AITA for selling my house and not renewing the lease of a family with a sick child?

A quiet suburban street, where a cozy rental home stands, becomes the stage for a heart-wrenching dilemma. A landlord, faced with a lucrative offer, decides to sell his inherited property, pulling the rug out from under a family grappling with their young son’s terminal illness. The decision ripples through their lives, leaving raw emotions and moral questions in its wake. The landlord’s choice—profit over compassion—stirs unease, as his wife’s icy silence and Reddit’s fiery reactions highlight a clash between legal rights and human empathy.

The family, tethered to a hospice three hours away, faces an impossible task: packing up their lives while cherishing fleeting moments with their dying child. Readers can’t help but feel the weight of their despair, wondering if a windfall justifies adding to their burden. This story, raw and real, invites us to explore where responsibility ends and kindness begins, tugging at heartstrings with every detail.

‘AITA for selling my house and not renewing the lease of a family with a sick child?’

I (47M) inherited a property from my father 11 years ago. For the past five years I’ve been renting the house to a nice family with a young child (5M). They’ve been great tenants and there haven’t been any issues. A month ago I was approached by a realtor about selling my property.

He had a buyer who was interested and was ready to offer $60,000 over market because of the location. This was an opportunity I couldn’t pass up. My tenants have a lease through mid March. I’ve always renewed every year around this time. I contacted the husband, Michael, and let him know I would not be renewing this time.

To say that he was upset was an understatement. It turns out that he and his wife are currently in hospice with their son who has a terminal heart condition. The doctors have given him a month or two to live. I knew the boy was sick but I never knew it was so serious.

Michael told me that there is no way right now that they can pack up the house and find a new rental in time. The hospice where they are currently in residence is over three hours away and he thinks it’s terribly unfair that I expect him to sacrifice any of the time he has left with their son in order to move. He called me a heartless s**iopath.

I suggested that they have a family member take care of the packing and finding a new place but the only family they have around is the wife’s elderly father (I’m not sure that I believe this because they are too young to only have one parent between them and I’m sure there are siblings somewhere).

I then suggested they hire a moving company to handle the packing and try to find a rental online, or possibly an Airbnb for awhile. He claims he can’t afford a moving company because of the son’s medical expenses. I feel bad about the situation and realize I’m making things harder for them but it’s not my responsibility to take care of them.

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I’ve given them the legally required notice. My wife thinks that because of the money I’ll be making that I should offer to pay for a moving company and an Airbnb after they leave the hospice. I don’t want to do this because it would cost me a big chunk

of the profit from selling the house and again, their situation is not my responsibility. This is the risk people take when they rent. My wife is now giving me the cold shoulder.. So, AITA for selling my house and not renewing the lease of a family with a sick child?.

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Edit. The purchase agreement has been signed. I’m not selling to a developer but to a family that needs to move to the area for their son’s schooling. I’ll call the buyer and explain the situation and then, if they choose, they can contact the tenants and make arrangements.

Selling a home can feel like a golden ticket, but when tenants are in crisis, it’s a moral minefield. The landlord’s decision to prioritize a $60,000 profit over a family’s dire situation highlights a broader issue: the tension between property rights and human compassion. Legally, he’s in the clear, but ethically? That’s where the ground gets shaky. Reddit users didn’t hold back, and neither does common decency.

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The family’s predicament—caring for a terminally ill child while facing eviction—underscores a societal challenge. According to a 2021 report from the National Low Income Housing Coalition, over 7 million renters in the U.S. face housing instability, often exacerbated by unexpected life events like illness (National Low Income Housing Coalition). This family’s story isn’t unique, but it’s a gut-punch reminder of how landlord decisions can amplify personal tragedies.

Dr. John Gottman, a renowned psychologist specializing in family dynamics, once said, “Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another, which is critical in relationships” (The Gottman Institute). Here, the landlord’s dismissal of the tenants’ plight—doubting their lack of family support or suggesting costly solutions like hiring movers—shows a gap in empathy. His focus on profit over people risks alienating not just his tenants but his own wife, who sees the human cost he’s ignoring.

For solutions, communication is key. The landlord could negotiate with the buyer for a delayed move-in or offer a small portion of the profit to cover moving costs, easing the family’s transition. These steps, rooted in compassion, don’t erase his rights but show humanity.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

The Reddit crew didn’t mince words, serving up a spicy mix of empathy and outrage. Here’s what they had to say:

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PsiBlaze − It's a tough call.. In terms of business, I get it. Greed is a thing.. But you can't blame your wife for seeing you differently.. You just showed her your true character.. Going with my heart, YTA

[Reddit User] − YTA. You aren’t “making things harder for them” you are potentially making them miss time with a child who won’t be here for long. You are well within your right to do so and probably won’t give it another thought once the money hits your bank account. It sounds like your wife is a different kind of person, and good for her.. Also, people aren’t taking a “risk” by renting, they probably just haven’t inherited homes from their rich daddies.

[Reddit User] − Your humanity only costs $60,000. Good to know.

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upset_pachyderm − It is possible to be well within your rights, and also an a**hole. Not easy, but possible. And you have achieved this. Congratulations, YTA! Edit: Thanks for the awards and the upvotes! I wouldn't have believed that 10k people would see this, let alone upvote it.

jennyfromtheeblock − YTA. Legally fine. Morally f**king bankrupt. Absolutely horrible thing to do to someone. There are not enough words for how horrible this is.

sheramom4 − INFO: Did you send them written notice of the selling of the property and when they needed to be out by? A phone call doesn't count in most places. It has to be a legal written notice. You have other options here beyond 'not my problem.' There is the option your wife gave.

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There is also contacting the realtor or buyers and asking for a grace period for your tenants given the circumstances. You could set up a fundraiser, ask them what they need to make the transition, etc. Some compassion would go a long way. Also comments about their family or lack thereof are unnecessary. You don't know their family makeup.

They could both be only children, they could have had a lot of loss in their lives early on.. YWBTA if you do not at least try some other options. QUICK EDIT: A lot of states have enacted laws making it a legal obligation for the owner of the home to pay for moving expenses if they are selling the home and use it as rental income. Did you look at new state laws and make sure you were in the clear?

CabotCoveCoven − YTA a**hole, this literally a plot point in Scrooge.

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Bright_Ad_3690 − YTA this is cruel. True story, we did not raise the rent on our tenant after her child died. Just couldn't bring ourselves to do that while she was rebuilding her life. Still don't regret being kind. What goes around comes around.

RaeRae_5000 − YTA. Whoa this one got me. Do you lack all empathy? Do you have children? If not, what if it was your wife on hospice and someone did this to you? Just because “it’s not your responsibility” doesn’t mean you have to be such a heartless AH. This makes me pretty sick tbh. You can always find a buyer. Do the right thing.

Will you be able to sleep at night knowing you have added misery and stress to this poor family whose life has been turned upside down? Could you live with yourself knowing you took precious time away from their child so you could force them to uproot so you can have an extra 60 grand in your bank? You suck. So tired of people who put profit over people.

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unknown_928121 − I suggested that they have a family member take care of the packing and finding a new place but the only family they have around is the wife’s elderly father (I’m not sure that I believe this because they are too young to only have one parent between them and I’m sure there are siblings somewhere). Seriously, you think someone's age deternines whether they could have lost family members? YTA

These Redditors tore into the landlord’s choice, some calling it heartless while others urged practical solutions like legal notices or buyer negotiations. But do their fiery takes capture the full picture, or are they just stoking the drama?

This tale of profit versus compassion leaves a lingering question: where do we draw the line between business and humanity? The landlord’s legal right to sell doesn’t erase the family’s heartbreak, and Reddit’s chorus of disapproval echoes a call for empathy. Balancing personal gain with others’ suffering is a tightrope walk we all face in some form. What would you do if you were in the landlord’s shoes—cash in or extend a lifeline? Share your thoughts and experiences below.

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