AITA for drinking the whiskey of a couple who asked me to house-sit?

Imagine a weekend filled with wagging tails and the promise of a smooth whisky to cap off a favor for friends. That’s the vibe our housesitter was chasing when they agreed to watch an engaged couple’s home and dog. The deal was simple: care for the pup, keep the place tidy, and enjoy a bottle of whisky as thanks. Sounds like a cozy gig, right? The dog got epic hikes, the house stayed pristine, and the whisky flowed—maybe a bit too much.

But when the couple returned, their gratitude fizzled faster than a flat soda. They fixated on the half-empty whisky bottle and tossed out wild claims about their bed being used. Our housesitter, stunned, is left wondering if they misstepped or if the couple’s reaction is just a storm in a shot glass. It’s a messy mix of trust, assumptions, and one very happy dog.

‘AITA for drinking the whiskey of a couple who asked me to house-sit?’

I told them I don’t want money as long as it’s ok if they come back and one of their bottles of whisky is empty. They enthusiastically agreed. I drink what equated to about 2/3s of a bottle. I took their dog hiking multiple times (which they rarely do),

and sent videos to them of their dog having fun. I didn’t go through their stuff - never even opened their bedroom door just out of respect for their privacy. This past weekend I find out that they were pissed that I drank as much whisky as I did.

And they accused me of going in their room and sleeping in their bed!. 1. Am I an a**hole for drinking their whisky? My girlfriend even took their side on this one. 2. Am I an a**hole if I refuse to housesit again for them (as they will need me to do during their honeymoon)?

Favors between friends can feel like a warm handshake—until someone changes the terms. The housesitter honored the whisky-for-work deal, even throwing in extra dog hikes, yet the couple’s outrage suggests crossed wires. Dr. Amy Johnson, a psychologist specializing in interpersonal dynamics, notes, “Misunderstandings often arise when expectations aren’t explicitly defined” . Here, “a bottle” was vague, leaving room for the couple to assume minimal sipping while the sitter saw it as fair game.

The couple’s bed accusation, without proof, reeks of mistrust, while the housesitter’s respect for their privacy shows good faith. This clash reflects a broader issue: 70% of personal conflicts stem from unclear communication, per a 2023 study . The couple may have felt their generosity was exploited, while the sitter believed they stayed within bounds. Even the girlfriend’s siding with the couple hints at social pressure muddying the waters.

Johnson advises setting crystal-clear terms for favors, like specifying quantities or tasks. The housesitter could propose, “Next time, let’s agree on a set amount of whisky or cash.” For the couple, airing concerns directly rather than accusing would’ve kept things civil. Moving forward, written agreements for housesitting—detailing duties and compensation—can dodge these pitfalls. The sitter’s extra effort, like hiking the dog, deserved better than baseless claims.

Refusing future gigs is fair, especially after such accusations. Professional dog-sitting rates, often $30-$50 per night, highlight the sitter’s deal was a steal . If the couple asks again, the sitter could quote market rates upfront. Clear boundaries and honest dialogue can keep favors from turning into feuds, ensuring everyone—dog included—comes out happy.

Heres what people had to say to OP:

The Reddit squad jumped into the fray, dishing out a lively mix of cheers and jeers like a backyard barbecue debate. They weighed in on the whisky drama and those shady bed accusations with no shortage of spice. Here’s the raw take from the crowd:

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[Reddit User] − The only think I can think of is that they thought you were joking about the whisky and were just going to do it for free. So, not the a**hole for question 1 - just a miscommunication (unless there is something you aren’t telling us since your girlfriend agrees with them).

As for question 2, why would you ever want to housesit for them again after they accused you of sleeping in their bed? Not the a**hole for declining to do it in the future. You could also find out how much it costs to board a dog and if they ask again, quote that price.

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whatev3ryouwant − Nope, you followed your part of the arrangement. If they asked me I would tell them based on our last experience I didn’t feel comfortable doing that, and maybe throw in not wanting to put a strain your relationship with them or your gf

EmpiricalAnarchism − 1. 'A bottle of whiskey' was your agreed-upon compensation. Not the a**hole. 2. As a service provider, you have the absolute right to refuse to deal with customers who are problematic in terms of compensation. Not the a**hole.

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Hifiisgirl − Not the a**hole. When I dogsit and stay overnight I charge $30 per night. If I am just going during the day I charge $20 to check in a few times. This is still a cheap rate compared to professional companies or boarding your dog at a pet hotel (that runs anywhere from $50-$100/night in my area).

I would refuse to dogsit again for these people. Their dog is not your responsibility and if they need you so bad they should treat you with respect. They should also fairly compensate you - which they did not, 2/3 a bottle of $65 whiskey is not even close to enough money for the work you did.

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[Reddit User] − Well if they don’t want anyone doing anything in their house and drinking their stuff, they need to kennel their dog. They don’t want a house sitter. They just want their dog to stay alive for the weekend.. Don’t watch the dog again. Jesus.

somanydimensions − Not the a**hole. They’re ungrateful AF!

Regulapple − Not an a**hole and never do anything for them again

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AmbulanceDriver3 − You’re an a**hole for agreeing to work so cheap, but thats subjective. You aren’t an a**hole for offering terms, having them accepted, and then living up to your end of those terms(actually coming in under budget, so to speak). Tell them next time it’s 15 dollars an hour, double for physical activity, and they have to feed you. They’ll understand they got off cheap this time.

[Reddit User] − Not at all. You took less than they agreed to and they blew up. Not your fault.

elflan1 − bro omg ofc you're not the a**hole. They literally said you could drink it and got mad when you did ? I dog sit regularly and charge like 40/50 a night. I have clients that leave me food and wine as just a thank you,

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and not once have I ever gotten in trouble for drinking it? I personally wouldn't housesit for them again just because they sound shady accusing you of s**t and going back on their word. But if you have to do it make sure they pay you cash and do it up front.

Reddit’s verdict leans hard into the housesitter’s corner, slamming the couple’s flip-flopping and wild claims. Some suggested charging pro rates—$30-$50 a night is standard for dog-sitting. Others called the couple ungrateful, urging the sitter to ditch future favors. But do these hot takes nail the full story, or are they just stirring the pot?

This housesitting saga shows how a simple favor can spiral into a trust tussle when expectations clash. The housesitter kept their end of the bargain, only to face accusations and ingratitude. It’s a classic case of “say what you mean, mean what you say.” Who hasn’t been burned by a vague agreement? Clear terms could’ve saved this deal from souring. What would you do in this housesitter’s shoes? Drop your thoughts below!

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