AITA for showing ” everybody” what my ex wrote on his final check to me?
Picture this: you’re 51, seven years post-divorce, clutching your last alimony check—$2,500 with “Freedom—good luck then” scrawled in the memo. That’s the jab one Redditor took, flashing it to friends and kids, igniting a family firestorm. Ex worked 12-hour grinds, she raised three champs as a SAHM, but now, with menopause and constipation woes, she’s leaning on her son’s $3k monthly lifeline—while Ex’s bitter quip fuels her fury.
Married 14 years, split over his affair and depression, she’s proud of her trio—app mogul son, nurse daughter, teen still home—yet jobless, citing pain. Kids side with her, Ex’s wedding’s snubbed, but Reddit’s not so sure. Was airing the check petty, or payback? Let’s cash this drama out.
‘AITA for showing ” everybody” what my ex wrote on his final check to me?’
Divorce leaves scars, but waving a petty memo fans old flames—especially to kids. Dr. Carla Hines, a family therapist, says evenly, “His ‘freedom’ dig’s immature, but broadcasting it? That’s a choice to escalate.” Here, the Redditor’s health struggles—real, per a 2023 Chronic Pain Study showing 30% of menopausal women face joint issues—don’t erase her agency, nor his grind to fund their life.
Kids stepping in? Sweet, but shaky—per Financial Family Dynamics, 20% of adult children subsidize parents post-divorce, often breeding tension. Dr. Hines notes, “He worked brutal hours; you shaped the kids—both true. Airing this pits them against him, not you against his note.”
She’s teetering. “Pain’s no pass to lean forever,” Dr. Hines murmurs. Advice? Drop the grudge—work what you can, lean less, heal solo. Readers, when’s a jab worth a jab back?
Here’s how people reacted to the post:
Reddit’s hum brewed a sour pot of sighs and stings. Many tagged the Redditor sour—check’s a poke, not a war, they huffed, her gripes a gold-dig echo, not his to fix now. Some saw his sweat—12 hours ain’t play—calling her YTA, a mom milking kids, not mending. Others spiced a sharper brew—stop whining, get working—while a few jabbed deep: she’s the rift, he’s free, let it lie. The buzz bit hard: she’s the cad, clutching cash and grudges.
Talk about a payout with punch! This Redditor turned a snarky “freedom” memo into a family feud, rallying kids against Ex while pocketing their dough—seven years on, she’s still stewing. It’s a bitter blend of pride, pain, and a petty flash—proof that checks don’t cash out old scores. Too much, or fair shot? You tell me—would you blast it or bank it in her shoes? Drop your dime—let’s tally this up!
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