AITA for snapping back at someone who kept asking where I got my “boob job”?

A routine doctor’s visit turned tense for a new mom, cornered by a stranger’s nosy questions. In a quiet waiting room, with soft light streaming through windows, she sat, hyper-aware of her postpartum body. A woman’s stare became a blunt probe about a “boob job,” ignoring her truth.

Her sharp retort, born of frustration, lit up Reddit, resonating with anyone who’s faced unwanted scrutiny. This story of clashing boundaries and raw emotion pulls us into the struggle of postpartum life—where every comment stings.

‘AITA for snapping back at someone who kept asking where I got my “boob job”?’

So I was at the doctors this morning. Important thing to note is that I recently had a baby so my boobs look comically big on my tiny body. I was sitting in the waiting room and this woman kept staring at me. Eventually the conversation was as follows.. Her: where did you get those done they look so natural?. Me: excuse me?

Her: your boobs. They look so real but obviously there not. I've been trying to find a good plastic surgeon but I think I want to go to yours.. Me: I've never had a boob job. Her: come on look at the size of you. Noone your size has boobs that big. Itll be our secret but please just tell me.. Me: I've literally never had a boob job. I just had a baby. Now please stop bothering me.

Her: I was just asking. You dont have to make up a ridiculous story to hide it. You've clearly not had a baby because your tiny. You dont look like you've just had a baby.. I was getting pretty annoyed at this point. I feel like noone should comment on anyone's body. Me: look I've already asked you politely to leave me alone. But it seems like you dont understand common courtesy.

I've never had a damn boob job. So stop pestering me and leave me the f**k alone.. Her: well you dont have to be so rude about it. I told my partner about the woman after I came out and while he agreed she shouldn't have kept pressing the issue I shouldn't have escalated the situation by swearing. I've had really bad self image issues since I gave birth.

Most of my clothes dont fit anymore. None of my bras fit me. Alot of the nice tops I had now dont go over my boobs or if they do they're extremely uncomfortable to wear. And having someone point out that flaw I see in myself especially right now when I'm still basically a bag of hormones just pushed me over the edge.. AITA here?

This waiting-room clash exposes the raw nerve of personal boundaries. For a new mom, grappling with postpartum changes, intrusive comments hit hard. The stranger’s refusal to accept her childbirth explanation deepened her discomfort, reflecting a broader issue: judging women’s bodies without context.

Dr. Jessica Zucker, a reproductive health psychologist, says, “Postpartum women are often hyper-aware of their changing bodies, and external comments can amplify insecurity” (HuffPost, 2020). A 2019 APA study notes 1 in 3 women face unwanted appearance-based remarks, impacting mental health.

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The mom’s heated response was a stand for her truth. Experts suggest setting boundaries early with a firm, “I’d rather not discuss my body.” If ignored, escalation is fair.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Reddit delivered a mix of fiery support and witty jabs for the mom. Here’s what they said:

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[Reddit User] − NTA. Pester a new mom, get snapped at. That’s life.

SlytherClaw3 − NTA. She didn't stop pestering you. You told her the reason why they're big and she just flat out accused you of lying about having a baby. Just because you have a tiny body. Plus, she's a freaking stranger! Absolutely NTA.

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[Reddit User] − Why does your boyfriend think that you shouldn't have escalated this situation by swearing? How else we're you supposed to stop this woman from harassing you? Swear words exist for exactly this kind of situation.

lukibunny − Nta I would have asked back and ask where she got her face done so you can avoid it.

Dragaril − NTA Some people need that kind of reaction or they never shut up. She was the rude one for interfering your private space. You should have spattered some milk on her!

pthepuff − NTA Never feel bad about telling people to stop commenting on your body. It's yours and that behavior is weird and rude.

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DoctaBoogie − NTA! First, even if you DID get a boob job it STILL WOULDNT BE OKAY TO ASK AND PESTER YOU. Second, Im sure your husband is a wonderful man, but F**K the mentality that a woman is not allowed to defend herself and cuss. You were rightfully angry and annoyed and expressed it perfectly.

UsernameMustBeShorte − That definitely happened

TheShowJaguar − NTA. It sounds like she is jealous and doesn’t want to accept that a small waist and large breasts can actually occur in nature.

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Alert-Potato − NTA - frankly, I don’t think it’s out of line to respond to the *first* intrusive question about your body to be along the lines of “excuse the f**k out of me” or “what the f**k?” You had far more patience with that a**hole than any person should need to have with such a line of questioning.

These spicy Reddit takes range from righteous to cheeky—but do they miss nuance? Is snapping the only way, or is there a better approach?

This mom’s story lays bare the sting of unsolicited comments, especially in the vulnerable postpartum haze. It sparks a conversation about respecting boundaries and rethinking body talk. How would you handle a stranger’s persistent probing? Share your thoughts or clapback stories below—let’s keep the discussion going!

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