like 5 or something, my mom remarried almost instantly and since my dad's living arrangement isn't the best (he lives in an apartment) I live full time with my mom but visit my dad regularly but don't stay there for more than a day if my mom lets me.

My mom's husband has a total of 4 kids, 3 girls and 1 boy, the girls are 18, 16 and 12 and the boy is 17. My mom has also had a kid with him who is my half sister who is now 10, I am 17. I don't really like my step family,

I get along alright with them and my half sister looks up to me the most but I feel a bit left out cause other than her I don't really got any blood relation to any of them and I feel like an outcast. I spend a lot of time just by myself in my room or out with friends cause of it.

My dad said that he's gonna buy me a TV for my room which is awesome cause I do have a tv but its an old one that barely works and I've asked my mom for one but she isn't budging and says its too expensive. While my step siblings are all getting LED TVs in their room and I'm stuck with basically an early 2000s tv that has like 5 channels.

My mom found out about my dad giving me the TV and is mad that its unfair I get such a bit present but my 'siblings' don't. I am kinda mad cause they all got TVs one christmas while the thing I got was a football jersey that was maybe 65 bucks.

I still want my dad to give me the TV cause ill set it up and all and think its ridiculous for my mom to preach 'unfairness' when I'm the one who feels like an outcast  and gets pushed to the side for them and now that I get ONE thing that makes me feel not like an afterthought and it gets fought he most on.

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I told my mom that I'm getting the tv and ill set it up and that call it her christmas present as well cause she doesn't have to get me anything either. That shut her up but I can see she is still mad at my dad.. AITA for wanting the tv my dad promised me for christmas even tho my mom is against it?

Family dynamics in blended households can feel like navigating a maze with no map. This teen’s story highlights the tension of feeling sidelined while craving fairness. Their mom’s protest over the TV gift, citing unfairness to step-siblings, overlooks the teen’s sense of isolation in a home dominated by their stepfamily. Meanwhile, the dad’s gift represents a rare moment of recognition, which the teen clings to fiercely.

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Blended families often face challenges with fairness. A 2022 study from the American Psychological Association notes that 60% of children in blended families feel less prioritized than step-siblings. The mom’s focus on equal treatment ignores the teen’s emotional needs, while the dad’s gesture aligns with his role as a supportive parent, unbound by obligations to step-siblings.

Dr. Patricia Papernow, a blended family expert, states, “Stepparents and parents must validate each child’s unique experience to foster belonging”. Here, the mom’s objection risks alienating the teen further. The teen’s insistence on the TV is a healthy assertion of their needs.

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For solutions, the teen could initiate a calm discussion with their mom, expressing feelings of exclusion while affirming their right to the gift. Encouraging open dialogue can rebuild trust.

Heres what people had to say to OP:

Reddit users didn’t hold back, dishing out support with a side of sass for this teen’s plight. Here’s a taste of the community’s spicy takes, straight from the digital watercooler:

Wallflowerheart − NTA. Your parents got divorced, that means your mom doesn't really have a say in the gifts your dad gets you. Especially if it's not dangerous.. If he wants to give you a TV, great. It's not your problem what your siblings get.

Poplett − NTA - Your mom is a huge one though. I don't know why parents are so unfair sometimes.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. I am a mom and stepmom in a situation with a blended family. My stepkids have very generous grandparents who take them on vacations and buy them gifts. My kids do not get these things. I just explain to my kids that things aren't always fair, and that it's not their stepsiblings' fault that the other gparents take them on expensive vacations.

I try to do special things with each of my kids, and then we all do special things as a family together. No one gets special treatment in my house because I see how it hurts feelings, but I can't control other folks, and it's senseless to be mad at someone for giving a gift.. TLDR: accept the TV and tell your dad thank you. Your mom needs to get over herself.

Redqueenhypo − NTA. Lady Tremaine can either step off or get you a tv herself.

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never-get-it-right − NTA, He has no obligation to your step-siblings and if he wants to get you something why shouldn’t he

[Reddit User] − NTA its your dads choice and your mom is already being unfair by giving your siblings LED TVs. She doesn't control what your dad gives.

[Reddit User] − NTA. Why would it be unfair for you to have a new TV when your step siblings all have newer TVs then your current one? Anyways, as you already have one in your room, I don't see the issue with it. Your mum is being unreasonable.

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SouthernGent19 − NTA....Do you step siblings only get gifts from their mother or her family? Does your step father not buy them things so everything is “fair”

[Reddit User] − NTA - why is she against you getting a tv when your siblings are all getting one??? Dafuq. just cos of your dad? That's petty. I would have a conversation with her about how you feel like an outcast and maybe live with dad?

Dachshundmom5 − NTA 1) An apt doesn't mean you can't see your dad and that really doesn't mean your mom gets to dictate how long the visits are for 2) you are 17 yrs old. Your dad bought you a present. She should not dictate anything about it 3) your dad has nothing to do with your step siblings or half sibling. What he does does not impact them.. I'm sorry for you situation.

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These Reddit hot takes are bold, but do they miss the mark on the mom’s perspective? Is she petty, or just trying to keep the peace?

This teen’s story shines a light on the tricky balance of fairness and belonging in blended families. Their stand to accept the TV, despite their mom’s protests, is a quiet cry for recognition in a home where they feel overlooked. It leaves us wondering: how do you claim your space when family dynamics tilt against you? Share your thoughts—what would you do if a gift meant to make you feel seen sparked a family feud?

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