AITA for selling my Eras Tour tickets instead of giving them to my sister in law?

A pregnant woman sold her two Eras Tour tickets for $4,000 instead of handing them to her sister-in-law, sparking a family rift that ended their close friendship. The 31-year-old from San Diego had invited her 29-year-old sister-in-law to the Vancouver show despite knowing she wasn’t a huge Taylor Swift fan.

What makes the story more complicated is the timing: with a due date of December 7, the concert on December 6 became impossible, yet her sister-in-law flipped from refusing the tickets to claiming them for her nail tech without offering payment. Now facing radio silence and a skipped baby shower, she wonders if profiting off the sale makes her the asshole.

‘AITA for selling my Eras Tour tickets instead of giving them to my sister in law?’

The poster scored Eras Tour tickets and invited her sister-in-law despite mismatched fandom.

I’m 31 f living in San Diego. About a year ago I got two tickets to Taylor Swift’s Eras Tour for this December in Vancouver, Canada.

My sister in law (29 f) has never been a huge Taylor Swift fan (she even was offered a chance to go to the Eras Tour last year but said...

Pregnancy forced a change of plans, and the sister-in-law initially declined the free tickets.

Fast forward a couple of months and I am now expecting a baby. The concert is December 6 and my due date is December 7. At first I was adamant...

I offered to let her have the tickets if she wanted to take her daughter who is a big Taylor swift fan and she said she didn’t want to go...

The sister-in-law suddenly claimed the tickets for someone else, leading to the sale.

A couple weeks go by and I tell her I’m thinking about just selling my tickets and she tells me shes still going with or without me and that her...

and not hers to be deciding who is using them (she never even offered to pay me face value for them). Long story short I end up selling the tickets...

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We were pretty much best friends before this. She doesn’t reply to anything I send her about the baby (ultrasound pics etc), stopped sharing her location, and now is looking...

Selling high-demand concert tickets at market value isn’t inherently wrong, but it exposes raw entitlement when family expects handouts worth thousands. The poster’s sister-in-law rejected the tickets twice—once last year, again when offered for her daughter—only to pivot when resale profits became clear, revealing opportunism over loyalty. What makes the story more complicated is the power shift: the poster controlled an asset, and her decision to monetize it for maternity leave clashed with unspoken family norms.

Opposing views frame the poster as a scalper profiting off fans, especially since she didn’t originally buy to resell. Some argue she could have traded dates or gifted them quietly. Yet this ignores her financial reality and the sister-in-law’s presumption in assigning the second ticket without payment or permission.

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Broader social dynamics spotlight how celebrity events like the Eras Tour amplify greed and resentment in relationships. As consumer behavior expert Kit Yarrow explains in Decoding the New Consumer Mind, “Scarcity drives irrational behavior; people feel entitled to limited resources simply through proximity, leading to fractured bonds when access is denied.”

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Many users back the poster, highlighting her sister-in-law’s flip-flopping entitlement.

IamIrene − I offered to let her have the tickets if she wanted to take her daughter she said she didn’t want to go if I wasn’t going. I tell...

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and that her nail tech wants to go First she won't go without you then she invites her nail tech? ? That's massively presumptuous, especially since she didn't contribute to...

Your SIL got greedy and you have a backbone so. ..her loss, lol. Your tickets, your rules. Congrats on the baby *and* the big lump of money you got for...

willikersmister − NTA. She already said she didn't want them. She can't just assume you'll hold onto them indefinitely in case she changes her mind.

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Fleurtheleast − "I ended up selling the tickets for $4000" So your SIL who isn't a big Swiftie, so much so that she wasn't willing to go without you, suddenly...

And you say you were able to sell the tickets for $4k? Huh...I wonder if SIL got word of just how much people are willing to pay for those tickets...

SunshineShoulders87 − NTA - it wasn’t a big deal to her until her nail tech got excited about the tickets. She should have offered you a fair price for both...

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[Reddit User] − NTA. You already offered her the tickets, and she said no. If she didn't pay for hers in the first place, I don't know why she feels...

Some users criticize the resale profit, calling out scalping behavior on both sides.

CodexAnima − Look, those were your tickets. You had the right to sell, give away, trade, etcs. Just two things make YTA. 1) Scalpers for this can burn. You sold...

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2) Why didn't you trade them for a Miami date, if you wanted to see it? You were not obligated to give her the tickets. But you made yourself part...

mrsrossmrrachel − I stopped reading when you said you sold the tickets for $4000. YTA for that.

Exotic_Abalone_1266 − Greedy Scalper is all I'm thinking about. You're definitely TA for that. Your SiL is also an entitled AH. She probably wanted to also be a greedy scalper....

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A couple of users keep it light, focusing on the absurdity of the drama.

Frankensteins_Kid − NTA she said she didn’t want to go if I wasn’t going. she tells me shes still going with or without me Which one is it?

And the fact that she decided to take her nail tech instead of her daughter tells me that she's probably trying to get a better deal for her next appointment....

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Own_Lack_4526 − NTA. Your SIL should be happy for you that you were able to pull $4000 out of those tickets when you have a baby on the way. If...

And then to just invite someone else to use your other ticket without asking you? Let alone the fact that she wants to take her nail tech instead of her...

The poster prioritized her growing family’s needs by turning unobtainable concert tickets into maternity funds, only to face ghosting from a sister-in-law who expected free access to a $4,000 windfall. Her clear offers and the sister-in-law’s contradictory stances underscore ownership rights over gifts.

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Have you ever sold something a family member felt entitled to? How do high-demand events like the Eras Tour change dynamics in your circle—tell us below?

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